Should I Stay Or Should I Leave....

I'm not an airhead...

And are you and Ingi being strangely twistedly humorous, or are you guys insulting each other with sarcastic comments.

hahaha
an A in "incestuous 101"

I don't get it, where is this cousin thing coming from??? I was just talking about this with my friends! The irony... Well, let people do what they want, even if it means their bloodlines intermingle and cause genetic disorders and cause more deformalities in this world -_-.

what deformalities?i dont wanna sleep with him for gods sake.and your right i do think that i deserve an "A".and if you were wonderin yes i was insulting you and calling you an airhead ingi.but only cause you made a little joke about me getting an education.but i`ll be the bigger person.and say im sorry.it was childish!!!!!

guys, I don't know anything about the cousin issue, but if she says it was a long time ago, then leave it. She came on here looking for advice, not to be insulted. She gets enough of that by her boyfriend. If you can't help her, don't post.

Now, confused, I know exactly how you are feeling. In 2001, I was with this guy, temporarily, who I thought I absolutely couldn't live without. He treated me like dirt around his friends but was all nice and sweet when we were alone. It was those times that made me want to stay with him. I thought maybe he'd change. Whenever I did try to break up, he'd cry. Like a fool, I believed he would change each time that happened. He never did.

Finally, he broke up with me and I was devastated. I tried committing suicide by taking a bottle of medicine and wound up in the hospital, all because I thought I loved him and couldn't live without him.

Afterwards, I missed him like crazy and cried constantly, but I kept going because I knew that it was just temporary. I got involved in activities to take my mind off of him. I read a lot and learned hobbies. Eventually, I came out of it. Now I am married and truly love my husband.

You aren't the only girl going through this. I know you are reading this and probably saying "This is different" or "They don't understand what I'm going through" or even "I can't live without him. You could, but I can't". Well, stop it. You CAN live without him. Yes, you will cry. Yes, you will miss him. Yes, your heart will feel like it is breaking everytime you think about him or even see him. But let me tell you, you WILL go on. You WILL get over him. Believe in yourself.

This was posted TODAY. Not a 'long time ago'
http://ehealthf orum.com/health/ptopic708407.html

This was posted 2 days ago
http://ehealthfo rum.com/health/topic113479.html

The post itself says:



Still sounds current to me.

On a message board, we only can go by what a person says. I'm going by what this poster said as of TODAY.

WHATEVER! Either way, she is looking for advice. GEEZ...... Why are people so intent on the specifics?

Because what happens is this: these people ask for our advice and we give it. Wholeheartedly we GIVE advice. We consider it. We take the time to post about it. And we are genuinely HONEST in our advice.

The Original Poster, often will come back with... "But he isn't really like that. I know he loves me... etc." So what a person says about themselves on a message board is VERY important in how they are related to. What she has said about herself is indicative of the person she is. I'm only going by WHAT SHE HAS SAID.

This is a message board, after all. And we only know each other by OUR WRITTEN WORD.

You aren't giving her advice.... well you may be, but not everyone here is. They are saying she's crazy or wierd. That's not giving advice.

Umm have you considered.
Since we are of the internet, and not friendly neighbors that know one another's life history, the only idea we have of one another regarding personality, characteristics, life situations, etc, is ONLY based on what they write on our forums. How could we NOT get into specifics and shred it and analyze it. I think it'll actually be ignorant of us not to, every situation looks the same as one another if specifics were not included. There is no way we could accurately and precisely give in opinion or advice without specifics. I.E. I could just give the same general weight loss work out schedule to anybody if I choose not to pay attention to specifics, like gender, weight and goals.

The fact that this lady here still shows she is intimately interested in her cousin. Which completely disregards and contradicts your post of
"if she says it was a long time ago, then leave it (meaning that you are saying it is ok to discuss it if such is not the case, which it is not)"

Hehe just picking on ya. But yes veryconfused, godzgrl4evr is correct in the same sense of what I have said earlier. They will likely not change (bunghole guys), they will break up with you inevitably, and they will leave you far more heartbroken then you could be if you had been wise enough to leave him. And you aren't the only girl who has dealt with this, most every girl does (no, you are not a special case, billions of lives exist now, hundreds of billions more lives have existed in the past, it is ignorant to assume nobody else has dealt with something very similar to yours). As in godzgrl4ever's case.

EDITED: it seems you guys type fast like crazy, Ingi already said what I said at the very top. But yes, she is right, we can only give opinions based on what the poster puts on.

Hey now, I was on your side mikolas.... lol

I didn't know all of her posting history when I posted the first reply. Now that I read it, I understand a little more. I still think we should give our advice to her, not our opinions about her as a person.