im 16 yrs old and im having a girl very soon

let me ask you a few questions

how much do you and your bf make?
where do you work?
howwill you go to school?
how will you work and go to school and take care of your kid?
how will you pay for daycare and everything else?

where do you live?
do you live with your bf?
what if the baby has a deformity? are you ready to deal with a handicapped child?
will you have to be on welfare?
how much money do you have saved up?

If you NEED ANY goverment assistance or HELP..

You are NOT ready for a baby.

You should be able to take care of the baby yourself.

This needs to be moved to either Teen Pregnancy or Trying to Get Pregnant.

teen pregnancy

well me i make 11 dollars a hour and my boyfriend do welding and makes 13 dollars an hour so he is making more than me or whatever and yeah we do live together we got our own place in september, i don't need the government and my money i work for can go for the daycare or whatever but anyways i am very ready and stable to have a baby and i know what i am doing and i asked yall nicely that if you don't have something nice to say then you don't have to respond back

hmph...

what was that for do you have something to say about the situation?

nope. go for it if you think you're REALLY ready. good luck to y'all!

She did not say anything mean to you, so don't be defensive. She asked perfectly logical questions that ANY potential parent needs to answer. You answered them, clearly proving that you are not simply one of many young teens who want a baby because "it'll be fun"! We wanted to make sure you'll be able to provide for the child.

Oh ok i'm sorry i just don't want anyone to think i'm a young and dumb teen because i'm not like a 16 year old i have a mind of a 21 year old i don't like partying, doing drugs, or other dumb things that teens do i like being with friends and family i think i'm ready for a baby and if i'm not then i will do anything to provide for me and my child and i'm staying in school and i got lots of help emotionly and physically thank you everyone who have answered and responded back to help me understand

Do not post in all caps; it is childish and irritating. If you could edit your post so it was written like a mature adult, I will then read it. Thank you.

Ok I'm 17 and a male, Trust me your current boyfreind may seem like he suits well and you may thing your ready for a family, but really why not live a little before going to have a child? My sister is 18 and is having a unplanned child, needless to say she thought it would be easier than it is. Also as someone else brought up what if the child has a disablity? Do you really think you would be able to cope on just your boyfreinds wage? I really hope you don't go ahead, not so much for you but for the child. I think i'm mature for my age and I sure as heck know I would not be able to have a child. Also remember at 17 you still have lots of raving hormones and via evolution your body is telling you your ready to get pregnant, but is your mind?

do not post in all caps

you asked for help so reguardless of the replies youll get ones you dont like and ones you do
if youre sooo grown up then learn to deal with it

so let me ask:how do you plan to go to school and work and have time for your baby?
youd have to go to school all day and work all night to be able to support the baby
then when will you have time to spend with the child?

i never said youre not ready so dont put words in my mouth
im asking you a simple question to try and help you out. if you cant answer without getting mad then it shows theres something wrong

like i said what if your baby is born retartded? or with a handicap? you ready to deal with that too?

She's probably in bed now, it's past her bed time.
j/k
I wish her the best.

i'm not going to have to work honey did you read my message i guess you can't read that well but anyways he is going to work and if he act up i got family that will help

My only concern is, are you going to continue your education? Not to sound nerdy here, but the younger generation of women, given the opportunity they have that their grandmothers did not, I feel should all attend school and rise in societal standards. There isn't anything wrong with being a stay at home mom, but it's such a waste of a potential mind of a young lady in this era. Yes, I guess you make 11 dollars an hour, which is pretty decent for a 16 year old, but is that going to be your goals, your limitations for the next 50 years?

Blah, I just read that you don't need to work since your boyfriend will support, which seems too dependent and too similar to the lifestyles of the past -_-. You don't seem that concerned if he does "act up" it seems? You'll just move on from him to your family? hmm

You are lucky that you seem to have this tons of money from your family and his family. I hope you utilize it wisely.

i'm 16 and i am a mother, it's harder than you think reconsider wait a few years then decide

I make 17 dollars and hour and my bf makes 15. We are 20 and 21. We have a decent place and one 2006 car and a 1979 car. we have a decent apartment and food on the table.

We can barely support ourselves sometimes. Kids cost, a lot.

so you will rely on the support and money of your family to take care of your child....

youre not ready