Rosie H
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If a Man WANTS you ...
Posted: 10-30-07 12:39pm
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"IF A MAN WANTS YOU"
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him
away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make
him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his
behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save
you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a
relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you
find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was
not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A
friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don 't settle. If you feel like he is
stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don 't stay because you think "it will get
better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are
not better.
The only person you can control in a
relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children
by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them
pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends
separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats
you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will
use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don 't EVER make him feel he is more
important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not
make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll
cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you
ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the
bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between
relationships...there is nothing cute
about
baggage... deal with your issues before
pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to
COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for
someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn
out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man
always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes
it for granted.
Don 't fully commit to a man who doesn't
give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know
others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll
make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her
choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a
special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire
lifetime to forget them.
BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO
TAKE A HINT..............
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young Girl
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 10-31-07 06:05am
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There was this big things about 5 years
back --- I think I saw it on Oprah. It
was prompted by a book that was called
"He's just not that into you" which was
along similary lines.
Like, if he doesn't call when he says he
will ... he's just not that into you.
If he goes to sleep when you want to talk
... he's just not that into you.
If he never offers to make a meal, do the
dishes, walk the dog.
etc. etc. etc.
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Birch
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Posted: 10-31-07 22:34pm
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I just don't dig the 'game playing' kind
of things. Like "Make him miss you
sometimes...when a man always know where
you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes
it for granted." It seems less than
honest to me.
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blondie_e
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bettyboo302
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Posted: 11-01-07 00:22am
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That is the best thing i heard all day!!!
And it is so real
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meblonde01
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Posted: 11-01-07 13:53pm
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| Birch
wrote: | I just don't dig the 'game
playing' kind of things. Like "Make him
miss you sometimes...when a man always
know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes
it for granted." It seems less than
honest to me. |
I agree.. I ask my hubby if he likes to
wonder what is going on or the real down
to here I am, I love you, lets go forward
type, and he said HONESTY all the way Tell
me how you feel.
I think that is really what most people
want, men and women..
Game playing is just way to intense to
keep up with. And it is just what it is! a
game!
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 11-01-07 16:22pm
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| Birch
wrote: | I just don't dig the 'game
playing' kind of things. Like "Make him
miss you sometimes...when a man always
know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes
it for granted." It seems less than
honest to me. |
Doesn't that refer to people just dating
rather than married people?
I found that post to be EXCELLENT advice.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 12-31-07 16:21pm
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Wow practice what you preach huh? Wow. I
just re-read that and its so true. My
relationship has fallen apart for the same
reasons. How depressing.
I think it could be for all couples.
Certain statements would apply to only
single people.
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lele25
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nightangel73
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Posted: 01-06-08 16:33pm
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| yogahoneybunny
wrote: | There was this big things
about 5 years back --- I think I saw it on
Oprah. It was prompted by a book that was
called "He's just not that into you" which
was along similary lines.
Like, if he doesn't call when he says he
will ... he's just not that into you.
If he goes to sleep when you want to talk
... he's just not that into you.
If he never offers to make a meal, do the
dishes, walk the dog.
etc. etc.
etc. |
I have read that book, it's really good. I
have also read "why men marry health
forum" by Cheryl Argov and it was a highly
educational book as well. I like the later
one better because it teaches what to do
so that "he is not that into you".
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 01-08-08 03:58am
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So the book teaches you what? I'm not
that clear on it, angel ... can you
explain?
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 01-08-08 13:14pm
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some men wont miss you though they just go
to the next girl. Some men like the girls
that just bend to their will and don't put
up any fuss you know and i'm definatly not
like that so finding a man and staying in
a relationship with them is really really
hard for me because alot of men just want
pushovers... how do you get around that
problem???
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Tylanas
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Posted: 01-08-08 19:09pm
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Keep dumping them until you find a real
man.
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 01-09-08 12:57pm
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lol or them dumping me i'm ok with that
though lol the one i have right now-chris
we get along great and our relationship
would be boring if we were both pushovers
lol but luckly neither of us are
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nightangel73
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Posted: 01-09-08 21:38pm
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| yogahoneybunny
wrote: | | So the book teaches you
what? I'm not that clear on it, angel ...
can you
explain? |
Well the books teaches you how men think
when it comes to find their mate. For
example tells you things like what you
shouldn't say to a man and what not and
tells you the reasons behind. The book is
really really good. Many things in that
book I learned through breakups, should I
have readed that book earlier it certainly
would have saved me from heartache.
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 01-11-08 02:57am
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Right. I'm reading a book right now and
was struck by this point: we can't earn
love. It's just something that someone
decides to feel toward us. We earn
approval, not love. We don't deserve
love; we don't no deserve it. Deserving
and love are unrelated.
This totally opened my eyes to my past
relationships. the whole time I was
seeking to say and do and be the right
thing, these men didn't love me. And not
because of my efforts. Just because they
didn't! It is very freeing.
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LadyAllie
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Posted: 01-12-08 23:13pm
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[quote="meblonde01"] | Birch
wrote: | I just don't dig the 'game
playing' kind of things. Like "Make him
miss you sometimes...when a man always
know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes
it for granted." It seems less than
honest to me. |
i dont think thats what they mean in this.
my mom always says "absence makes the
heart grow fonder." which i think is
true... the more you miss someone, the
more you want to see them and be with
them. its not saying to hide things from
them and play games with them. its
basically saying that you cant just be
there 24/7/365... honestly people get
bored of each other. if you make him miss
you some by spending a little bit of time
apart it will be more exciting the next
time you see eachother.
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yogahoneybunny
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Posted: 01-15-08 02:30am
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I agree with the need for separation.
Absence cultivates longing, which is
healthy and good for a relationship. But
it should be something that you
communicate with you partner, not
something that you use as bait.
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