Does anyone have an encouraging story to tell? Its been SUCH a hard last year. I have done so many weird things and lost so much of myself. Its just been horrible. I had so much fun at first. I felt so good emotionally. I was stable and over my other bad relationships. I felt solid. But all of the lying and money problems. The name calling. Treating me like a child. the distancing and the blaming. I just feel like I have given so much and she just keeps taking and taking... i really appreciate this site. It really does have alot of good advice but there is SO much negativity. I dont want to give up but I feel like I am a glutton for punishment and maybe giving her WAY to much benefit of the doubt. Like maybe I dont want to see what is really there in front of me...Im always thinking about her and do so many nice little things for her. Flowers, love letters, I mean its standard stuff but I go out of my way to do it and she never really returns the favor. I get up every morning and make her breakfast and coffee. Make her lunch for the day. Start her car so it heats up. i mean, that sounds pretty nice right? Its like its not enough, cuz she never returns the favor. Bummer. I am not doing it just so she will do it back, but a little recognition. A little encouragment goes a long way and shows that maybe it is appreciated instead of taken for granted.