Zanny
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Last Night
Posted: 11-10-07 06:51am
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I know the last post I made was a whiney
one & it only got a few replies
(unsurprisingly) but I seriously have
no-one else to talk to.
Last night at work it was so busy (I work
in a pub), & I thought my boss was a
nice guy.. until I saw his true colours. I
understand that he had to be rushing round
serving people but he was just plain NASTY
to me. It was only my third night working
there & I'd never met any of the other
bar staff, so last night I met another
barmaid who my manager had talked about
& he'd even said "she'll help you out
if you need anything".. well she was
anything but helpful. I didn't know what a
bottle of cider went in the till as,
because some drinks aren't programmed in
on there, so I asked her & she just
looked at me like I was stupid. Then she
kept purposely getting in my way &
said "you look nervous" to me. So I said
"I am" (I was nearly in tears at this
point) & she went "don't be so fucking
stupid".
Customers were rude to me, my manager got
my name wrong & he actually prodded my
arm while he shouted at me because I did
something wrong & the other barmaid
just made fun of me. I couldn't handle it
& I started hyperventilating behind
the bar & I fainted. When I came round
my boss took me to the back room &
fired me.
So I did a lot of crying last night. I
feel like a total failure.. I've let
everyone down. All I've done lately is
worry, & now I have yet another thing
to worry about. I haven't eaten in about 4
days (probably why I fainted) & yet I
don't feel hungry at all.
Jonny's moving here on friday, but he's
miserable because he's leaving his friends
behind, so he's hardly talking to me. I'm
sorry for making this post but everything
feels hopeless & I just needed to
vent.
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Emma2
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Posted: 11-10-07 07:07am
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You are not the failure here. That bar and
everyone in it is a failure. You did what
you are supposed to do, Ask for help when
in need. The customers are rude in every
type of business don't worry about them.
So jonny isn't happy about moving there
for you guys? I do get hwat he is feeling
and more so i get what you feel . I think
you guys should really , really have a
heart to heart on expectations, needs and
wants..
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Jules
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Posted: 11-10-07 07:11am
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Oh Zanny! I'm so sorry! I would have had
the same thing happen to me - if people
gang up on me like that I can't handle it,
I hate confontation. I would have fainted
too.
Please don't take their behaviour
personally. It's nothing to do with you -
it sounds like that's the kind of
personality you have to have to work in
that particular place. Take it as a
compliment that you didn't fit in there.
Behaviour like that is usually down to
jealousy, seriously, so you obviously
struck a raw nerve with them by being such
an attractive woman.
Be careful you don't slide into an eating
problem. It's so easy to make food the
one thing you control in your life and
before you know it, you've got another big
problem...go eat a sandwich. I demand
it!
((((hugs))))
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Mommy35
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Posted: 11-10-07 07:47am
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Oh that is terrible! I agree with Jules,
don't take their behavior personally.
They probably treat everyone new that way
and it's probably why they need help.
I'm sure Jonny will make friends where you
are at and things will work out great.
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Becky
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Posted: 11-10-07 07:53am
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I can't believe he fired you! What a
tosser. Sounds like you are better off out
of there if that's what they are like
after only 3 days. Take yourself to the
jobcentre, explain your situation and see
if they can help you find work.
It's normal that Johnny would be upset at
moving. It's a huge step but he is proving
how much he loves you and Jenny.
Please please please start eating again.
You need your energy for Jenny. She needs
mummy to be fit and well.
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Zanny
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Posted: 11-10-07 08:26am
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Thank you so much ladies, I really
appreciate your support.
Jonny knows he's doing the right thing by
moving here, he's just upset at the moment
because he has to leave his best friends,
who he's known since before high school.
We've had lots of serious conversations
about it & he's 100% sure he's doing
the right thing.
I know I'm better off not working there,
but I'm still gutted that it all went
wrong. My parents think I should go there
& apologise & try getting the job
back, but I really don't think that's a
good idea.
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 11-10-07 08:31am
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I imagine it would be like that in a pub,
people are rough, rude and stupid. You're
not a failure, you're a better person who
isnt suited to that kind of job. I think
most pubs are like that, but there are the
more classy type bars like in restuarants
where it might be better.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-10-07 08:33am
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I can't believe they fired you! I hope
everything works out when Jonny's with
you. Moving away from friends is hard but
you and Jenny are worth it
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rosejackson
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Posted: 11-10-07 09:29am
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oh i'm sorry about your situation. i cant
believe they fired you! that was totally
out of order. i hope things work out for
the better soon x
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ThriftyGal
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Posted: 11-10-07 09:44am
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You are not a failure, and that girl had
no right to call you stupid. What an ugly
person.
I'm sorry it all went wrong, but I don't
think you should have been fired on your
third day at the job. Of course you
wouldn't know everything that soon on, and
what's so wrong with asking for help?
What a horrible experience... you need to
eat.
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 11-10-07 09:58am
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I'm sorry you had such a horrible night.
Sounds like that guy was a jerk. I'm sure
you can find something better. Johnny will
come around too. Change can be hard for
some people but when he gets there and
sees exactly what he's gaining he should
be much better. We're here to talk if you
need us.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 11-10-07 11:02am
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what jerks, that job obviously wasnt right
for you since the staff is so ignorant,
your far to sweet to waste your energy on
people like that. Dont worry youll find
another one and when Johnny gets there
itll be easier. Hell get over leaving his
friends, family is always more important
and hell figure it out when he gets to
wake up and see yall everyday.
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