What can I do to feel better / to relieve depression ? Posted: 10-25-07 23:27pm
Hi I'm new to this forum I don't really
have anyone to talk to about this so here
it goes. My cousin was found dead after he
went missing a few days before his
birthday. We were best friends two peas
and in pod. We were like two of the same
person we could only talk to each other
about things and we held the same sense of
humor and shared jokes only we could
appreciate. His ex is the prime suspect
and it makes me sick because I talked to
him two days before the police found my
cousin's body and he kept trying to
convince me that my cousin committed
suicide or left him for someone else. They
had broken up a few weeks prior and my
cousin was coming home and we were going
to throw him a huge birthday party. He was
so excited about coming home. I just feel
like I'm slipping deeper and deeper into
sadness and I don't really have anyone to
talk to. My boyfriend was a friend to my
cousin and he has become an brick wall and
only wants to play World of Warcraft.
Lately he's been choosing the game over
me. I haven't been able to get into
contact with my friends and my family is
enraged over the whole ordeal and want
justice. They put me up on this pedistal
because my cousin and I were so close. God
I hate this all so much I either want to
run away or go to sleep and never wake up.
I miss him so much and I love him with all
my heart. I talked to a kind detective who
is going to prob going to take a statement
from me next week. I'm afraid if I have to
go to court. If I do go then I would have
to see the ex and I'm afraid of what I may
do to him. Is there anything I can do to
feel better? I feel so lost and alone now.
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Fairy Godmother
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Yes There Is................ Posted: 10-25-07 23:48pm
Sign up on here, and everyday look for
people looking out for specific problems
or questions taht you may be knowledgable
in. YOu actauly can make so amny new
freinds here. This all started from my
from depression and it hss helped me
tremendously. It feel so much better
knowing I am not the only person in the
world who is SAD/depressed.........Its
totally amazing the joy and feelings you
get from helping another person. I;ve been
her almost 4 years. I know you wernt
through a veyr sad and trying experience,
bt that is gone now and you ahve today and
tomorrow.Focus on what you could do o try
to make someone elses life happy. You will
in return have a greatful feeling in your
heart and the sadness just kinda melts
away. Its also what your friend would have
wanted for you to do.....carry on and in
his memory, make someone laugh or smile,
help them to have a better day that soe of
hte rest of us. IN time, we will feel our
rewards..............GOd is watching you
and with you always...........you are
never lost or alone here.........we are
ALWAYS here to get your back! HUGGS!
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marvel
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Posted: 10-26-07 00:17am
I'm so sorry to hear about what has
happened.
Sometimes just being on here helps... just
talking about it and having people always
here to listen. I'm one of those people!
Be strong! Feel free to PM me if you ever
need to talk!
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acaciacloud
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Oct 2007 Posts: 2 Location: , US
Posted: 10-27-07 21:36pm
One of the things that's been making this
some what bearable is making goals and
venting through art. It never hurts to
beat a canvas with a paint brush. It just
sucks that when I see something we both
loved that ache comes back that says
you'll never see him again. No one can
ever fill his shoes and I know that and
it's depressing. It's so much easier to
live in a bubble that reality only exists
outside of. Death only occurs with the old
and the people who have lived not someone
who's life was snipped at the bud. It
doesn't hurt as much now as it has when
the build up to when he was missing and
the climax when they found him. He was a
beautiful person and he had to be thrown
in water and was found purely by chance.
The only way they could identify him was
through his dental records. We couldn't
even have an funeral he had to be
cremated. Is having anger normal? The scum
bag ex who is the prime suspect is trying
to deny us my cousin's belongings and
medical records and has lawyered up.
Logically if you loved someone let alone
the prime suspect of their demise you
would want to appease the victim's family
right?
