You have to get you feeling out in the open before anyone can help you. Self esteem is one of the hardest things to master. It is a gradual move. Little by little and baby steps. Do something nice for yourself. Go get a nice hair cut, some cool looking close and take those shoulders of yours and stand tall with shoulders straight. That will give you a feeling of power. Walk down the street like you own it!
Carry yourself in a manner that will turn every head. You are only 20 years old with a lifetime ahead of you. Let's make it a good self confident one eh? You are as good as the thoughts you put in your mind. Think power!
And you are probably a knock out too.

Any other good advice for this wonderful person?

Carrie

Your friend is obviously concerned about you, so maybe try talking to her about how you're feeling so she can help you. I know it seems hard, but if you really consider her a close friend she should provide all the support & help you need.

MsSky is right, you definitely need to go out & treat yourself.. you deserve it! =)

Thank you guys for responding I haven't cut since I posted and I have opened up to my friend

But uless you open up to us, there is no way we are going to be able to be of any help to you. That is what we all are here for. Not just the supporters, but the whole family forum. There might just be a small tib bit that you are holding back that will help us give you some insight. There are great people on this board that have been through or are going through what you are. You are in a place now where you can open up without feeling laughed at. We need to try and figure out what is the trigger that is causing you to cut.
I hope you find it withing yourself to make us your friends and confide in us.
I am so happy to hear that you have not cut since coming to the board. You will find alot of compassion and understanding here. Bravo! Now you know you don't have to cut.
BTW: I too am a wound scratcher.

Carrie

I was a scratcher for a few months when I was about 14. Age has nothing to do with it, problems affect people of all ages. My problems were also caused by pent up self esteem issues.
I was so glad to read that you hadn't cut again for that time, was wondering how you were doing now. It's a vicious cycle, and I sincerely hope that you broke out of it and sorted it all out.
Lauren. x

Hi Lauren, I just saw your post and was wondering if you still do the scratching..You said you did it for a few months..The previous post was from 2007 and not sure if this person is still on forum..If not I hope they are doing ok and if they are I hope the same..k

Hey kdlee,
I'm glad to say that no, I no longer self harm at all. I was lucky enough to be surrounded with amazing people that helped me out with all my self esteem issues, and made me realise that there were other ways I could express them, like sport, acting and writing.
I also hope that CaroleDiane is leading a happy healthy life.
Lauren. x

Lauren am glad you no longer do the self injury..

So, you are an actress and love to write..That's wonderful..I hope you have a brilliant career..k