Problem Getting Up Cause I Think Too Much During Sex.

Your girlfreind may not like this idea, but have you tried thinking about sex with another women (for example some porn star) or something you wish your girlfreind would do, this would keep your mind busy and your penis.. well busy also!

I have tried that but it doesnt really work, its like if im thinking so much about having sex that it stops me from actually doing it... see i took her virginity so I dont know if im just afraid of hurting her because shes not used to it yet so that may stop me from staying erect. I was wondering if there was something that may help my mind to relax like a pill or something of that sort to help me out.

I'm not really able to offer you advice on pills, knowing me I would tell you to get cyanide or something! Hmm, I know this can be embarising but why not talk to her about how your feeling, tell her you are afraid you might hurt her and that she should let you know if she feels any pain. I know how that sounds stupid and no doubt you will be nervous but it will help ease your nerves.

So i talked to her about how im feeling and all but I swear I dont know whats wrong with me, either I get too nervous which i doubt cause im comfortable with her or its something else... I still think I just think too much during it, like my mind tries so hard to be hard that it doesnt happen and no matter what I do I cant relax.

I heard that It may be something called "performance anxiety" ... what could I do to solve this?

Well, I'm fairly confident you know what the problem is: You think too much. There isn't that much thinking involved in sex.. it's fairly simple. You want to have sex... and you're with someone who wants to have sex... so you have sex. Putting too much thought into it (especially the kind of thoughts you're having) distracts you. If she wants to have sex... just do it. If it hurts, she'll tell you. You have to get in that mindset to have good sex. Just trust each other and go to 'er.

If that doesn't work, there are pills you can take, but save those for when/if you have actual erectile dysfunction....

I have the same problem, when i first meet my girlfriend i used to be able to get boners all the time and i think the reason was because i knew there was very low possibility of us having sex since it was very early into the relationship. The first time we where going to have sex i had a boner just from kissing/cuddling but after we took our clothing off (i knew we where about to have sex) right before i was about to put it in i completely lost my boner.

Ill give you an example that i know i have this "Performance anxiety". When were at a friends house or in public i'm able to get hard (Really hard) from kissing/wutnot because i know theres no possibility of us having sex. When where alone (i have gotten better) i'm able to get a boner most of the time but majority of the time its not a really hard/strong boner like i do when masturbating or in public.
Sometimes i do get a strong boner when where alone and i insert it but then i start thinking too much about cuming too fast... and you know what happens... i cum fast its very fusterating but i think i'm getting better before i used to cum within seconds of a blowjob/hand job now its really hard for me to come though foreplay. i told her about my problem and i think it made it a lot better.

I still have this problem with her but its getting better hopefully ill be able to stop thinking so much about what going to happen and enjoy the moment.

If anyone knows anyway to help this further please let us know thanks!