Hi everyone!
I just found this site
I have a question I am hoping to get some guidance on....
My husband and I have 2 children (14 and 12) and after 12 years have not conceived again. For a while it bothered me, however now that my babies are older and I just turned 38 (plus just lost over 65lbs) we have decided that it is best we really not take any risks and send my husband for a vasectomy. He had a varicocele and hydrocele in years past, so we tend to guess that those issues are what has lowered his sperm count and that is why I have not concieved again, however, now we don't feel we want to add on to our family and want to permanently take care of it.
That said, last night we were "intimate" as we usually are; the first time in about a month (don't usually go that long). My cycle usually lasts 26 days however last one was only 23 days. I have not had any visible symptoms of ovulating (I usually get that mucus discharge-hasnt started yet) and I figured if my period started a week ago then I was probably safe. Now, though I am so worried that I mistook that, and worry about pregnancy.
I really would appreciate your advice. Would I be fertile without symptoms? So soon after my period? If my husband had "Taken care" of his need the day before, would that help with lowering my chances of conception?
Please tell me!
PS I havent really lurked the board, so I don't know if anything I am asking is inappropriate. I am just looking for wisdom. Please let me know privately if this was not appropriate for this board. Thank you