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Posted: 10-25-07 10:36am
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Why is it that
more and more teachers are being charged
with having sexual relationships with
their students?
Why are the teachers mostly female?
Is this because more people have sort of
wised up to the possibilities of teachers
being involved romantically with their
students?
Could it be that more, and more young
teachers are being hired, making
attractions inevitable?
What is going on?
Just wanted to hear what some of your
opinions are on this
subject.
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Posted: 10-25-07 10:51am
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Oh man don't even get me started... We
have just gone through this at one of our
schools that made the headlines on Good
Morning America. This one was a male
coach that was dating and eventually
married his 16 year old girlfriend. He
quit his teaching job and is now working
at FoodLion with her.
Its rediculous
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-25-07 10:55am
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Yes I know! It's
getting out of control, really. Just last
week, a female teacher was arrested at one
of our local schools for being
romantically involved with her 16 year old
student. She was young, just like the
majority of them.
Why is it that the usual male teacher
charged with this is usually an older man,
while it is mostly younger female
teachers??
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Posted: 10-25-07 11:21am
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I think it mirrors society, where you
don't often see a younger male with an
older woman, at least not as much as you
see the reverse.
It is creepy, though.
When I was a teenager I had a relationship
with a much older man, and it was creepy,
and even more creepy now that I look back
on it.
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Posted: 10-25-07 11:44am
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Ooooh it's soooo disturbing...
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Posted: 10-25-07 12:24pm
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I have a teacher friend who is male. When
he first started at his school, he got a
love letter from a student who was
intensely obsessed with him. He took it to
the admin right away to avoid anyone
thinking that he was going along with it
or part of the situation. He is always
afraid (as a band teacher, it always seems
to happen to the band teacher) that some
kid or parent will get the wrong idea and
get him chased out of town.
On one hand, teachers need to be
prosecuted to every extent who do this
sort of thing. It's creepy and wrong and
damaging to the students involved. On the
other, we need to have faith in the
teachers!! I don't know where the
intermediate ground lies.
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Posted: 10-25-07 12:41pm
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I wonder how many of these relationships
are consensual until Mom and Dad find out.
I also wonder if this is really that new
or if the media found something new to
sink their hooks into.
I got hit on a lot when I was teaching in
a high school. I heavily chastized the
students in public. Hitting on a
teacher...geezus. If something like that
happened when I was in school it would've
been quite a scandal for the kid.
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Posted: 10-25-07 14:47pm
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My boyfriend's cousin taught in england
and got her teaching license revoked
because she fooled around/slept with her
teenaged students.
She's now changing old people's diapers in
a nursing home in small town Ontario.
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Posted: 10-25-07 14:57pm
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| Birch
wrote: | I wonder how many of these
relationships are consensual until Mom and
Dad find out. I also wonder if this is
really that new or if the media found
something new to sink their hooks into.
I got hit on a lot when I was teaching in
a high school. I heavily chastized the
students in public. Hitting on a
teacher...geezus. If something like that
happened when I was in school it would've
been quite a scandal for the
kid. |
The one in our town was quite interesting.
The parents of the 16 year old girl knew
that their daughter was involved with her
coach. They didn't continue to let it
happen, or at least they tried not to.
She would lie and sneak out and see him
when she said she was with her friends.
They told the teacher to stay away from
their daughter, but it didn't work. I
personally think they didn't try hard
enough. They gave up on their daughter
and signed her away so that she could
marry this man that was old enough to be
her father.
Gross
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Posted: 10-25-07 14:59pm
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Do you guys think it's possible for a 16
year old and a 40-something to have a
real, healthy relationship?
I'll start this one. I don't.
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Posted: 10-25-07 15:01pm
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Absolutely NOT!!!
How in the world could there be a real
relationship. She is going to wake up one
day and realize that she is with some old
geezer and she will come to her senses.
Hey at least she will have one heck of a
story to tell the grandkids.
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Posted: 10-25-07 15:02pm
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I don't really either.
I don't think a 16 year old is capable of
having a mature, adult (healthy, real)
relationship... nevermind one with at 40
year old.
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Posted: 10-25-07 15:03pm
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Given the huge age difference and the
maturity (or lack thereof) involved I
cannot see how this could possibly be a
good or healthy thing. You'd have one of
two combinations: Mate and Mama in one or
Mate and Papa in the other.
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Posted: 10-25-07 15:04pm
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No.. I was 15 when I met my first
husband.. He was 28.. I married him when I
was 19 and he was 32.. He acted like a
father to me, and made me work at home
life an employee. telling me he had to
punch a clock so should I.. I think there
is just to much difference in people with
that much of a age span.. They are not on
the same page in life..
But then when I left him at 33 I dated a
21 years old guy. We where not on the same
page either, but after being with that old
fart it was FUN! 
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Posted: 10-25-07 15:09pm
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I think once everyone involved is a mature
adult (which means they've left school),
you can do whatever you want. Before that,
there's too much of an imbalance of power
for it to be anything other than
incredibly creepy.
Teacher/student? Creeeeeeeeepy.
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Posted: 10-25-07 15:59pm
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I really don't think that just because you
leave school makes someone mature. There
are people that finish college and are
still not mature. I don't think it would
matter if the student was still in school
or not, the power struggle would still be
there regardless
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Posted: 10-25-07 16:17pm
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It kind of annoys me when young girls say
"age is nothing but a number", because
that simply isn't true. With age (usually)
comes experience. People go through
different phases during their lives, and
when a younger person gets involved with
an older person usually they realize this
after a while.
My best friend is in her early 20's, and
her husband is in his late 30's. They're
in marriage counseling now because they've
realized exactly how different their plans
are. She wants to stay in school, complete
her education and establish a career. He's
been through school, has a career already,
and wants to have children immediately.
She's not ready for that, and he's not
wanting to wait. Also, he has a tendency
to treat her more like a daughter than
like a wive, and until recently she has
been allowing him to do so.
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Posted: 10-25-07 18:12pm
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| Georgia59
wrote: | Do you guys think it's
possible for a 16 year old and a
40-something to have a real, healthy
relationship?
I'll start this one. I
don't. |
I really think you have to look at it on
an individual basis.
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Posted: 10-25-07 21:06pm
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I agree that there would be too much of an
inherent power struggle, just based purely
on age, regardless of maturity level or
anything.
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Posted: 10-26-07 00:44am
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| Georgia59
wrote: | Do you guys think it's
possible for a 16 year old and a
40-something to have a real, healthy
relationship?
I'll start this one. I
don't. |
I was almost in that situation, the guy
was a decade younger, and even that would
never work. At 16 you are still a child,
and your brain and personality aren't even
fully formed. There's almost no way you'd
be interested in the same type of person
when you got older, and besides that it
messes you up for same age relationships.
For a long time I believed men were only
attracted to MUCH younger women, and I
found it hard to date people my own age.
Luckily I got over that, with a same age
boyfriend who would constantly point out
other same age couples out in public, when
we were out on a date.
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