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Q: Sister Trouble
asked by: Amber*Marie on November 2nd, 2007
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I have a headache. A migraine one at that. I need to clean but its hard to do when Im thinking to much. My sister is addicted to pills. My BIL left her but then went back after 2 nights. She promised she will get help and quit. She has made no effort. we tried to get her an appt with a mental health facility to refer her to a phsyciatrist. Im a little ashamed of her. She has a daughter who I think is either 13 or 14, lol cant keep up. Shes been having sex since 12. Let her date guys that ar 24!! Her "momma" got her bc pills saying its to regulate her. Yeah right. She buys cigarattes for her. Lets them cus her out and doing anything in the world. She has 2 other children, a boy thats 11 and another girl that just turned 4. All three are by different men. Her boy hates her for what she is doing. Begged her to get help. He hates his dad for he is addicted to crystal. He asked his step-dad to adopt him. He said ok if it was alright with his father. He called and asked and the answer was "yes". My BIL just called. upset. because she still lying. she lied about paying the bills. took the money and bought pills. they are behind on rent 4 months!! he just found all this out. He drives an 18 wheeler so he on the road alot. He actually just switched jobs where he can drive but come home at night. Her son plays football. 2 saturdays ago he got hurt while playing. bruised his whole back and sat out fot the rest of the game. This past saturday he got tackled and hurt his bac. His mom gave him a half of her pill. then told him to the get the medical answer back out there. and said "and you wonder why your daddy dont come to watch you play, because your a medical answer pu$$" That upset me terribly! No child needs to hear that. This is really been bugging me. When I was pregnant with Amelia, My sis says she cant wait to have a niece. And she was going to spoil her and blah blah blah. She has only came to my apt 2 times since Amelia was born. Seen her a total of 5 times. i miss my old sister. she used to be so nice and use to punish her children for the bad things they do. now she just cheers them on. Im rambling. I need to vent some about this. I guess this is another reason Im so stressed. i thank i typed everything. i dont know im just tired
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number game
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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oh I'm sorry to hear this. I know it's hard my mom and her yonger sister are going through something similar. Does SHE want to get help?
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Sandbox Party
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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thats sucks, Amber...

why are there so many crappy moms out there!?

i just wanna adopt all those poor kids.. give them a life they deserve.

people need to stop bailing her out and giving in to her.. if they did she'd learn.
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Amber*Marie
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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~~rachel~~ wrote:
oh I'm sorry to hear this. I know it's hard my mom and her yonger sister are going through something similar. Does SHE want to get help?

she said she wanted to but then after my mom and dad started feeling sorry for her, i guess she thought she didnt have to. I dont know.

See my parents are their landlord. My mom never told my BIL about the rent because she didnt want them to get into it because she made them go in debt last year and was put in jail for a bad check. He told her if she ever did that again he will be leaving. She got hooked on pills right before Amelia was born so since then my mom has been having to beg her for rent so my mom dont get in trouble because they are still paying for the place under their name. Last month my mom called to and told her she needs to be paying it before they sue her for whats owned on it. She told my mom to nevver call back and she will never see the kids again. Then she came crying when BIL left her. Now they are talking and my mom is falling for everything she says
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number game
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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Well by your parents being their landlord it is enabling her behaviors. Maybe they should turn the renting responsibility over to a realator and then they would be REQUIRED to be more responsible. Talk to your mom about the situation. If you allow behaviors intentionally or not the behaviors never stop until then enabling stops, whatever it may be!
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Amber*Marie
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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~~rachel~~ wrote:
Well by your parents being their landlord it is enabling her behaviors. Maybe they should turn the renting responsibility over to a realator and then they would be REQUIRED to be more responsible. Talk to your mom about the situation. If you allow behaviors intentionally or not the behaviors never stop until then enabling stops, whatever it may be!


they tried. My mother even told hem they will give them the land if they will just get it swapped to their name. she keeps saying she will but its already been over 2 years and she wont do it. I told my mom to kick em out because they have somewhere to go. My mom said she cant do that. That place was BEAUTIFUL before they moved in. I lived there up until I was 16. That place was pratically brand new wehn my parents decided to move closer to work. Now they have horses pratically on their back porch! Wouldnt use the other part of the land. Just the back yard. My sister totally trashed that house. Carpet is nasty never cleans it. Kids dont clean their room or bathroom. She wont clean up the dog piss out of their carpet. she used to be a neat freak! Shes sooo beautiful and them pills are making her face look different. dragging like. i wish life had no bad turns
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number game
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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I know life can be hard. And when someone is addicted to something it CONTROLS their life. Many people suffer addiction of different things for years even after they are sober. They usually still have wants and desire even years after getting clean. It's a tough long battle. I hope she soon can take hold of her life again. I'm SURE she wants too as well. It's probably just hard, and it'll probably happen one day. I'll definatley keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
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Amber*Marie
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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~~rachel~~ wrote:
I know life can be hard. And when someone is addicted to something it CONTROLS their life. Many people suffer addiction of different things for years even after they are sober. They usually still have wants and desire even years after getting clean. It's a tough long battle. I hope she soon can take hold of her life again. I'm SURE she wants too as well. It's probably just hard, and it'll probably happen one day. I'll definatley keep her in my thoughts and prayers.


thank you!! I hope she can do this! Its wrecking our family
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number game
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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Just keep trying to encourage her! It'll happen in time!
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Amber*Marie
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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~~rachel~~ wrote:
Just keep trying to encourage her! It'll happen in time!


I hope! We are trying she just tells us to butt out Confused
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