In my school, there was this girl who was a year older than me and she was seeing and sleeping with her history teacher, who was 30 . She also had a younger sister who was in first year and she found the teacher asleep on their couch. That would just be so weird, seeing one of your teachers in your house because your sister was sleeping with him

As for age difference, I think there's a limit. I wouldn't go out with anyone over 10 years older than me, because it's basically a new generation. If they haven't got kids already, they might want them and if some 30 year old told me he wanted kids right now I wouldn't be ready for it. For something like this to work, there would have to be a lot of compromise.

Wow, Future, weird. You and meBlonde both, I wonder how common that is in general??

My bf is 12 years older, and we've gotten along marvelously these past (almost) five years. It's really an individual thing.

A 30 year old could treat a 16 year old with more care and respect than another 16 year old could.

It's probably rare, but it doesn't mean it could never happen.

I think that any case of teacher-student relationships should be investigated, because I have heard/read numerous accounts of the preppy, spoiled little b*tches falsely reporting sexual abuse by teachers because said teachers gave the girls bad grades. Then an innocent teacher's life and career may get ruined (as well as many other possible job endeavors because being labeled a sex offender screws you over in so many occupations).

I just think it sucks as well when kids will put the moves on a teacher and then the teacher gets blamed, even if they don't respond to the student's advances. But teachers who do try to or succeed in getting involved romantically with students should definitely be punished - they aren't in an educational setting to hunt for booty.

I hate to admit to this, but I might have pursued my high school sociology teacher after graduation if he wasn't married. He was a really cool guy and very smart and funny (and very handsome)...then he spawned. Barf - big turn-off to me. Wifey can have him

I put that to fend off any 'I'm only 15, but I'm a mature adult, really!' posts. XD

I just remembered about this, but a girl I knew from college was seeing one of our lecturers, and I believe they're getting married next year. She's 19 and he's 32 I think, and they seem really happy, and it didn't really seem like too much of an age difference because he was almost like a student himself. So, I guess this sort of thing can work out! So yeah, each individual case should be looked at.

But I think there's a definite difference between someone who is over 18, not living with their parents, paying their own rent and grocery bills, etc. vs. someone who is still in high school.

Exactly.

I agree with Birch... you have to evaluate the age difference individually.
My sister began dating her now husband when she was 22. He was 40. Now they're married. She's about to graduate as valedictorian of the Charleston Law school! I'm so proud of her!
My sister has always been *different*... we're just happy she found someone that had so much in common with her!

my problem isn't the number of years in between people, just how young they are when they start.

a 22 year old dating a 40 year old is a LOT different than a 16 year old dating a 34 year old.

In many cultures you find younger women with older men, Our lady (St Mary) was around 14 or 15 when she was married to St Joseph an older man supposedly around 45.

Muselms women often marry older men, perhaps a younger woman is more suited to older men since a female matures more quickly than a male

Muslim women are FORCED to marry older men; there is no choice involved, so you cannot compare. When they rarely get the chance, they usually marry men their own age.

Gu£st, not to bring up a different forum, but we think you've abandoned us in the "Official Catholic church doctrine on homosexuality" forum. There are many questions we want answered!

I find the whole teacher student thing weird, they're there to teach not have sex. When i was at school there was a guy who worked as a teaching assisstant and he was about 21-22 maybe and he was regularly seen with 16-18 year olds from the school on weekends, he's still working there now....

And as for the age thing, age can be importnant in a relationship but it isn't the be all and end all. My sister was 15 when she met her husband and he was 27, she's now 20 and he's 31 and are happily married wiht their own home, careers and two children. it does come down to maturity too

I'd be married at 14 too if my father had enough goats....

i don't think age matter... to me anyways. because my grandparents were 21 years apart and had 13 kids together and they loved each other no matter what even though they were so far apart in age. myself personally i would not date a guy way older than me but it happens and it's not always a bad thing. most times yes it is but look at my grandparents? it wasn't a bad thing for them...