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Q: Im Losing a Friend...

asked by: very-confused on October 31st, 2007

New User

me and my best friend jessica has been best friends since the 6th grade.and now we are in the 12th.but i moved away from her when we was in the 7th grade.ever since i moved we have been talking on the phone and writing to each and sending pictures for 6 whole years! can you believe it.but it went by fast.but before i moved i use to go her house like every other friday sleep over,i use to go places with them.i knew her mom ,her aunt,her uncle,her grandma, and her little brother was so inlove wit me(he was 2,my little baby danielito)(he`s 8 now)before i moved we could not go one day without talking to each other.now me and her still talk but now we can go up to months without talking.i have tried to talk to her more than one time about this it`s like she dont care about this friendship like it do.and i hate to see it die,but this friendship is all most gone,she says that we are still bestfriends but she has a boyfriend ,i have a boyfriend,and she has other friends and i have other friends and its like we are forget about each what can do to put some life back into this friendship.

p.s she only lives like 45 miles away from me.maybe less than that.

Replies(8)

Tylanas

replied on November 1st, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I'm a bad person to post to this, because I'm one of those people that stopped talking to their friends after graduating highschool. I moved every three years as a kid so I never had any long term friends.

I can say that losing one friend is NOT the end of the world. Friendships come and go.

Also, yes. This post needs to be moved.

very-confused

replied on November 2nd, 2007

New User

Eiri wrote:

sorry

young Girl

replied on November 2nd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

huney sometimes life changes and people change
a few very few people stay forever in your life

its hard to let go of a good friend that you care about but remember that life changes dramatically excpecially in your teenage years.

people move on and it keeps on going

Verizon-y

replied on November 2nd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I was on the other end from you, I was the one not calling and my friend was hurt. But she discovered that even if time went by and we called each other, we were just as happy to be talking to each other as before.

Brooklyn

replied on November 2nd, 2007

New User

Wow, ease up on her ok?
Hey i think you should really tell her what you just said. Tell her that you guys are growing apart and that you don't want that. Be honest. I know it's hard, but you need to try. I had the same problem as you too, you know. I just told my friend that I didn't want us to grow apart, and that I want to stay best friends. He took it really good, he introduced me to his friends and once a month we have a little get together. You should totally do that too! When you tell her this, don't call her up, or text message or whatever. You just need to get your butt over to her house talk to her in person, and tell her what you worry is happening. And if she does't want to stay good friends with you, then she should't be her best friend in the first place if she is just going to treat you like that. One more thing you other people posting her messages, if you don't have any helpful advice, ypur NOT helping. Like the saying goes: If your not part of the solution, you're part of the problem.

PenguinsRus

replied on November 5th, 2007

Supporter

Friendships do come and go, and people grow apart. You need to sit down and talk to her. Relationships, whether it be a romantic relationship, a friendly relationship, a work/professional relationship...they can't work without proper communication. It may be hard to sit down and talk about, but once you get things out there I am sure you will both feel much better.

very-confused

replied on November 13th, 2007

New User

i have talked to her face to face she says that she is going to change and we agreeed that we will hang out 2 or 3 times a month at least(because of the distance)its been going good so far let`s see how long this can last thanks everybody ill keep you up dated....

anniek

replied on November 13th, 2007

Experienced User

Hope it goes well for you two. I lost alot of good friends after highschool and you know sometimes it still hurts, I miss them! But I now have good friends who can relate to my life now. At least you are both willing to work on it!

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