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Q: a Question About Clitoris Stimulation

asked by: Marlene Taylor on October 31st, 2007

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Greetings, Ok, I'm asking this for my girlfriend/fiance. Her question is a bit on the unusual side, so I figured I would hunt up a forum and see if anyone else has ran into this or knows anything about it.

We are both very active sexually, daily, if not more than once daily. I'm 40, and she's 33, what we have come to notice is that her clitoris is almost non-existant. I've stimulated it in several different way, attempting to create a larger target for better stimulation, yet there seems to be nothing. Under her hood, is flat, with a slight raw "tasting" spot. I can stimulate that area via oral, and it has the same affect as stimulating her clitoris.

As a bit of history here, she has been sexually abused from age of about 3 by a family member, who constantly gave her oral sex on a weekly or more basis. As she got around 13 to 14 she started to tell him no and such, so it slacked off more than. After she got older, around 16 she started having normal sex, she started masterbating around effectively till about 24ish. After that, her main form of stimulation during masterbation was direct stimulation to the clitoris. Now as years have past, she is finding that not only does the "magic" spot seems to move, and sometimes not sensitive at all, but also is badly over-sensitive at times, to the point of near pain.

Now I'm thinking there has to be a way to help her restore some of her natural balance and such? Anyone any imput here? Also, She has noticed that IF she goes for about a week without ANY stimulaltion at all, it reacts somewhat normally for the first couple of times but returns to its strange behavior quickly.

Desprately Seeking Answers!

Replies(7)

Marlene Taylor

replied on November 1st, 2007

New User

Anyone? Not sure how long it takes for people to give imput? Or if this is just a strange problems no one has heard of.

Tylanas

replied on November 1st, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I'm surprised no one answered you!

All I can say is that clitorises are small sometimes! I don't have a large clitoris either, though it is visible if the hood is pulled very far back.

She should perhaps try learning to masturbate by NOT directly stimulating the clitoris. A vibrator can aid in this venture.

I can only orgasm a few times and not in a row; I have to relax in betweeen.

Marlene Taylor

replied on November 2nd, 2007

New User

Yea, I'm suprised others haven't jumped into this conversation, part of the issue is she prefers not to use items for stimulation, I "as in BF" can use oral to get her off, or hand or such, but we were trying to see if there is a way to make it so she can have a orgasm easier without excessive clitoris masterbation. She has "medium" grade orgasms during actual sex, but finds it insanely difficult to have a full fledge large orgasm, it has happened just very seldom.

maverick007

replied on January 24th, 2009

New User

non-sensitive clitoris

I am male and have very good scientific anatomical knowledge of female genetiala.

I have been having sex with my new girlfriend for 3 months.

She tells me that she has never had any (good or bad) sensitivity in her clitoris. Using my tongue or finger (like hard, sideways) does nothing for her. She can not feel a thing.

I have been doing visual inspections whilst doing oral and finger stimualtion of her via her vagina. Her clitoris does not seem to exist, of if it does - is so small I can not see it. I have tried to retract her clitoral hood and i have a feeling that she either has congenital clitoral hood adhesions, or has a congenital absence of the clitoris.

She says her main form of stimulation for masterbation is using her fingers internally in the vagina - my guess G spot stimulation. When I do this to her she says "it feels good" but I suspect that she is faking it for my benefit. She says that her 'orgasms' are like a "small release". I have had many (100s of partners) that have strong orgasms (many multiple orgasms). I feel that my girlfriend is really not experiencing an orgasm at all - especially not a even a moderate orgasm that other females I know experience.

Has anyone else come across this problem?

Does anyone have in ideas or advice. URL weblinks to any pages that you know of that relate to congenital clitoral absense, cliteral underdevelopment (hypotrophy), or lack of clitoral sensitivity are most welcome.

Thanks heaps.

sean1308

replied on April 16th, 2009

New User

Sarge

I understand where maverick is coming from. My fiance cannot be stimulated. I have tried everything I know. She does get some pleasure from her g spot, but the clit does nothing to stimulate her. She says it feels "weird." I'm very desperate to find out why this has happened to such a select group of people. I have thus far come to believe that it is a physical defect of some sort.

ToriaMuffin

replied on July 11th, 2009

New User

why am i not sensitive in my vagina?

i have this problem. i became sexually active only several months ago and my boy friend just cant get me off using my clit. i cant even do it while touching myslef. i have the same problem as the original posters girl friend. i was raped every day from the age of 6-10. maybe this has something to do with it? no doctor seems to know what im saying and a couple dont even believe me. i have been written off as a munchouse(sp) patient. but im not. this is a problem. i need and answer. i have never orgasmed. i have no feeling of joy from sex. and my boyfriend feels like he is just using me when we have sex because he is the only one getting anything from it and it has really effected our relationship. i need help.

bamagirl1

replied on July 12th, 2009

Experienced User

Toria like all women abused you learn to turn off when your being touched wrong and yoyr probably not meaning to are still turning off when you get intimat you should see a sex therapist to help you. on the other hand im 37 and i can tell you there is not much feeling down ther. but if you over stimulate it numbs the area and its all for nothing. use light touches and only for a short time. use heavy petting to get her excited like kissing and soft touching and talking nicely to each other. this helps me. hope it helps you. goodd luck.

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