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Q: Husband in hospital for bipolar -did I make the right choice
asked by: kaniastar on October 24th, 2007
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i have never done anything like this before. my husband has just been put into hospital and i have never been so torn apart. we have been together for 3 years and have been through a lot (including losing my sister to bipolar last year) and i was well aware of his illness, it is one thing that brought us together, i have quite bad depression. until monday i never saw him go high. now, after having to make the descision to have him in hospital and seeing him for the1st time, i am so confused. he is so angry, so manipulative, and believes that he is perfectly ok, that i am having him kept there, like i have a say at this point. he is threatening to leave me or break out if he does not get released in the next 2 days. i am so scared. he is everything to me, but now, even though his voice is the same, he is a completely different person, even had his head shaved to a mohawk. he is so smart and knows how to twist the situation, so now i am left feeling unsure as to whether or not i made the right choice. my mind says yes, but my heart is in half. i am so scared that he will never forgive me, and that he will leave me, and he is everything to me. please someone let me know i am not alone. i need to know that this happens to others, or if it does not, then i guess i made the wrong choice. i am so confused and so hurt.
please help
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young Girl
replied on October 24th, 2007
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leave him there
he needs help

if he gets out before he gets helped hes going to be one very mad man
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BoneyardDiva
replied on October 24th, 2007
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My husband became so distraught one time in the hospital that he thought his doctor was trying to poison him. He thought the nurses didn't want him to have clean clothes. He even threw his bag of dirty laundry at them & they put him in the locked section of the ward. Remember, your husband is NOT WELL right now. He's in the hospital to get him well. Try not to feel guilty about his situation. You have done the best thing for him. He will try to make you feel guilty. Realize this is a ruse to garner attention & sympathy. Step back & take some time to yourself. You need to heal through this process too.

Every time my hubby has gone into the hospital (maybe 4 x in 6 yrs), I get EXTREMELY emotional & depressed. I threw his hairbrush across a room once & broke it because I was so upset. Every time that hubby has been admitted into the hospital, it is an emotional rollercoaster for me. Please PM me if you would like to discuss this more. I've definitely "been there, done that."

BYD
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Blood
replied on October 24th, 2007
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yeah leave him there once he gets better he will realize how stupid his been acting and comeback you for sincere apologies.
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sepia
replied on October 25th, 2007
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please remember, you're doing the right thing for him. Hopefully once he comes out of the hospital he'll realize that you did the right thing.

Don't worry, getting help is the best way to recovery, and the sooner he recovers, the sooner things will get back to normal.

take care and good luck! You've made the right decision
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Birch
replied on October 25th, 2007
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Re: So Confused
kaniastar wrote:
i have never done anything like this before. my husband has just been put into hospital and i have never been so torn apart. we have been together for 3 years and have been through a lot (including losing my sister to bipolar last year) and i was well aware of his illness, it is one thing that brought us together, i have quite bad depression. until monday i never saw him go high. now, after having to make the descision to have him in hospital and seeing him for the1st time, i am so confused. he is so angry, so manipulative, and believes that he is perfectly ok, that i am having him kept there, like i have a say at this point. he is threatening to leave me or break out if he does not get released in the next 2 days. i am so scared. he is everything to me, but now, even though his voice is the same, he is a completely different person, even had his head shaved to a mohawk. he is so smart and knows how to twist the situation, so now i am left feeling unsure as to whether or not i made the right choice. my mind says yes, but my heart is in half. i am so scared that he will never forgive me, and that he will leave me, and he is everything to me. please someone let me know i am not alone. i need to know that this happens to others, or if it does not, then i guess i made the wrong choice. i am so confused and so hurt.
please help


I used to work in a psych unit, and I assure you this is all very normal. This is a traumatic situation for the entire family.

At this point, I think that even if you insisted he be released it would not happen.

I am sorry you are going through this. I suggest you talk to a counselor at the hospital because it is a crisis and you need support.
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