Neighbour Relationship - Pros and Cons? Posted: 11-01-07 13:25pm
What's your opinion on having a
relationship with someone nearly living
next door ? What are the pros and cons ?
I'm asking this because I'm quite likely
to enter one... I have an opinion on this
but I wanted to hear yours.
My opinion: this has many advantages, but
could make things very difficult when you
want some time off for yourself.
Pre-bonding negociations may be needed!
You?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-01-07 13:37pm
Relationships are always difficult when
you want time to yourself, even if its not
alot!
I don't think it would be any different
than having any other relationship. Just
communicate when you want your "me time"
or when you are ready to do something. Any
cons of the situation can be worked out
through talking I would think.
Pros? uh, you don't need to put up very
much effort to see eachother? I suppose to
me thats a far greater pro being that I'm
3 and a half hours away from my boyfriend.
So maybe I'm just not thinking straight.
Unless this girl is crazy and you think
she'll be climbing your tree to enter your
window at random points in the day I
really wouldn't think living too close is
an issue.
Unless this girl is crazy
and you think she'll be climbing your tree
to enter your window at random points in
the day I really wouldn't think living too
close is an
issue.
Hahahahahaha ! I was just thinking of that
and considering to add this to my post
Yeah I've had 2h+ relationships too. The
journey is boring, the meeting is magic,
the leaving is heart-breaking and the
coming home is depressing... I'm yet
wondering if short distance won't affect
our passion. Knowing your boyfriend's
across the street, doesn't this make less
of an interest ? Having less "ohh I wanna
know what he's doing, he's my hero"
moments ?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-01-07 14:55pm
Well I've never been in the situation so I
guess I can't really say, however I'd like
to think I'd have more enthusiasm in any
relationship I'm in!
Does living with a person mean you'd lose
that spark? Nope, not enough to make the
relationship less worthwhile anyways.
Otherwise we'd all be in long distance
relationships! And just because you are on
the same street doesn't mean you won't go
on dates or anything right? The interest
will be there as long as you don't just
sit on a couch all day together watching
re-runs. If thats the case then I'd think
anyone would lose interest.
haha if you want be her hero then mow her
lawn or bring her flowers! You're still
going to have to earn to be the hero in
her eyes just like everyone else
And your description of long distance
relationships is so true. I hate it...
Her father is a gardener so I better not
challenge him on this area!
You're completely right, the lady doesn't
have to dig back in memories to know that
she loves me ; it's my job to remind
her why she loves me !
(hoping everything will happen in this
relationship's favour)
Maddie34
wrote:
And your description of long
distance relationships is so true. I hate
it...
Sorry for that Best luck still.
Your boyfriend must be lucky to have you
for accepting such a distance
if anyone else has any further
comment/story to tell don't hesitate
a'ight.
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roxy101
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Posted: 11-03-07 14:45pm
i figure.. even people who are crazy about
eachother need alone time.
if she's right for you and she's cool
..she'll get that and won't be pissy if
you dont want to hang out and just be
alone.
just don't over do it and kill the
relationship
yaknow like ..playing a new favorite song
over and over again ..until you can't
stand to listen to it anymore
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roxy101
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Posted: 11-03-07 14:50pm
and i guess i'd say ..if you NEED to be
nearly inaccessible to create passion
..thats probably not healthy either.
if you're right for eachother it shouldn't
really matter.
take it easy -- those are just a few ideas
that popped out.
I'm not continuously playing with a girl's
emotions or patience to make her dying to
see me. I agree that if we're both cool
and take this seriously things will run
just smoothly.
But yeah I think we all can say that we
need some time off but it's not like I
would kick her out for coming by susprise
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Maddie34
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Posted: 11-03-07 21:15pm
haha I know where you are coming from, "me
time" just doesn't come often enough
sometimes! I just don't think where she
lives really affects your free time or the
passion.
Just make sure that IF there are any
problems you address them quickly. Talk
over whats working and whats not.
AND stay off her lawn so her dad doesn't
freak out.
