Hi!

I've been having this problem for nearly a year now and I just don't know what could be causing it. I'm 22 and I've been with my partner since last December.

Reaching orgasm for me was never easy. I've never had an orgasm during sex and I've never had anyone else manage to make me come but at least I used to be able to do it myself, usually with the aid of a vibrator but it wasn't always necessary.

However, since around the time I started seeing my current boyfriend, I've not been able to make myself come at all. Not by with him, not even by myself.

I feel like we've tried everything, we've bought toys, tried sex from every angle, with toys, without, breathing techniques... The number of hours he's spend going down on me is phenomenal but we've not really acheived anything.

But it's not quite like I'm not reaching a climax. He's come closer than anyone else at making me come and just about every time it's the same - it builds up and builds up and builds up and then, just when I think I'm going to come I get really over-sensitive and everything starts to feel unpleasant, or even hurt. I used to get like that after coming so it's like still having an orgasm but without it actually happening.

I really don't want to go and see a doctor but could anyone give me some advice on other things we can try, or anything really?

It used to be that I got so frustrated that I couldn't come but we're past that no into being where I just don't expect to come and can't see it ever happening again. Which is just depressing, really!

One more thing, and I don't really think it'll count for anything, but I contracted chlamydia from my last boyfriend and, thinking about it, it was probably around that time that the problem started. As far as I'm aware though, that wouldn't really make any difference.

Thanks in anticipation!