I have sex with my boyfriend often and he
does not ejaculate prematurely. He
continues until he thinks I might have an
orgasm. But it doesn't happen, sometimes I
feel like I'm right there and it doesn't
happen. I have had one orgasm with an ex
boyfriend so I know what it feels like.
And when that happened I was drinking and
was a bit drunk. I don't know what to do.
I love having sex with my boyfriend but I
always feel empty in the end. I NEED
ADVICE.
I've done klegel exercises, I've tried
moving my hips during sex, I've tried
being on top.
We have sex for hours and it doesn't
happen.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-08-07 10:35am
I think you need to take yourself to the
bedroom or bathroom all by yourself and
learn how YOU can make yourself orgasm!
I'm so depressed when I heard of women who
have never masturbated!!
1. The clitoris. Stimulate it with your
fingers! Or maybe a water sprayer. Or
perhaps a vibrator. Try it out! 90% of
women (that most likely includes YOU)
orgasm due to clitoral stimulation, which
has nothing to do with penetrative sex.
Yes, it's true! You can orgasm without a
penis inside of you!
2. Spend the time along to figure out
exactly what makes you feel good. Again,
pay attention to the clitoris. Try side to
side. Try making circles. You'll
eventually find what feels good.
3. Don't stress at how long it takes;
enjoy it! Most women take 10 or more
minutes to orgasm! This is going to be a
marathon, so make sure you're comfortable.
This is why many women have vibrators:
their hands get tired!
4. Only once you can orgasm by yourself
should you have sex again. I'm not
kidding. You need to discover yourself as
a sexual organ before allowing something
else in the picture.
5. Stimulate the clitoris DURING sex! It's
okay to do this! In fact it feels really
freaking good! I suggest it t every woman.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 11-08-07 10:41am
As Eiri says, try stimulating yourself
during sex. If you feel awkward putting a
hand down there and doing it yourself,
maybe try buying a toy that helps with
that (a vibrating penis ring for him, or
one of those simulators that can be worn
like underwear for you). The vibrating
and rubbing should help you reach it
faster and would be much more enjoyable
for the both of you!
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sillysallie1990
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Posted: 11-08-07 13:10pm
i have never had an orgasm during sex
either... i have during oral and do
masterbate. i want to orgasm during sex
but havent yet... my bf seems to think
that i shouldnt have to stimulate my
clitoris on order to orgasm during sex so
it is sortta difficult to just reach down
and start rubbing, i will try though
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 11-08-07 13:15pm
Statistics are really low with women who
can orgasm with no clitoral stimulation.
I don't know the exact numbers, but most
women need to be stimulated at least a
little there to be able to have an orgasm.
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sillysallie1990
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Posted: 11-08-07 13:19pm
yea i know but he doesnt....i have tried
telling him... i think i am going to work
on kegals... i have heard that helps and
maybe i will try to ease him into the
stimulating the clitorus...
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Tylanas
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Posted: 11-08-07 13:23pm
Just do it. It's your body; if he doesn't
care enough to let you touch yourself
during sex so you can feel pleasure then
he's just stupid
Kegals only supposedly help with g-spot
orgasms, not clitoral ones.
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sillysallie1990
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 308 Location: ,
Posted: 11-08-07 13:28pm
oh he cares too much he hates it that i
dont orgasm during sex... and he will let
me i have done it before and he thought it
was hot but i get the feeling that its
disapointing to him that i have to touch
myself... i will try the kegals though
cause it feels really good when i tighten
those muscles during sex i just cant do it
very much lol i dont have any endurence
down there ha ha
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pili_kittie21
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Nov 2007 Posts: 2
Posted: 11-09-07 02:55am
Thank you girls so much for your help.
I do masterbate so doing that during sex
may help.
Thanks for the idea
