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Q: My Best Friend Had a Miscarriage... Purposely... I Think
asked by: kittykute on October 29th, 2007
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Ok, here's the scoop. About four months ago my bestest friend Ashley got pregnant. I got really, really mad at her and told the school councilor about what happened, but truthfully, I did it out of love not because I was mad at her. Meanwhile, Ashley broke the news to her parents. They were ok with it, but her Grandmother took her out of her will blah blah blah words and words and stuff.
She had the option to have an abortion but she didn't take it. She didn't tell me why but it was written on her face. She wanted her boyfriends baby! He's 13 and she's 14!!!!! Time passes and stuff, about two weeks.
The real problem is this though, she lives in this really, really old house with this big, lovely carved staircase in the foyer. I slept over that night at her hosue when I heard her crying. I woke up and discovered she wasn't there so I ran around the house looking for her and where do I find her? At the bottom of the stairs sitting in a pool of her own blood, she was a little over five months, I think but I'm not sure. I asked her what happened and she said she tripped down teh stairs while coming down for some coffee, but I know for a fact that she hates coffee, at first I thought it was one of those weird cravings you get, but then I realized that maybe she threw herself down the stairs... a miscarriage.
I really, really don't know what to tell her. She looks up to me like a little sister, (Although we're only about a month apart,) and I want to help her, but I don't know what to say.
What should she do? Where can she go for help? Should I be mad at her? Does she need any surgery? Ash isn't hurting or anything, but her period stopped, and she occasionally feels serging pains creeping up and down her back like a, 'clothsline' she says.
Any advise would be appreciated but please, let me know if there's anything I can do! I know there might not be much, but still if I can hold up some emotional support, what should I say?
Thanks for reading!!!


Love, kittykute
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Tylanas
replied on October 29th, 2007
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I would have taken her to a hospital immediately!! This is serious, especially since she was five months along. I can't believe you didn't call 911 Evil or Very Mad

As for blaming her and all that, don't. Whether she fell on purpose or not is none of your business. She is in pain now and needs to be looked at immediately by a doctor to make sure all of the pregnancy is gone.

Hasn't she told her parents and bf!? This is an extremely serious situation that you cannot hide from them. Why do you think she threw herself down the stairs if she wanted this child?

Your friend could be in serious danger. Tell an adult NOW what happened. Just the truth: she feel down the stairs. That's all you know.
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kaiteo
replied on October 29th, 2007
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She needs to see a doctor. Seriously. If your story is accurate, that is.
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kittykute
replied on October 29th, 2007
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she is in the hospital now of course!! (Why i didn't say that is a bloody mystery!) She's ok and her boyfriend knows and he bailed
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Tylanas
replied on October 29th, 2007
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He's bailed? Like he dumped her? Why? I'm very glad she's in the hospital.
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Verizon-y
replied on October 30th, 2007
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Why are you asking US if YOU should be mad at her? You either are or are not mad at her.

This is not a situation in which "telling on someone" is appropriate.
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kittykute
replied on November 1st, 2007
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look, i'm not 'telling' on anyone. my best friencd had a misscarriage and i don't know how to react! is that a crime? I don't know how to feel or what to do and i have nobody to tell because nobody would listen! give me a break, would you?

And he bailed because he simply didn't want a child. personally, i think he was onto in the relationship for the sex but I could be wrong.
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Verizon-y
replied on November 2nd, 2007
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kittykute wrote:
look, i'm not 'telling' on anyone. my best friencd had a misscarriage and i don't know how to react! is that a crime? I don't know how to feel or what to do and i have nobody to tell because nobody would listen! give me a break, would you?

Who says you have to react at all?
kittykute wrote:

And he bailed because he simply didn't want a child. personally, i think he was onto in the relationship for the sex but I could be wrong.


I would have to say you are right, if I had to guess.
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