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Ok so my bf and I have been together for about 2 years. We were togehter 3 months before we actually lived in the same area. He lived 8hrs away from here. He left his family to be here with me and I love him so much for that and so thankful that he did that for me...

Things were a little rocky at first when he came here, I had guy friends whom he didn't want me talking to, which okay he came before some guy friends anways. And then bam I found out I was pregnant December 11th of last year. A few months after he came here...

My whole entire pregnancy we argued * A LOT * he packed his things and left at least 10 times. I admit I was a grouchy hormonal pregnant lady sometimes but hey we have every right to be. Dallas was born and everything has been fine but we have been arguing a lot lately.

Saturday night we were at my dad's and when we got home he started calling me a sl*t and a bad mom and that really hit a spot in my heart. And he said you are so immature and that's why we aren't engaged yet. First of all, I do EVERYTHING for my baby and secondly he had drinken a few drinks and I didn't so he is using that as his excuse...no excuse, he wasn't drunk

Fast forward to tonight. We were at my dad's again, there was a movie on TV that NO ONE was watching besides me, yes *me*, and I asked if I could change it. He got sooo mad because I'm immature because no one else wanted me to turn it?? Ok excuse me but no one was watching it. He gets mad slams the bedroom door and the front door *while dallas is sleeping* and starts walking. He texts my mom and feeds her some bs and then has her all mad at me..now he is asleep with dallas...

I don't know what to do, I love him so much, he is the father of my son but I absolutely can't take the heart break anymore..ladies??

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amethyst eyes

replied on November 5th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Leave him. If he has been this way for that long I doubt he respects you or is willing to change. You can find someone better. Do you want that as an example for your child to grow up with?

mommy_2_dallas0813

replied on November 5th, 2007

Supporter

No I don't want that. He tells my mom though how much he loves my son & I and he is scared because I threatened to leave him tonight. He cried the next morning to me after he called me a bad mother and such but I can forgive but I can't forget.

number game

replied on November 5th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Girl I've been in a relationship like this but minus the child. I could have never stayed in that relationship. You need someone who loves and respects you. Do the cons out weigh the Pros? If so then loose him. Just because you love someone dosen't mean you have someone who loves you back they way that you deserve to be loved! You have to do what's right for you and your baby. Love comes and goes hun. You're still fairly young too. I got married at 17 and it was the worst mistake I could have ever made. I was too young to even know who I was. ( I'm not with him anymore) People like this usually never change! I wish you luck in what ever happens.

mommy_2_dallas0813

replied on November 5th, 2007

Supporter

I want to talk to him but I don't know what to say. I am just at complete loss for words. I need a hug.

blackcat34

replied on November 5th, 2007

Experienced User

Ok... wow were to start... well first of all I don't see why you couldnt hang around with your guy friends, sounds a little over possessive to me. Second.... calling you a bad mom and well that other word....well that was totally uncalled for, drinking is not and excuse for this.... in my experience drinking brings out ones true personality more..... (I drink and have partied alot in the past...I am a mellow person...and get really mellow when I drink) I have drank with others who well...are kind of $4it sticks...and when they drink it just amplifies this. He is using that immature excuse to cover up for his not wanting to completely commit. Next.... getting mad because you wanted to change the channel...well that is really petty.... if no one but you was watching it..sure change it.. it shouldnt bother anyone... I dont know what he told your mom... but calling her and telling her what ever he told her is immature within itself....

I read what the other ladies have put... I agree, do what is best for your child, your child deserves a good environment to grow up in..and your bf doesnt seem like he can provide that or is willing to. He may love Dallas but, with the way he treats you (and Dallas will see this), your son will grow up not respecting women.... I have seen this personally... my ex gf's sister is in a relationship like that... her husbands dad is a serious jerk...he treats his wife badly...and his 3 sons do too...they treat their gf's/wifes the same.

sick_mama17

replied on November 6th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

If hes using alcohol as an excuse, could you try saying dont drink anymore then. No more excuses for him to speak to you like that.

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