first take a calm breath. it sounds like you are majorly freaking out.

i just found out i am not pregnant and i was in a similar situation as you.

first off i had a achy tummy almost constantly and had a nausiating feeling in my gut, not from being pregnant but from worrying about it so much.

have you told your boyfriend about this yet? if not you should. mine surprised me immensely by being so supportive of me, begin there for me, and just holding me up when i thought i would fall down...hard.

im assuming since youve been with him for 2 years now that he was with you the last time you went through this, so im sure he will be there this time aswell.

i hate to say it and i know how terribly dreadful it can be but you need to take a pregnancy test now, to be sure if you are or not. this is not one of those things you can leave alone and come back later to deal with.

also don't run your BCP's together it can be dangerous to you and your"maybe" unborn child.

i dont think you are pregnant if you take your pill everyday and as prescribedand your boyfriend uses a condom every time. just relax, tell your boyfriend what you think is happening, then in the next 3 days take a test. i know its scary... possibly the longest few mins of my life, but youll make it through this.

I am freaking out big time.

My boyfriend was with me last time yes, and keeping the baby was, unfortunately, just not an option. It wasn't even discussed. I daren't tell him that I might be pregnant again, I know he will be there for me but I just can't face telling anyone.
Telling him will make it more real, will make it much more real.

It isn't an achy tummy I have, it feels like.. oh I dunno how to decribe it. I don't even know what a baby kicking you feels like, I just hope I'm imagining things.
I looked down at my tummy last night, lying on the sofa and it was moving up and down on it's own...not just when I was breathing in and out. It felt like it was just churning over and over. I hope I'm imagining things, reading too much into things.

Every pregnancy is different I know, but I was so ill last time, I was sick two/three times a day and I wasn't being so careful with my birth control. I know I have been much more careful now, I just don't want to be wrong. I don't want to be pregnant.

I can't take a pregnancy test, not yet.
I have given my student loan to my mother and I am currently still waiting for my pay cheque from work. Even when I have the money I don't know whether I can face waiting for the stick to say "not pregnant". I just. Can't.

It's so ridiculous. I know I need to find out but I don't want to. I want to ignore it. I want to pretend it's not happening. If it is at all.
I just want to believe that I'm getting worked up over nothing. If that stick tells me I'm pregnant I don't know what I'll do.

Is it really dangerous? Mine says I can run packs together.

i know how afraid you are really, but you have to tell him. like i said before being pregnant is something you want to be absolutely positive about.

i tried not telling my boyfriend abotu my fears for a while and then i just freaked so bad i told him and he just scooped me into his arms and kissed my cheek said "it will be alright, we will get through this" and i know he meant im not alone hes there for me, always. he understands me more than anyone else, and i dont know how he can be so wonderful to me when im being so crazy.telling him was the right thing to do.

when you were laying down you could have been seeing your heartbeating in your stomach region. i can do that too. dont take every little thing and make it huge.

just breathe. i know at night is the worst time when your trying to fall asleep and all you can think of is "what do i do?" but losing sleep over it is not going to help infact it will show you"another sign of pregnancy" TIREDNESS. the more you worry abotu it the more things will happen that vaildate your fears:
tiredness
more irritable
sick
even a missed period/late
etc...

all of which can be explained rationally. if given a different look- tired because you have been stressing out and not sleeping well... irritable because you havent been sleeping well yoru stressed and you have a huge secret thats eating you away on the inside ... sick because your so worried and stressed a missed or late period because you havent been getting the proper nutrients in your body, so stressed/ freaked out , your mistreating your body with out knowing it.

the best thing you can do for yourself even if it is hard is to buy a test and USE IT. fast! the sooner you take it the sooner you'll get your answer. if it is a no - thank your god or goddess because ten you just over reacted. if its a yes - you have many options to choose from.

like i said before it is not likely that you are pregnant if you take your pills as you should and your boyfriend uses a condom correctly each time you have sex. your being safe and then some. thats good. just calm down, breathe.

right now you really need someone close to you to listen to you and help you along with this. its scary, but youll be alright.

I'm trying to calm down, I really am, and I understand what you are saying. Thank you.

I just want to burst into tears. This is a complete mess if I am pregnant, and If I'm not I've been making myself feel so darn bad for 3 weeks for no reason. I know my boyfriend will be there for me, and I love him dearly for that but until I know for sure, I just don't want to get him worried. I know that I am working myself up and I realise that some things I have experienced can be explained away perfectly rationally.

As you said, it could just be my heart beat, I could have just stood up too fast, making me dizzy, on the days when I've felt a little icky it could just be me working myself up into a frenzy (tend to feel sick when I'm nervous). At the same time... I could be pregnant, I could be expecting and it could be the first flutters of a tiny baby, and if it is my options are zero. I cannot have another termination, not if I have felt my baby move, not if I'm pregnant again.

Thank you for being so understanding of me. I just need to talk. Need to let out all my worries. I've been bottling it up for weeks now trying to ignore it.
Every morning I'm waking up and looking at my tummy in the mirror, have I gotten any bigger? Am I pregnant?

It's a horrible feeling and I feel sick.

you need to find out if you are pregnant and then you need to go to a doctor and talk to them if you plan on having the baby you need to go to regular check ups and the wole she-bang the sooner you find out the better. i understand you need to talk ^.^ thats why im still here i dont have to wake up until 9:30 am

It's 10:45 here, got the morning off Uni, I think it's all just gotten to me today. I noticed the odd tummy thing last night and then just got fixated on it, couldn't sleep until 2am just lying in bed feeling my tummy, just looking at it. I've worked myself up into a complete fit and now I feel dreadful.

I'm just confused. I can't look after a baby and neither can my boyfriend. He doesn't earn much and neither do I, not to mention the fact that we are both busy almost all day every day. The baby would be being raised by a stranger. I have no family who could help, no one who's rich and fabulous who could swoop down as baby's faerie godmother. It would be a struggle and we'd end up in a council house.

At the same time, if I'm past the first trimester I simply cannot have a termination. I don't think it's fair.

I will find out. Just not today.
I'm too poor to afford a pregnancy test.

How sad is that.

its not sad at all. there are other ways to get a pregnancy test like planned parenthood gives them for free. (at least mine does) and i know what you mean. ugh and staying up till 2 am.. well what am i saying its 3am for me...

We don't have planned parenthood here (I'm in the UK) at least I don't think we do. I'v never even heard of it before. If I wanted to find out for free it means booking an appointment with my local doctor, which would still take 2 days as it isn't an 'emergency' (I just rang to ask). IT DARN WELL IS AN EMERGENCY TO ME. Or going into town and into one of the drug stores..I think they do them free..I think.

im sure there is some way to get a cheep or free pregnancy test. im sorry i really must go to sleep now, try making yourself buys today to occupy your mind from thinking too much about it. i know what you mean by this is an emergency to me... i tottaly agree...

and once again your probably not prgnant but you should take a test asap! just to make sure!

good luck and have a good day!

Thank you for listening, I really appreciate the support and your words of wisdom. I will try and take a test today and I will try and keep myself busy.
Hopefully within a few days I will be returning with positive news.

First of all, most people cannot feel their fetus moving until 18 to 22 weeks, so I don't think that is what you are feeling.

Second of all, if your bc package says you can run them together, then it is safe.

Thirdly, it's VERY difficult to get pregnant under the circumstances you've described. and there are about a million other things (viruses, colds, infections, etc., etc. that could be giving you symptoms like dizziness.

Fourthly, do not hesitate to share your panic with your boyfriend. Why in the world is this your problem to bear all alone? Did he or did he not enjoy sex with you? Why does he get all of the pleasure and none of the pain? That is wrong.

Fifth and finally, tell your boyfriend and get him to pay for the pregnancy test. They cost between $8 and $20. I'm sure between the two of you, you can come up with around $10, right?

Please update us when you get your negative test results back. You will be OK. I know this seems like the end of the world, but it is not. Your imagination is a powerful thing, and it's going wild right now.

Good Luck.

Do you have Dollar Tree or some other dollar-type store around you? they usually have tests for $1. Did you check out the uni pharmacy? I'm sure they have options for broke students. Do you have a doctor on campus that you could pop in and see?

Sorry you're freaking, but I too want you to come back and announce your big fat negative test when you get it.

Go to the druggist and get yourself a pregnancy test. You are freaking yourself out over potentially nothing. What makes you think you are pregnant? Your stomach moving? That feeling in your stomach? Those things could be digestive related and have NOTHING to do with pregnancy.

Take a pregnancy test. Until then - stop worrying about it.

"so I don't think that is what you are feeling."
Ok, slightly less panicked now.

"Why in the world is this your problem to bear all alone? Did he or did he not enjoy sex with you? Why does he get all of the pleasure and none of the pain? That is wrong."
It's not my problem alone, I know, and I'm sure my boyfriend would be incredibly supportive of me if I did tell him, it's just that I do not want to worry him over nothing. I'd prefer to just find out and then either panic of heave a sigh of relief.

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"Do you have Dollar Tree or some other dollar-type store around you? they usually have tests for $1. Did you check out the uni pharmacy? I'm sure they have options for broke students. Do you have a doctor on campus that you could pop in and see?"
We only have PoundLand here (being in the UK) and they don't have pregnancy tests, I checked. They just do useless things like lighters and christmas decorations. I haven't checked out the Uni pharmacy, if I'm being honest I hadn't even considered it. There is an onsite doctor and nurse so I could go and see them, thanks for the good thinking.

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"Take a pregnancy test. Until then - stop worrying about it."
Thank you for calming my nerves. I feel a little steadier than I did this morning. I just hope y'all are right!

Good luck. Get this over with so you can go back to your normal life. Don't forget to let us know the good news.

A pregnancy test does not cost that much. I don't know what it costs in the UK, but in the US it is less than $10. They are accurate and taking one can relieve A LOT of stress.

Not knowing is the worst because your mind runs away with you. Take a pregnancy test so you have some idea of what you are dealing with. It really is as simple as that.

You know, I used to think people should just keep a dose of Plan B in the house for emergencies. Now I am going to recommend that along with that, they keep a home pregnancy test around for that same purpose.

They would take them casually. It won't make a difference because they wouldn't have it when it was necessary.

Pregnancy tests expire, I think.

The cheapest ones here range from £11-15, which is about $20?
Thank you all for darn well encouraging me to go out and get a test. I get my pay through tomorrow so am off to the local supermarket in 10 hours.

Then I'll know for sure.