has anything changed in your relationship with your husband?

No. Nothing has changed in our relationship. We are having financial difficulties but other than that, there is nothing.

Are you oversensative to them in the sense that you mentally don't want his touches/want to push it away, or is it that they physically don't feel the same?

I love his touches. I just push him away as soon as the "over" sensitivity starts. It feels as if he touches me again in those spots, it will hurt. But it doesn't. I have no other way to explain this. I love him with my entire heart and I want to make love to him but it worries me because I feel like I push him away once the "over" sensitivity starts up.

the reason i ask this is because if your relationship has improved (you two have gotten closer or are just more physically attracted to each other) then it could be something as simple as you are just getting more turned on during foreplay.

when you are aroused, a rush of blood goes to the vagina. which in turn makes the clitorus sensitive and erect. the more sensitive your clitoris the easier it is to reach orgasm. once you have reached that point many women feel too sensitive to continue.

one thing you can try is when you get to the point of over sensitivity, focus on him (give him a hand-job or oral). that will give you time to "desensitize" and it will appear to your husband that you are just being "generous".

Thank you so very much for the advice. I think your right sarah. I am going to take your advice.

no prob!