Teen Pregnancy Forum - Can I marry a younger man?


Can I marry a younger man?

Medical Questions-> Health Forums -> Teen Pregnancy -> Can I marry a younger man?

Author

Message

Rivas60

New User, Becoming EHEALTHy

Joined: 28 Oct 2007
Posts: 3
Location: CALIFORNIA, USA

Can I marry a younger man? Posted: 10-28-07 21:48pm


im 18 years old and pregnant, but theres one problem my boyfriend is 2 years younger than me. we want to get married so he can give our lil girl his last name, but i think i can get in trouble since i live in california. is there any way we can get married and for me not to get into trouble? some one please help me!

Dannzibelle

Supporter

Joined: 23 Oct 2006
Posts: 3811
Location: South East, England

Thanks: 30

Thanked:11

Posted: 10-29-07 06:16am


You don't have to be married to give your baby his last name, i'm not married to my boyfriend but our daughter has his last name. Oh and another thing don't type in caps it's annoying

kaiteo

Extremely EHEALTHy

Joined: 03 Oct 2007
Posts: 1578
Location: Cold, Maine

Thanks: 1

Thanked:0

Posted: 10-29-07 11:18am


Same with me. My boyfriend and I aren't married but are planning to be in the near future, but when the baby comes it will have his last name.

jessamyn

Moderator

Joined: 18 Aug 2004
Posts: 4116
Location: San Diego, CA

Thanks: 11

Thanked:3

Posted: 10-29-07 12:56pm


legally you can if his parents consent to it

Rivas60

New User, Becoming EHEALTHy

Joined: 28 Oct 2007
Posts: 3
Location: CALIFORNIA, USA

Posted: 10-29-07 22:12pm


so then i wouldn't get in to trouble

Tylanas

Especially EHEALTHy

Joined: 13 Jul 2005
Posts: 12984

Thanks: 3

Thanked:0

Posted: 10-29-07 22:27pm


Exactly, you wouldn't get in trouble. Is it illegal for a 16 year old to marry an 18 year old in California? I thought that with parental consent marriage of a minor to an adult was fine...

sexxybexxy

Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy

Joined: 28 Sep 2007
Posts: 217
Location: England, Grimsby

Posted: 10-30-07 05:37am


You don`t have to be married to give the baby his last name. I have a 2 year old and a 2 month and a half year old. i have 2 beautiful boys.Both with same dad. He is 16 and i am 15. we are getting married on (christmas eve) my 16th birthday. My children have there fathers last name.

Mabel

Moderator

Joined: 09 Mar 2006
Posts: 8963
Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,

Thanks: 179

Thanked:198

Posted: 10-30-07 09:09am

sexxybexxy wrote:

You don`t have to be married to give the baby his last name.
I have a 2 year old and a 2 month and a half year old. i have 2 beautiful boys.Both with same dad. He is 16 and i am 15.
we are getting married on (christmas eve) my 16th birthday.
My children have there fathers last name.

Are you having to go to court to get the judge to agree to this? As far as I've ever known you would need to at your age.

At 17 all that is required is for a parent to sign off. But at 16, I believe you need to petition the court for the legal right to marry and become emancipated.

jessamyn

Moderator

Joined: 18 Aug 2004
Posts: 4116
Location: San Diego, CA

Thanks: 11

Thanked:3

Posted: 10-30-07 12:29pm


i live in california and it is tru you do not have to be married to give the baby his last name though personally i think it is a mistake to do so

Mabel

Moderator

Joined: 09 Mar 2006
Posts: 8963
Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,

Thanks: 179

Thanked:198

Posted: 10-30-07 12:41pm

jessamyn wrote:

i live in california and it is tru you do not have to be married to give the baby his last name though personally i think it is a mistake to do so

To get married or give the baby his last name?

mc4ever02

Supporter

Joined: 08 Feb 2007
Posts: 3636
Location: Orlando, FL Usa

Thanks: 5

Thanked:2

Posted: 10-30-07 13:22pm

Ingi wrote:

sexxybexxy wrote:

She's making the entire thing up. So, I wouldn't base anything off her 'experience'.

I know in FL if you are pregnant or have a child you can marry the father of the child as long as you are 16 (or 15?) without parental consent.

Mabel

Moderator

Joined: 09 Mar 2006
Posts: 8963
Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,

Thanks: 179

Thanked:198

Posted: 10-30-07 13:31pm

mc4ever02 wrote:

Ingi wrote:

sexxybexxy wrote:

I know for a fact, in Washington you cannot get married without petitioning the court system if you are under 17 - period. At 17 you can have your legal guardian sign a waiver that allows you to marry - but before that age, you must go through a judge. You must also have written documents from a pastor, reverend, priest, a counselor and other 'adults' in the community that can attest to your reliability as an 'adult'. Both parties to the marriage are scrutinized - so schooling, employment, legal history - everything will be brought into court to prove your worthiness.

And, this is true even if you are pregnant.

AyaMiyaki

Especially EHEALTHy

Joined: 01 Jun 2006
Posts: 8545
Location: Floating on a cloud, United States

Thanks: 217

Thanked:15

Posted: 10-30-07 13:35pm

sexxybexxy wrote:

I thought you had a 2 year old and were pregnant with #2? Now you have two babies?

Mabel

Moderator

Joined: 09 Mar 2006
Posts: 8963
Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,

Thanks: 179

Thanked:198

Posted: 10-30-07 13:36pm

AyaMiyaki wrote:

sexxybexxy wrote:

I thought you had a 2 year old and were pregnant with #2? Now you have two babies?

Apparently we got some *lying* going on.

AyaMiyaki

Especially EHEALTHy

Joined: 01 Jun 2006
Posts: 8545
Location: Floating on a cloud, United States

Thanks: 217

Thanked:15

Posted: 10-30-07 13:37pm


Wow, something new and different around here!

mc4ever02

Supporter

Joined: 08 Feb 2007
Posts: 3636
Location: Orlando, FL Usa

Thanks: 5

Thanked:2

Posted: 10-30-07 13:37pm

Ingi wrote:

mc4ever02 wrote:

Ingi wrote:

sexxybexxy wrote:

It's all different depending on the state.

Unfortunately, I don't know any thing about California, so I can't offer to much help here.

AyaMiyaki

Especially EHEALTHy

Joined: 01 Jun 2006
Posts: 8545
Location: Floating on a cloud, United States

Thanks: 217

Thanked:15

Posted: 10-30-07 13:41pm

Ha. Imagine this. Caught in a web of lies much?

Fainted + Pregnant - What's the Risk of Miscarriage ?
Posted: 10-03-07 4:09am

sexxybexxy wrote:

hi, i am 15 and have a son aged 2.Me and his farther are getting married on my 16th birthday(christmas eve) Very
Happy

. We have just found out that i am 10 weeks pregnant with our second baby. The only problem is that i was raped 2 nights ago Crying
or Very sad

and since then i have been feeling really faint and light hearted. I fainted at school the other day and i was sent home. We are really looking forward to having a new baby in the family.
What is the risk of having a miscarriage?

So in less than a month she magically completed her pregnancy and now has a 2 month old child. Rolling Eyes

mc4ever02

Supporter

Joined: 08 Feb 2007
Posts: 3636
Location: Orlando, FL Usa

Thanks: 5

Thanked:2

Posted: 10-30-07 13:43pm

AyaMiyaki wrote:

Ha. Imagine this. Caught in a web of lies much?

Fainted + Pregnant - What's the Risk of Miscarriage ?
Posted: 10-03-07 4:09am

sexxybexxy wrote:

hi, i am 15 and have a son aged 2.Me and his farther are getting married on my 16th birthday(christmas eve) Very
Happy

. We have just found out that i am 10 weeks pregnant with our second baby. The only problem is that i was raped 2 nights ago Crying
or Very sad

So in less than a month she magically completed her pregnancy and now has a 2 month old child. Rolling Eyes

Here is her intro thread saying she is 11weeks as of 10-05-07. (it is the last entry on the last page)

http://ehealthforum.com/health/viewtopic .php?t=80584&start=80

And here is a post from today saying that she is no longer pregnant because her son was born on August 1st 07. She's super woman if she can get pregnant while still pregnant. Rolling Eyes

http://ehealthfo rum.com/health/topic111781.html

I've said something in two different threads, she hasn't said anything back yet.

Mabel

Moderator

Joined: 09 Mar 2006
Posts: 8963
Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,

Thanks: 179

Thanked:198

Posted: 10-30-07 13:45pm


Drama.

AyaMiyaki

Especially EHEALTHy

Joined: 01 Jun 2006
Posts: 8545
Location: Floating on a cloud, United States

Thanks: 217

Thanked:15

Posted: 10-30-07 13:45pm


sigh Sad little liars. There's another one floating around here in teen preg that ignored my questions too.