My boyfriend recently went out to the pubs n i stayed home because iam 16 i cannot go out, while he was out he would not answer his phone and turned it off, he got home at 4am meanwhile i sat at home alone untill then, this was about a month ago. i just found photos on his mates facebook acount of that night, he is in about 10 photo's with different chicks with his arm around all of them, in one photos he has his fone in his hand but yet he didnt get my calls. also his actually touching heads with one girl that a few days ago he told me he had no idea who she is, do you guys think this is wrong?
I do not think there is anything wrong with meeting other girls. Just because somebody is in a relationship, they shouldn't suddenly shun themselves to all members of the opposite sex. However, obviously they shouldn't be intimately flirting or cheating on their partner with the people they meet. It is also wrong if not strange that he shut off his phone. If he just didn't pick it up, possible, because the clubs can be a very loud place. Shutting it off.... strange. How old is he compared to you?
However, I still don't condone his actions in terms of being a "good boyfriend". Both the lady and the man do need to have their alone time and hang out with their friends without the significant other, but this should be in moderation. If he does this often, and leaving you at home alone all the time, he isn't a good boyfriend.
Honestly, I just want to let you know, relationships where the male is in college while the girl is still in high school tend to be a bad outcome. That age is associated with partying and meeting people (college girls) due to events held at college and all, while the 16 year old does not have the option to do much else but underaged things. Be wary of your heart little lady, do not expect too much, I've known several male 18-22/female 16 year old couples and they broke apart because the guy was cheating on her or playing around too much. Good luck
i know i get jealous when i see my boyfriend flirting with other girls, and a lot of people ask me why i just let him do that. simply because i find no need to control him. he is his own person and i trust him completely (with everything minus one.)
he is a great guy and though i know he likes to flirt openly with other girls, even when he is right next to me, i know he loves me and wouldn't cheat on me. though only you can discern his actions and come out with your answer. if you feel that it was just harmless flirting and nothing at all... then no need to worry. though if it bothers you dont let it sit there. i'm sure it will happen again and if you don't talk to him about it... it will eat you up inside and then tons of problems ensue.
there is nothing wrong with having friends and meeting people of the opposite sex.
also talk to him let him know what kind of relationship you want to be in and find out if he wants the same. if he wants to be in an open relationship let him know your feelings on that, and if your in an exclusive relationship then talk to him and let him know that you were just curious by his actions....
do what feels right to you and act appropriately on it. your the one that knows him best here and can decide what his actions mean...