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November 8th, 2007
Hey there, I was wondering if any of you lovely ladies could give me some advice about giving oral, I would like guys inputs too but I know they aren't allowed in this bit and I am not allowed in their chat bit...
Anyway, this is the situation:
I have given oral twice to the same guy and I really enjoy doing it and I know he likes it a lot, makes his toes go tingly and him lose feeling in his face, said it was the best feeling he had ever had without coming... so how do I make him come? He said I need more of a rhythm and to use my hand and mouth at the same time (we are always telling each other how to make our experiences better, wasn't just him being picky and annoying) but I can't do that, I just don't seem to be able to coordinate hand and mouth no matter how much I try, and its driving me bananas! I know you will probably say practice is key, but I am worried I will never be able to make it happen. Well not worried, more frustrated as I know I am good at the rest of it, just the coordination thing (at school I was made to learn drums, couldn't do it, feet and hands together just did not work, was also useless at aerobics). He even said himself that the stuff I was doing with my tongue especially felt amazing, he just couldn't come without more of a rhythm.
Any ideas? Confused Very Happy
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Rosie H
replied November 8th, 2007
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Ask him to use his hand with your mouth, Try to coordinate together. Maybe have him use is hand and you use only your mouth. Or ask him to put his hand over your hand and let him move your hand up and down his haft or have him squeeze your hand himself. Porno's really demenstrate for you.
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Pease Blossom
replied November 8th, 2007
Thanks Rosie, if I see him again (he is really busy with uni) I will suggest that. He put some porn on ages ago to show me how to give head but it just made me feel inferior so we turned it off. I am a bit silly like that.
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Rosie H
replied November 8th, 2007
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I completely understand how that can make you feel. I used to feel really bad. But it changed when I was the one wanting to learn. When he would try to tell me this is how you do it or show me movies or pictures it would make me feel bad. So you know what I did. I learned by myself. yep thats right. when he wasnt around I would watch the movies and pay attention to what they did and didnt do. Then when I had enough confidence I tryed it out on him. He was none the wiser. He just thought I was always good. Pornos can be misleading and not all men like the same things in the movies, but just try it. Theres no harm in learning and exploring his body. It will be a total turn on for him when he finds out the effort you put into pleasing him. But remember to do this because you would like it not because he wants you too. Thats the key.......

Enjoy......
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Pease Blossom
replied November 8th, 2007
Thanks Rosie, most kind. He is more a friend than anything else, we aren't together or anything, but I might try the getting him to use his hand or moving mine down with his. Thanks again. Smile
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fiona05
replied November 11th, 2007
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if you are having difficulty coordinating your hand and mouth then maybe you could just do your best with it and then finish him off using just your hand? if it's really well lubricated then it'll feel a bit like a mouth?Razz

i know what you mean, i've always found giving head tricky. my jaw aches after less than a minute. i dont know what i am doing wrong really! i think it is much easier for a guy to perform oral on a girl because there is less to deal with Smile
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reneeisorym
replied November 13th, 2007
I'll try to explain how I do it and see if it makes any sense.

Try this:
Make a circle with your hand -- thumb on middle finger and curve the rest of your fingers like your middle finger. Keeping your hand like that, place your hand in front of your mouth and press your hand toward your mouth. When you go to give oral sex, keep your hand pressed to your mouth like that so that the "rhythm" is easier to keep since you are just following your "bobbing" head.

So .. grab his penis with your hand -- pinkie finger on the part where hair grows. Place your mouth over the part that sticks past your hand, pressing your face against your hand. Pull up and down as you keep suction.

Remember -- the rim around the bottom of the head is the most sensitive part. The part where the vein goes up his shaft is typically more sensitive than the rest of the shaft (prime location for your tongue).

Ok that's about all I know to explain .. Smile

Renee
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sillysallie1990
replied November 13th, 2007
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makes sense to me... lol thats what i do cept i dont suck so much. so i dont have to worry bout suction...
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Pease Blossom
replied November 15th, 2007
Thanks guys Smile
Looks like I won't be seeing him anymore, but I will bear all these tips in mind for next time.
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LUMINALOVE
replied November 16th, 2007
WELL WHY NOT?? THAT SUCKS YOU WERE REALLY TRYING FOR HIM TOO I AM SORRY I WAS GOING TO SAY THE MOTORCYCLE TRICK DOES WONDERS FOR MY BF IF YOU GRASP HIM LIKE A MOTORCYCLE HANDLE AND MAKE THE VROOM VROOM MOTION WHILE MOVING YOUR HAND UP AND DOWN I HOPE YOU CAN UNDERSTAND THIS IF NOT ILL EXPLAIN MORE BUT THIS WORKS ON MY BF GOOD LUCK
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Maddie34
replied November 16th, 2007
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Please don't write in all caps!
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LUMINALOVE
replied November 16th, 2007
Maddie34 wrote:
Please don't write in all caps!

Oh I am truly sorry it bothered you do you have any advice for this person or did you just pop in to police me using caps ?
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Maddie34
replied November 16th, 2007
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lol I'm not comfortable giving advice on this topic just yet, however I found it difficult to read yours when its written that way. Thanks for the input though, and I'm sorry you took my request as an order Very Happy
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Pease Blossom
replied November 16th, 2007
PEPSIGIRL2U wrote:
WELL WHY NOT?? THAT SUCKS YOU WERE REALLY TRYING FOR HIM TOO I AM SORRY I WAS GOING TO SAY THE MOTORCYCLE TRICK DOES WONDERS FOR MY BF IF YOU GRASP HIM LIKE A MOTORCYCLE HANDLE AND MAKE THE VROOM VROOM MOTION WHILE MOVING YOUR HAND UP AND DOWN I HOPE YOU CAN UNDERSTAND THIS IF NOT ILL EXPLAIN MORE BUT THIS WORKS ON MY BF GOOD LUCK


Because (to be crass) he was a f*ck buddy who now wants to settle with someone else, he is being a right ass, I am unimpressed, I need someone better, thanks for the advice, I will try that.
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