I would go to a gynecologist and talk to them. You're over the age of 18 so you should be getting a pap smear every 1-3 years anyway now.

I think your need a gyno to check you out. having your period 7 months apart is not normal

I have had the same problem for years. the pill helped me regulate, but each time i try to go off of it, i will go months between periods, and then have periods that last 2-3 weeks if not more (one lasted 7 months) they are exactly as you describe, just heavy enough to need a tampon or pad.

I know that the pill helped me a lot with this, they were completely regular, but any time I go off, I have no idea, they're awful. ...

Anyone have any ideas for either of us? I personally have been to the doctor and their only answer is the pill which i don't want to be on because i'm trying to get pregnant, obviously not going to work if my dumb period won't stop...

Have you ever thought of seeing an acupuncturist? They can use herbals which will help to regulate your hormones, and help regulate your cycle. All naturally, and more safely than using prescription medicine that can harm you in ways that aren't even known. Sometimes you don't need to do the actual acupuncture, but just the herbals. A medical doctor will almost always suggest pharmaceutical drugs, where a homeopath or alternative style doctor will use natural herbals. If you want to get pregnant you can let them know and they will only use safe stuff for pregnancy.