more lube

and be careful
he can scratch you by fingering you and it can REALLY hurt

You're not alone. Im the same way. I talked to my Gyn about it (actually two Gyns), and she said she see's girls who are virgins every week who say it is painful to be fingered or painful to have a pap done because we are so small and tight. Its not abnormal, and bad or good I dont know. But it happens. Im -almost- at 2 without pain lol Gettin there. But it hurt for me as well with just one for quite awhile. (And there is/was Plenty of lube) So dont worry about it!

And one of them advised me to get some lube and slowly apply pressure to the bottom (towards the butt) of the vagina, stretching the skin. (And that is where it hurts the most for me, if I push on the front it doesnt hurt at all)

I am no longer a virgin, but when I was one, I know that it was VERY painful for me. One of the things that I started doing was just relaxing, which is difficult for me becuase I knew it was going to be painful. I just relax my body, close my eyes, and do my best to ignore the pain. We didn't really try fingering for very long because it was painful, so I went to the next step which was sex. At that point, I was so completely wet, and we didn't have much trouble getting it in. So, my personal opinion is to try to be wet, and just relax. A combination of the two should help ease that pain even a little bit!

sex is never supposed to be painful EVER

if it is then youre doing it wrong

I never said it was painful...and it can be painful if the penetration is too deep. As a matter of fact a lot of women expericene pain the first time they have intercourse. If a woman is too tight, or there is not enough lubrication, it can be painful...every woman is different...for instance one of my friends was able to experience fingering and sex without any issues (Maria) , and for another on e of my friends (Aggie), it was very painful for her the first few times. It isn't unusual for a woman to feel pain...

AAAAARGH.

No (*normal*) girl is too tight for sex if she is of the proper age.

Using lube, making the girl relaxed and being READY for sex will ensure a painless experience. Initial penetration should NOT be painful unless you are one of the rare women with thick hymens.

If sex is painful despite a loving and caring partner, you should seek out a gynecologist. It is most likely an actual problem, and NOT your fault or the fault of your partner.

Again, for NORMAL women, sex should NOT be painful. Is it common? Yes. That's because most people have sex WRONG the first few times. A girl has to learn how to relax the vaginal muscles and allow penetration. That takes practice, or (as most women deal) just suffering.

On the note of deep penetration: yes, if the man goes too deep and hits the cervix, that will hurt. But that is not the normal pain discussed during sex. Most women are referring to penetration pain, and THAT is almost always avoidable.

The fact that you're a virgin has nothing to do with how tight you are. Virgins are able to have pain free sex unless something else is going on. Your vagina is all muscle and doesn't just loosen up when something goes in there, it expands and contracts as you squeeze or loosen the muscles. And when you're turned on, it expands and swells and creates lubrication (so you feel loose), but always goes back to it's original size.

SEX SHOULD NEVER HURT!!

Love your vagina!

Before I lost my virginity. My boyfriend used to finger me using 1 finger. It felt good and he asked if I wanted to use 2 and I said idk because it is going to hurt but he did, and the he was like guess what, am using two fingers then I started bleeding. Then we stopped fore playing. I thought I wasn't a virgin because I bled and when I actually had sexually intercourse, it Hurt like hell, and to my surprising I was bleeding. A lot. And we did it twice after and it hurt so I just don't have sex anymore. I don't think anything is wrong with. you just have to be relax and really wet and ready for penetration.