he doesnt care about you

and if you stay
then your crazy

dont be weak

get out of there

i feel like i cant live with out him.this thing has goin from love to obsession.if i walk away from him.ill never forgive myself,ill b living on what ifs.. he`s all i think about 24/7 his on my mind.

but your in love with your cousin?\

:/

He doesnt respect you. Whether its only you two or around his friends he needs to respect you. You deserve much better and there are men out there that treat their women good and appreciate them. The whole thing just sounds like he is too immature for you.

Your young and you will have many loves in your life. Some will be bad and others will sweep you away. You dont need someone bringing you down, Good luck and remember you are #1, only you can change the situation cause it sounds like he not anytime soon......

the thing with my cousin is something from my childhood on up till now.but dont get me wrong i still love my boyfriend.

leave him and your cousin alone!! You are wasting you time, if that means anything to you.

i agree

but you never had it were you can`t picture how your life would be with out that person???

Why aren't you in school?

yes i have

have you had it where you can picture being sad with that erson and abused and have to live with an abusive jerk that pushes you around and treats you like crap

because ive done that too

i am in school. on fridays this is what we do.

On Fridays you sit in the computer lab and write on message boards? Sounds like a great education.

but he does not put his hands on me.but emotionally yea he pushes me around,i know he does what he does because he feels in his heart that no matter what he says to me.im not going no where.but thats not really true.he told me that im his forever and that im not going no where.and im kind of scared of what he may do if i leave....

Blah what a waste of a young lady -_-. You can do better then that. Let me tell you something, EVERY (ok not every, but quite close enough), most girls who have been in a close relationship at least once have at least felt the same thing you did. Where they just cannot believe they can move on and he is the only one for them. Bull. Simple bull. There would be hundreds of millions more depressed women in this world if they never moved on from their first love. Bluntly and somewhat harshly speaking (sorry, I'm not gonna be too sentimental sounding because I have a test tomorrow on a saterday!!!) Attachment is a blindness, that is all, whether or not it is directed to somebody worth it, it does not matter, it still creates this barrier between your instincts/intelligence and the heart. These are the kind of cases where you should NOT let your heart and emotions get to the matter, take a deep breath and think things through with your brain.

If he really is like this, he will ditch you inevitably. Or, he will wed you and abuse you for the rest of your life. Are either of these what you desire? If not, hopefully not, you will move on. But I have a feeling you won't, as many of my girl friends did not and continued to feed so much energy into their undeserving man, which they all came out heartbroken anyway since the guy left them anyway.

So what I mean is this:
1. Either you try to cling on and stick with him, take more mental abuse, begin to crumble and have your mind shaped into thinking bad about yourself (low self esteem is common), and then he will leave you, leaving you more crumbled, with a twisted mentality due to the pain, and taking months if not years to heal. Meaning you have spent many hours/days/months/years trying to cling on for nothing and you will be in even more unbearable pain.
2. Or you think rationally, look at his personality and see if he can change (use your brain, do not let hope blind you and go "i think he can really change for me!"), if he cannot, move on, take your time licking your wounds and heal, which may also be months or years, but you will be far less damaged mentally and have saved time.

If you take option 2. I guarantee that once you have gotten over him (which you will unless you decided to become a hermit and posted pictures of him everywhere from the ceiling to the toilet paper), you will be much happier knowing that you did not stick with something that you would regret. If you take option 1, I cannot say if you will ever recover from a potentially traumatic ordeal, but if you have healed after some time, you are going to go "jeez why the heck did I spend so much time on this guy, I could have used all that time I wasted being depressed to better myself or catch up with friends or maybe found a better boyfriend, or etc, etc, etc.

Sorry if I seem harsh, I kind of say this without emotion because I feel like a tape recorder saying this to my girl friends over and over and over and over again. They rarely listen and go "yea i know... but" because they let their emotions get to them, I always hear "I'll give him one more chance". Each and every day, their hearts get ripped a piece to a piece till all I get to see is them crying or with a fake smile telling me they are ok =(. Don't let that happen to you, it saddens me seeing my friends going through the same things, nobody should deal with such pain in a relationship.

Be among the wise!

and what do you think we do during the week genius??

Wow. No need to get testy little missy. I'm not going to listen to your drivel about how your boyfriend wants you to have his baby then treats you like dog meat the next minute. But, oh, by the way, you are also in love with your hot, hot cousin.

You need more than a message board to solve your issues. You need a mental health professional.

thanks for the advice mikolas

i only need a mental health professional if i take advice from an airhead like you.

I hope you get an A in the class you are in!