michelle1981
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Posted: 11-03-07 12:29pm
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There's this boy in Brian's class who is a
royal pain.. not just a royal pain, but a
brat! Boys will be boys, but when children
do wrong they should have consequences in
place to learn from their mistakes.
This boy use to tease Brian in SK, to the
point of drawing tears to his eyes. I
spoke to his mother then(3 years ago), but
she didn't show any interest anyway.
Now, 3 years later, he's in direct contact
with Brian(same class  ), he's
gotten physical.
Since the start of the school year, he's
attacked Brian(unprovoked) at least 5-10
times.. probably more. When it was clearly
evident that it wasn't an isolated
incident, i expressed my concerns to his
teacher. He has serious concerns about
this kid, and advised me of what my next
steps could be. He's also made the
principal aware of his concerns, but they
just shrug it off.
Brian knows exactly how to handle
situations like this(although he isn't an
angel, and has done wrong. As they all
do), has just recently fought back.
I've made phone calls to the principal
& vice principals, but because they
haven't reported any(except the most
recent) of the altercations, they don't
see it as a problem.
This past monday the boy whipped a rock at
his face... here's the pictures.
THE DAY OF
THE NEXT DAY
Nice eh?!
They didn't even phone me about it!
I walked into school the following day and
confronted the VP(she's the one that
handled it.). I was fuming, but for the
most part, kept my cool. To be honest, i
wanted to rip her throat out... idiots!!
They still didn't believe that there was a
bullying problem  .
So i requested to meet with the other
childs mother. So the date was set for
Thursday @ 5pm..........
She was a no show 
. She was too far away. Again, i held back
what a really wanted to say, and booked
another appt. for Monday.
Either way, i'm contacting the schools
Superintendent after the meeting.
Just a rant.... thanks for listening!
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Posted: 11-03-07 12:30pm
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oh i would be MAAAAAAD
they have to notify you of something like
that
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Posted: 11-03-07 12:36pm
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Most schools have an anti bully policy, I
would ask your school's officials to see
it and how they plan to enforce it.
Ask them if you should call the news to
report their negligence or if they would
like to handle the concern now.
The sad thing is the little tyrant that is
picking on Brian is probably doing so
because of lack of parenting and probably
really low self esteem. He's probably got
a crappy life and to justify his life he
picks on others. It will get worse until
he really hurts someone...or worse.
I'm really sorry your are going through
this Michelle. I hope you get the
situation solved.
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Posted: 11-03-07 12:42pm
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UGH, I hate bullies! I Don't know how you
kept your cool, you must be good at
holding your tongue. I really hope she
shows up at this meeting, Mich, she needs
to be told off & she needs to handle
her son. What are you gonna do if nothing
changes? I was bullied big time when I was
little, I hate hearing about this 
brian is such a cutie though!
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Posted: 11-03-07 12:42pm
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I agree with everything Mommy35 (sorry my
brain has frozen and i've forgot you name)
says.
I hope it gets resolved quickly. This is
my number 1 fear. I would move my child to
another school or home school. Anything to
avoid it
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Posted: 11-03-07 12:52pm
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OMG!!! Don't let this go or it will never
end! This is the reason why Im putting
Amelia in karate. That little boy probably
runs all over his parents. It shows that
he doesnt get punished for his wrongs.
Definantly not taking up for him but There
maybe some issues going on at home that
causes his rage.
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Posted: 11-03-07 15:11pm
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MICHELLE!!! Transfer my nephew out of that
school!
My mom has the SAME EXACT situation with
my little brother.. the principal knew
about it and actually laughed and was
like, *Yeah, hes a brat, but what can we
do?* The kids parents didnt care either..
so she pulled him out of school and put
him in a private catholic school in
downtown orlando.
I hate bullies.. if i had the bawlz to
beat up little kids...
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Posted: 11-03-07 19:15pm
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that so wrong, i would be contacting
everyone the news the school district
everyone would hear my wrath i hope they
get it resolved. here that kid would have
been suspended at the very least
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Posted: 11-03-07 19:23pm
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Poor kid. This is so disgusting . I dont
think I move my son to another shcool i
would much rather have the bully expelled.
Sorry mich!
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Posted: 11-03-07 20:25pm
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This is not acceptable. If the teacher has
serious concerns, I certainly hope that
they are having meetings to determine if
that other child is in a correct
placement. I wouldn't doubt if that child
has done that to other students as well.
I would request a meeting with the
principal, teacher, psychologist,
counselor and other staff. This is what I
tell all parents who have issues like
this. If you only talk to one or two
people at different times, things are not
likely to change or they may but not as
quickly. Your son should not be the one to
change schools because of it!! If you get
no where with your school, call the
district office.
***Just reread! I honestly don't know if I
would want my child in a school where the
principal shrugged it off. I have never
worked in a school like that. There is a
serious legal issue. You are doing great
by contacting the superintendent. I would
show pics. The fact that they didn't even
call you about it is extremely
unacceptable. The principal should be
fired. You shouldn't have to meet with the
mother of this child. I wouldn't want to.
The school should be handling it.
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michelle1981
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Posted: 11-03-07 20:51pm
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| ladylee70
wrote: | | I would request a meeting
with the principal, teacher, psychologist,
counselor and other
staff. |
When i had the surprise meeting with both
VP & Principal, i asked them why a
meeting between myself, the other mother,
the teacher, the social worker & the
principals have yet to come together. The
VP replied "I don't think it's necessary".
Can you believe that??? I demanded a
meeting, and i'll let you guys know what
comes of it Monday. That's if she shows
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| Mommy35
wrote: | | Most schools have an anti
bully policy, I would ask your school's
officials to see it and how they plan to
enforce it. |
They work with kids individually. They
claim they have a "plan", but because of
the privacy policy, they cannot tell me
anything. That's ridicules!!! They claimed
they couldn't even tell me how they were
going to punish him. They eventually said
that he lost he recess for the day... BIG
consequence eh?
Nancy, they told me that they don't just
expel them. Believe me, i would love for
him to be removed from the school! They
provide an "intervention". But for that to
work, the parents would need to be
involved and take interest, which i don't
believe they do. That's exactly why he's
like he is.
Dani - My plan is to have this meeting
with the mother, and take what i learn
from that and make a complaint with the
Toronto District School Board. If nothing,
then i head to the news!
Has anyone seen 'The Hand That Rocks The
Cradle'?
Thanks for listening guys!!
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:04pm
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Ugh, I hate when the school is nice and
uncooperative. My nephew is dealing with
almost the same issue, so bad my nephew
just takes it he won't even tell the
teachers anymore because they don't
believe him. I sort of know how you feel,
and I hope they do something to this kid,
it's not fair to Brian!! Good luck
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:17pm
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well mich it's too bad that they wont take
further action such as expelling on this
bully. Bullying is becoming an epidemic.
It has serious reprocussions and i'm so
afraid for my son when he goes to school.
I hope your baby is ok....poor thing he
must feel so afraid and lost. I was
bullied a few times and i felt so
worthless ....
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:20pm
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I don't know how you kept your cool, I got
mad just reading that.
How dare they sit back and do nothing.
Why should the bully and his mother get
away with his bad behavor and her lack of
parenting skills?
I'm sorry you are dealing with this.
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:30pm
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| Emma2
wrote: | | well mich it's too bad that
they wont take further action such as
expelling on this bully. Bullying is
becoming an epidemic. It has serious
reprocussions and i'm so afraid for my son
when he goes to school. I hope your baby
is ok....poor thing he must feel so afraid
and lost. I was bullied a few times and i
felt so worthless .... |
Even his teacher noticed Brian becoming
anxious just being near him.
"Bullying is becoming an epidemic" - I
agree with this statement 100%. Bullies
now a days are much meaner. When Brian was
in grade 1, this girl classmate placed a
thumb tack on his chair
Brian's ok now. If you think the outside
of his mouth is bad, the inside is so much
worse.
Tanya - It took every once of strength. It
did get alittle heated, but that's only
when she danced around my questions.
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:34pm
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just hold him and tell him everything is
ok, and then have Brian SR teach him how
to beat some ass lol.
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:36pm
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Brian's ok now. If you think the outside
of his mouth is bad, the inside is so much
worse.
god i can imagine. He's just a little boy
how do you look at this boy and explain
what has happened to him? its not
normal...they are children!
i think bullying is a direct result of
those HS killings and such.....those kids
we're bullied and taunted.... it can
really scar a child ...tell brain to stand
up for himself and to never be afraid.
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:44pm
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| Emma2
wrote: | | i think bullying is a direct
result of those HS killings and
such.....those kids we're bullied and
taunted.... it can really scar a child
...tell brain to stand up for himself and
to never be
afraid. |
ABSOLUTELY! And it's so scary just
thinking about it!
| Sandy_Pants
wrote: | | just hold him and tell him
everything is ok, and then have Brian SR
teach him how to beat some ass
lol. |
We have always taught Brian that if
someone is throwing nasty words at you,
walk away. If they hit you, tell the
nearest adult. Now, i would love for Brian
to beat his a$$!!! That kid feeds off of
Brian's vulnerability.
personally, i would love to throw caca in
his moms face!
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:48pm
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you know what...i told my nephew at the
begining of the year...some kids were
teasing him about being the new kid in
school..i told him to get in thier face
and say "so what , im the new kid , whats
are u gonna do about it" and if they
resorted to violence i told him to fight
back and not just take that sh@t..yeah its
not right i guess but its self
defense...and also did state do not ever
hit someone 1st. sometimes u have to teach
them to fight back.
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:52pm
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| Emma2
wrote: | | you know what...i told my
nephew at the begining of the year...some
kids were teasing him about being the new
kid in school..i told him to get in thier
face and say "so what , im the new kid ,
whats are u gonna do about it" and if
they resorted to violence i told him to
fight back and not just take that
sh@t..yeah its not right i guess but its
self defense...and also did state do not
ever hit someone 1st. sometimes u have to
teach them to fight
back. |
Brian's too sensitive, and it works
against him at school.
Brian's dad already told him that if this
kid hits him again, to punch him as hard
as he can. I just don't thin k he'll do
it.
Bullies feed off of weakness.
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