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What would you do?

Wedding first
Baby first
Unsure

58% [ 14 ]

29% [ 7 ]

12% [ 3 ]

Total Votes : 24

Q: Honest Opinions Needed!

asked by: Becky on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Ok I am having alot of thought about what is best. We REALLY want a baby the sooner the better but I'm thinking whether we should get married first. It's not because I don't want a baby out of wedlock- that doesn't bother me.
If we have a baby first the kids would not have a big age gap but if we get married before baby we can go on honeymoon (neil would have the kids) this wouldn't be able to happen if we had another baby- no one to look after it. Also, the parents would be registered as married on the birth certificate.

But I think if we have a wedding we will not be able to afford a baby for a long while. Weddings are really expensive here and if you include the honey moon your looking at least 20 grand.

What do you think? I really don't want to wait to have a baby but at the same time i would like to get married....

Confused

Replies(23)

mc4ever02

replied on October 29th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

We had this same issue. We decided to get married first (as opposed to a buying a house) we decided that if we didn't get married first, that we wouldn't get married. There will always be 'something' that needs the money more.

But it is really a personal decision. You don't have to have a large wedding, just a small in home with close family.

Becky

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I know but even the honeymoon would be expensive....

argh i don't know

mc4ever02

replied on October 29th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Do you guys have bridal shows over there?

mamaTT

replied on October 29th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

beckster wrote:

I know but even the honeymoon would be expensive....

argh i don't know

Would you consider skipping the honeymoon? Or maybe just going to hotel for a couple of nights? That could save you quite a bit of money.

Becky

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

The only reason I would get married before baby is so that we have the freedom of a week away by ourselves

Bridget

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

i voted baby.

beckster wrote:

The only reason I would get married before baby is so that we have the freedom of a week away by ourselves

you don't have to get married to go on vacation!

Marianne0558

replied on October 29th, 2007

Supporter

You can sign papers in court. That costs hardly anything at all. Then get to baby-making. You'd already be legally married. You could honeymoon later on when the baby is old enough to have someone watch it for that long of a time....

Becky

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I just don't know whats for the best. I will speak to Robbie when he gets back

mc4ever02

replied on October 29th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

If you guys weren't ttc, would marriage be an issue?

Becky

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Yes we wanted to get married before we thought about having a baby but I had to get divorced first lol

tigresacanela24

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I voted wedding, but just because I'm an old school kind of gal!

Jules

replied on October 29th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Weddings don't have to be expensive - ours cost £1000 including reception and honeymoon in Guernsey.

It's the marriage that's important, not the wedding.

Shanyan

replied on October 29th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I personally had a baby then I got married 3.5 yrs later. You could start planning a small, inexpensive wedding while you are ttc, and make it so it's before the baby is due so then you could still go on a honeymoon because you would still be pregnant.

I hope that I got that out right...lol

mc4ever02

replied on October 29th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I just looked at your poll results so far....I sure am glad we could help you out with your decision. Wink

chrissy721

replied on October 29th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

Jules wrote:

Weddings don't have to be expensive - ours cost £1000 including reception and honeymoon in Guernsey.

It's the marriage that's important, not the wedding.

That's about what mine was. Honeymoon included. We just went a few hours away from home, for a few nights. Smile

We are planning a nice vacation once the baby is old enough to enjoy it. I think it'd be more fun to watch the baby have a good time.

young Girl

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

baby

Becky

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I think we are going to go for a low key wedding whilst TTC. The local town hall does weddings for 30 guests for £103 on a Saturday. Then I would just have a sit down meal after

We're going to do both I think Very Happy

LadyKitten

replied on October 29th, 2007

Experienced User

Weddings don't have to cost so much. My brother's wedding (including dress and everything) cost about $500 (Cdn). It was buffet style, in a hall that was free (but people had to buy their drinks...that's where they made the money) and my now sister-in-law got her dress from a place that was going out of business for $50. I can't remember what they did for a honeymoon, but it doesn't have to be exotic. It can easily be to a city nearby for some sightseeing. A lot of people take advantage as to what is close to them. I live 45 minutes from Niagara Falls and can't believe how many people have never been there. It's nuts.

Becky

replied on October 29th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

We live in London so we're pretty much in the best city in England lol.

We may just go away for a few days to Scotland or something or maybe a family holiday away would be nice. Bring my mum and sister so we can sneak of for alone time still

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