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Q: Please Help I Am Going Through a Very Hard Time Right Now!

asked by: elderboy10 on November 10th, 2007

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Hey I am writing this Because i think i am very mentally depressed. There is only one reason i canthink of f which is causing it and that is love.

I am 13 years old and when i was 8 and in year 5 i had a girl friend, i then saw this girl who i fell in love with during that relationship. i dumped the girl the next day and i later found out this girl was one of my older brothers best mates and was 3 years older than me.
I have waited for 4 years now to try and be with her it was earlier this year i met this guy who i'm now great mates with who helped me talk to the girl and i found out that she had a boyfriend, when ever she came on msn i would talk to her and she would ocasionly talk back.

but last month something happened. she came online and were it used to say --loving matt for ever-- it now said -heart broken in her screen name. i began to talk to her even though i knew she didnt really like me, about 5 minutes later she blocked me.

now this girls boyfriend new i fancied her and began to start to freten and even waited for me outside school one day and he said if i ever laid eyes on her again i would be dead. me and my friend thought the only reason she blocked me was that i had split them up.

after that i lost all contact with her and and cant bring up the courage to talk to her at school. i am getting really depressed over it and have found out i have given up many hobbies like , football,warhammer online games,rugby and listening to music.

i have also become really aggressive because the other day i beat up my best mate for calling me emo as a joke when i tried to tell him i think i suffer from a deppresion disorder. i used to be quite a kind boy but for some reason my friends are scared of me.

this deppresion has ruined my life and i think the only way to stop it is if i can talk to this girl but i have no courage at all.

please i really need help as i'm writing this i am crying

the only people that know about me fancying the girl are Two of my best mates and the girl. only the two best mates know i suffer from deppresionn.

please help!

and by the way if you need anymore information i will be happy to give it to you Crying or Very sad

Replies(58)

elderboy10

replied on November 12th, 2007

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Plz Post

ppl plz post Sad

CarolDiane

replied on November 12th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Elderboy10

Sounds like you headed for a fall. I would suggest that you see a counsler before this gets any worse.You are still so very young. You should not have to go through this yet. Puppy love is real, and don't let anyone tell you differently. You have to try not to hybernate yourself and get out and meet kids your age. Staying home is not helping matters any. I hate to see someone your age having to go through this. Relationships are one of the hardest things to get over. But, you have to try and put it behind you and move on. I'll bet there are many girs out there that would not mind a close relationship with you. You sound like a very smart person. So, be smart enough to know when to let go.
And by all means, stay away from her boyfriend! I don't think you would look good in the color red.
Carrie

marvel

replied on November 12th, 2007

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Thank you, elderboy for coming to ehealth. I hope talking to people on here can help you!

I think that it's best to start to disengage from the situation. By blocking you on msn, the girl gave you the message that she doesn't want to talk. And, as MsSky sya, stay away from the boyfriend. You're already in enough emotional pain.. you don't need any physical pain to go with it.

Trust me on this one: it might seem as though your world is irrepairably shaken up right now... with depression and how this situation has panned out... BUT things will get better. This is just an instance to help you learn for the next time!

If you can somehow find a counselor or therapist to talk to at school or privately, I'd strongly recommend it. They can give you many suggestions as to what action to take to slowly get over all of this. Please keep us updated. We'll always be here to talk!!

replied on November 12th, 2007

New User

Maybe you could switch schools and start over again.

CarolDiane

replied on November 12th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I have to disagree with the above post. You can't keep running away from you problems, because it can't be done. The problem lies within ones self. Untill you get to the core of what it is, you can run to kingdom come and never find yourself. Face the music and stay where you are and change the things that need changing in you life. That is the only healthy way to go about it.

Carrie

elderboy10