Why Don't People Wait 'til They're Married to Have Children? (Page 1)

To some people marriage isn't a big issue and they feel that a baby IS the next step in their relationship. What's wrong with one coming before the other? As long as the child is in a happy and loving environment I don't think it matters-- and marriage wouldn't guarantee that anyways.

i think people dont should feel the need to get married before they have kids. whats the rush to get married also? I agree with Maddie34, if a child is bought up in a happy & loving environment, i think its great.
I personally dont feel that i have to be married to have a family.

Because marriage isn't everything. If you are referring to why teens are getting pregnant on purpose then i have no idea

because marriage does not signify that you will be together forever anymore. I was with my husband for 6 years and we had 3 kids but he still left me all the same.

the thing i like about marriage is it holds a more important status, and there is less of a divorce rate than a breaking up rate.

but then again, the times are changing and marriage doesn't mean anything. which makes me sad.

marriage doesnt mean bulls**t
it doesnt have anything to do with being a good parent

you dont needa ring to be commited to each other

I agree with what everyone has said. Future, why do you care so much? You seriously get on my nerves when you imply everyone has to be the same.

I'm not married (engaged, pregnancy happened faster than expected LOL) but I do think that people should be in a stable and committed relationship before bringing a child into the world. I don't think marriage is necessary for good parenting but yes, desirable.

Marriage is just a piece of paper.... it doesnt mean anything....
Children are the true blessing....
SOme women want children .. .and are not in a committed relationship...
They shouldnt not bring stop wanting or going to have a child if they want one.. and know they have all the love and ability to be a good parent.
You dont need two to raise a child. If my sister in law would want to have children (she doesnt have a bf, or hubby or anything) that's fine.. and i see nothing wrong with it.

I was a single parent (even when i was married to my first hubby) Love the baby, b e the best parent(s) you can be... and that's all children need.

2 thousand dollars isnt enough to support you and your boyfriend and ur child? and if u finish school and college u have much higher chances of gettign a good job and supporting your family? i mean what can u possibly do if u dont finish school....1 in a million makes good money if he didnt finish school. and u want to give your child everything in the world so why rush and have kids so early when for your child's benefits its better if you wait and get ur life together before giving a life to someone else.

Ahhh...gee, getting back on track, maybe people don't wait because they aren't legally allowed to get married but they are certainly allowed to have kids?
It's a control issue? A rebellious one? (I'm thinking in regards to the young parents.)
People get pregnant accidentally, decide to have kids, but then equate a marriage with a wedding and suddenly money gets in the way?
I know a couple who waited to get married although they had kids b/c she could get more financial aid for school if she were single.
People see marriage as the gov't sham it is?

I think there are lots of hypothetical reasons.

As for the original subject (No! I'm not a grammar nazi! <_<) I don't understand why people don't wait, except in the cases where the couple doesn't believe in marriage. There are people who don't want or feel they need to be married: they are devoted to each other and they don't care about the government's final say.

Personally, if you're a person who believes in marriage, you should wait until you're married to have a child. That way it grows up in a (hopefully) stable home with two parents.

Two parents is the ideal, though my brain just thought about the possibilities of a culture where the child is traditionally only brought up by one parent (no culture in particular, kind of a fictional one). If it were socially accepted then it wouldn't be a problem because that's just how it is for them.

Personally, I would have a problem with raising a child out of wedlock. A child is something I want to share with a partner, not something I want to do alone. *shrug*