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November 4th, 2007
My girlfriend and I are still under 18 incase you were all wondering.

Anyways, from my understanding of the situation, my girlfriends mom and dad are gonna go move to another county which is about an hour away from my house. 45 minutes without any traffic.

All my gf told me was
my mom said we're moving adn that I could come over ( her mom said that because she knows i wont be able to )

My girlfriend is pregnant with our child and if she moves, i may never see her or the child again. Currently my license is suspended and my parents would never make that long of a trip.

2 days after her parents knowing she's pregnant and they're makeing a decision like this? What's going on? They'll have to make an hour drive to work and to drop off there oldest daughter to community college. I don't understand what's going on here!

I was raised with divorced parents and i'll be dammned if my kid will be raised without parents even living together or even seeing eachother at all, so my question is.

I want to know if my girlfriend would be able to live with me for the best intrest of her and the child. as far as im conserend, if this doesnt happen, then ill never see my child or gf ever again Sad
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Katrinadoodle
replied November 4th, 2007
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I'm not sure if it's different where you are, but where I'm at (in Arizona) your girlfriend won't be able to move out unless she gets emancipated, in which case she'll have to prove she can provide for herself and your child. Or, her parents could sign custody over to yours. Aside from that, you could go to court to get legal visitation rights, and have to work everything out there.

If none of those options work, then just suck it up and make an effort to see your kid. Take a bus. Grab a taxi. Bum a ride off a friend. My fiance lives two hours away, and he still manages to see me every weekend.
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young Girl
replied November 4th, 2007
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if she is under 18 then they can take her wherever they want
she is underage still
and unfortinately so are you and theres not much you can do about it

im sorry Sad
you do have a right to see your child
but its going to be a looonnnng battle in court against her parents

my advice is get a really good stable job and try to do the best you can
if her parents dont want you to see the baby then you have to prove to them that its your child too and that you want to be apart of its life
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Verizon-y
replied November 5th, 2007
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How much longer will it be before you get your license back? How old is your gf?
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prettygirlygirl
replied November 6th, 2007
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I'm having trouble seeing how just an hour of distance could actually prevent you from seeing your girlfriend and future child. It's really only an hour! Is there no public transportation? Greyhound? Coach Bus? Train? Nothing?

I'm sorry your girlfriends parents' plan to move has inconvenienced you, but you and your girlfriend could not have seriously thought that they would have planned their lives around you and your baby, especially after you planned a child with a complete disregard for their lives and plans?

Why can't you move to the new county to be closer to your girlfriend? I know you're only 16, but you are able to rent as long as you have a cosigner.
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jessamyn
replied November 6th, 2007
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Is she capable of getting emancipated?
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prettygirlygirl
replied November 6th, 2007
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jessamyn wrote:
Is she capable of getting emancipated?


Does one not become automatically emancipated once one gives birth?

I thought I had read that somewhere
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Verizon-y
replied November 6th, 2007
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I think he realizes this whole thing was a huge mistake. I feel really, really sorry for him. I wish every teen who ever even considers planning a baby reads his words.

I shudder to think what will happen as the pregnancy continues, and then the birth (agony and hell), and then the reality of a child crying non stop and waking every two hours and the sleep deprivation hell, etc., etc., tc.
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Mabel
replied November 6th, 2007
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prettygirlygirl wrote:
jessamyn wrote:
Is she capable of getting emancipated?


Does one not become automatically emancipated once one gives birth?

I thought I had read that somewhere


No. Emancipation is not 'automatic'.
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Katrinadoodle
replied November 6th, 2007
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prettygirlygirl wrote:
jessamyn wrote:
Is she capable of getting emancipated?


Does one not become automatically emancipated once one gives birth?

I thought I had read that somewhere

No. To get emancipated you need to either join the military or get married with your parents consent, or get emancipated by a judge. To do that, you need to prove you can support yourself (and your child if you're a parent) and explain why it would be in your best intrest to be emancipated.
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Verizon-y
replied November 6th, 2007
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Katrinadoodle wrote:

No. To get emancipated you need to either join the military or get married with your parents consent, or get emancipated by a judge. To do that, you need to prove you can support yourself (and your child if you're a parent) and explain why it would be in your best intrest to be emancipated.


Too bad people don't have to pass that same test before having children.
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Katrinadoodle
replied November 6th, 2007
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futureshock wrote:
Katrinadoodle wrote:

No. To get emancipated you need to either join the military or get married with your parents consent, or get emancipated by a judge. To do that, you need to prove you can support yourself (and your child if you're a parent) and explain why it would be in your best intrest to be emancipated.


Too bad people don't have to pass that same test before having children.

Before attempting, at least. I would have failed the test, but my pregnancy was an accident so then where would I be? Very Happy
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Verizon-y
replied November 6th, 2007
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Ok, I am going to write this in every post:

*I mean people who get pregnant on purpose.

OK? Smile Of course not someone like you, Katrina.. You are a hero.
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Mabel
replied November 6th, 2007
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futureshock wrote:
Ok, I am going to write this in every post:

*I mean people who get pregnant on purpose.

OK? Smile Of course not someone like you, Katrina.. You are a hero.


I'm sure everyone will jump on me for saying this: but in a way, a lot of teen moms do get pregnant ... maybe not so much on purpose... but maybe they don't try really hard not to become pregnant.

You know, how a lot of girls use the pull out method as 'birth control' and we all know - EVEN TEENS KNOW! - that doesn't work. Or even though birth control is free and readily available at family planning clinics across the nation, they don't take it regularly.

I'm not saying ALL teens do this. But there are a fair number of girls who do. The girls who think he'll love her more if she doesn't use a condom.
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Verizon-y
replied November 6th, 2007
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Yes, that is equally as bad.
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young Girl
replied November 6th, 2007
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okay stepping in ont his one

i am a teen mother to be that chose to not prevent pregnancy
it had nothing to do with anything except for my decition and what me and my partner wanted and decided to do

7 months after un protected sex i found out i was pregnant

futureshock i think its extremely rude and mean to say its a "bad thing" its not a bad thing at all.
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Verizon-y
replied November 6th, 2007
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the_girlfriend wrote:
okay stepping in ont his one

i am a teen mother to be that chose to not prevent pregnancy
it had nothing to do with anything except for my decition and what me and my partner wanted and decided to do

7 months after un protected sex i found out i was pregnant

futureshock i think its extremely rude and mean to say its a "bad thing" its not a bad thing at all.


I KNEW THIS WOULD HAPPEN!!! I knew YOU would read this and not read the posts that preceded it.

Here you go:

futureshock wrote:
Katrinadoodle wrote:

No. To get emancipated you need to either join the military or get married with your parents consent, or get emancipated by a judge. To do that, you need to prove you can support yourself (and your child if you're a parent) and explain why it would be in your best intrest to be emancipated.


Too bad people don't have to pass that same test before having children.


Now, do you see how you are not in a situation that would qualifyas "bad"? You would have passed the test in katrina's post, because you have no financial worries, right?????
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godzgrl4evr
replied November 6th, 2007
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I got this from teen fatherhood FAQ
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/teenfathers /a/teenfathersFAQ_2.htm
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If you are the father you have the right to know your child and to participate in your child’s life. You have rights of custody and access. You also have responsibilities. You have the responsibility to financially and emotionally care for your child. You have a responsibility to be present in your child’s life and ensure that your child’s needs are met. You have the responsibility to ensure that your child is safe and well cared for and is free from harm. You have the responsibility to make decisions that are in the best interest of your child. More on rights and responsibilities later, first let’s look at the most important thing every prospective father needs to know about… how to know if they are really the father.

Parenthood is not an easy thing and it should never be entered in to lightly. No matter what the circumstances surrounding conception when you become a parent you are a parent for the rest of your life. Fathers are no less important than mothers and their obligations to their child are no less than those of a mother. Just because biology has made it that mothers carry the child in their body this does not mean that the mother is the most important parent. Both parents have important roles to play in the life of their child. While having a child while you’re still a kid your self is less than ideal this does not make you any less a parent. Once you know a child is yours it changes your life forever no matter how old, or young, you are.
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Tylanas
replied November 6th, 2007
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You must have SOME rights. Go talk to someone. School counselor of some kind?
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Katrinadoodle
replied November 6th, 2007
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Ingi wrote:
futureshock wrote:
Ok, I am going to write this in every post:

*I mean people who get pregnant on purpose.

OK? Smile Of course not someone like you, Katrina.. You are a hero.


I'm sure everyone will jump on me for saying this: but in a way, a lot of teen moms do get pregnant ... maybe not so much on purpose... but maybe they don't try really hard not to become pregnant.

You know, how a lot of girls use the pull out method as 'birth control' and we all know - EVEN TEENS KNOW! - that doesn't work. Or even though birth control is free and readily available at family planning clinics across the nation, they don't take it regularly.

I'm not saying ALL teens do this. But there are a fair number of girls who do. The girls who think he'll love her more if she doesn't use a condom.

Not for me. On the pill and a condom.

My daughter was just damned determined to exist XD
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