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Q: Post break up, boyfriend with another girl who's pregnant!
asked by: stuck08 on November 6th, 2007
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i went out with my bf for 1 yr..it wasnt that long but i was madly in love with him...and well at one point he felt the same...
our relationship was perfect but i guess after a while we got bored...and things started going downhill
then one day some random girl was first on his myspace top 8
[very childish but it meant something to me]
i wouldnt have cared if it were a family member or his best friend but it was a random girl...i found out it was his co worker..and we got into a big arguement over it...abt a week later she wrote to me telling me they were just friends but she really liked him and would try to be with him after we broke up.
after that we stayed together for abt 2 more months but i could feel that i was losing him more and more everyday and i was reassured by people he worked with all the time that nothing was going on between him and that girl so i guess he just didnt feel the same abt me.
i finally broke up with him because [i felt i wouldnt have been able to deal with it if he had broke up with me first].
i havent seen or talked to him since.
well 3 weeks after that he got with his coworker and 3 weeks AFTER THAT he got her name tattood on his chest[his best friend called me to tell me][[on my birthday]]
now 5 motnhs later i find out shes 4 months pregnant and i cant deal with it i think abt him everyday and i havent been able to commit to a guy..i cant even date its really hurting...
all i want is to call him and hear his voice
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Mikolas
replied on November 6th, 2007
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Very stupid of him to tattoo her name onto his chest. Nobody should ever do that, incredibly short term thinking. So many people regret doing that and thought at the moment they were so madly in love, but then they break up and are with somebody new and are embarrassed to explain the tattoo.

I'm not sure what you are asking of us to help you with? Just letting off some steam and wanting to hear some opinions perhaps? As harsh as this sounds then, there is nothing more you can do about it unless you are that charming and alluring of a lady to make him forget what his current gfs name was. You have chosen to let go, you would not be justified in having a second chance. Particularly if they are suppose to have a child together, it would be selfish of you to get in between and ruin this unborn child's future with a fragmented parental relationship.

It seems you two were pretty close at one point, and its been only half a year at most since the break up? If that is the case, I'm sure it feels like forever and that you can't get over it, but in the end, it has only been a few months. For such relationships, people could very likely go years before getting over their ex-lover. Sheesh, it took me 3 years to get over one girl, and we never even dated! We were very close though. You shouldn't try so much to be committing or thinking about other guys, it just doesn't work like that unless you want to be called all sorts of nasty words from your peers. Trying to drown it out of your mind will be difficult, however, for now I and others would suggest for you to go out and do different sorts of activities. I'm not sure what your age is, but I'm going to assume you are at least a student, so focus hard on your studies, go do some volunteer work, work out your body a little or whatever activities you enjoyed doing that can help you focus. Good luck, you will move on if you try, just do your best not to regret, life is too short to wallow in our misery.
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w0esurrt
replied on November 7th, 2007
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holy crap. that's probably the craziest story i've ever heard! What a miserable thing for him to do to you!
Ok, first off. listen up girl. I know it's hard to let go of a guy and NO ONE can tell you how to feel about someone except you. But think about it. even though you were with him for so long, what would make you want to be with him? he's obviously not a good guy for doing this to you. You may be after what is called Falling in love with his potential instead of WHO he actually is. You remember the good things he made you feel and the feeling that he has always been there, but he did something very wrong and you should focus on what he did to you, this way you'll realize why you are too good for him. You can do better than him and find a guy who makes you happy.

but it sounds like right now, you should have fun and do whatever you want. you should wait to date again (im sure you already feel this way) but seriously. just go out have fun. :] hope this helped. good luck. i totally feel ya on missing an ex when you know you shouldn't.

guys are jerks though. every girl should have an amazing guy :]
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Mikolas
replied on November 7th, 2007
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Yup yup, men are jerks. BIG BUNGHOLE JERKSSSSSSSS.
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bautistan
replied on November 8th, 2007
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i miss my ex also but its impossible for us to see each other the law has seperated us i have seen him only once at cato's with a couple and some other guy and i was with my boyfriend this was blike a month ago when i saw him..everything came back when we dated.... the law broke us up a yr ago!!!
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