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Q: What can I do to feel better / to relieve depression ?

asked by: acaciacloud on October 25th, 2007

New User

Hi I'm new to this forum I don't really have anyone to talk to about this so here it goes. My cousin was found dead after he went missing a few days before his birthday. We were best friends two peas and in pod. We were like two of the same person we could only talk to each other about things and we held the same sense of humor and shared jokes only we could appreciate. His ex is the prime suspect and it makes me sick because I talked to him two days before the police found my cousin's body and he kept trying to convince me that my cousin committed suicide or left him for someone else. They had broken up a few weeks prior and my cousin was coming home and we were going to throw him a huge birthday party. He was so excited about coming home. I just feel like I'm slipping deeper and deeper into sadness and I don't really have anyone to talk to. My boyfriend was a friend to my cousin and he has become an brick wall and only wants to play World of Warcraft. Lately he's been choosing the game over me. I haven't been able to get into contact with my friends and my family is enraged over the whole ordeal and want justice. They put me up on this pedistal because my cousin and I were so close. God I hate this all so much I either want to run away or go to sleep and never wake up. I miss him so much and I love him with all my heart. I talked to a kind detective who is going to prob going to take a statement from me next week. I'm afraid if I have to go to court. If I do go then I would have to see the ex and I'm afraid of what I may do to him. Is there anything I can do to feel better? I feel so lost and alone now. Crying or Very sad

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Fairy Godmother

replied on October 25th, 2007

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Yes There Is................

Sign up on here, and everyday look for people looking out for specific problems or questions taht you may be knowledgable in. YOu actauly can make so amny new freinds here. This all started from my from depression and it hss helped me tremendously. It feel so much better knowing I am not the only person in the world who is SAD/depressed.........Its totally amazing the joy and feelings you get from helping another person. I;ve been her almost 4 years. I know you wernt through a veyr sad and trying experience, bt that is gone now and you ahve today and tomorrow.Focus on what you could do o try to make someone elses life happy. You will in return have a greatful feeling in your heart and the sadness just kinda melts away. Its also what your friend would have wanted for you to do.....carry on and in his memory, make someone laugh or smile, help them to have a better day that soe of hte rest of us. IN time, we will feel our rewards..............GOd is watching you and with you always...........you are never lost or alone here.........we are ALWAYS here to get your back! HUGGS!

marvel

replied on October 26th, 2007

Supporter

I'm so sorry to hear about what has happened.

Sometimes just being on here helps... just talking about it and having people always here to listen. I'm one of those people!

Be strong! Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk!

acaciacloud

replied on October 27th, 2007

New User

One of the things that's been making this some what bearable is making goals and venting through art. It never hurts to beat a canvas with a paint brush. It just sucks that when I see something we both loved that ache comes back that says you'll never see him again. No one can ever fill his shoes and I know that and it's depressing. It's so much easier to live in a bubble that reality only exists outside of. Death only occurs with the old and the people who have lived not someone who's life was snipped at the bud. It doesn't hurt as much now as it has when the build up to when he was missing and the climax when they found him. He was a beautiful person and he had to be thrown in water and was found purely by chance. The only way they could identify him was through his dental records. We couldn't even have an funeral he had to be cremated. Is having anger normal? The scum bag ex who is the prime suspect is trying to deny us my cousin's belongings and medical records and has lawyered up. Logically if you loved someone let alone the prime suspect of their demise you would want to appease the victim's family right?

punkybrewster

replied on May 29th, 2009

New User

god yes anger is really normal you have a right to be mad an upset and to express how you feel. i don't know what its like to lose a best friend/cousin but i did lose my dad and i was mad for a very long time. its all got to do with the grieving and wanting the loved one back.

bamagirl1

replied on July 1st, 2009

Experienced User

i lost my big brother who was 21 to the negligance of others the others being his best friend and his friends father in law who is now a state rep for the state of alabama at the time he wasrunning for president. did he pay for my brothers death , whar do you think . money says it all he got my brothers childhood best friend to testify against my brothers good name . and now hes running my state oh yes i have anger still to this day and not only did he kill my brother but itled to the suicide of my mother over it all. so 2 deathes. if i saw him now i would not keep my mouth shut. but i ask for forgivness for my anger when i pray. in the end all you can do is live a good life for them and remember them and never let their memory die. in the end they will get theirs one way or another. good luck with everything

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