Husband in hospital for bipolar -did I make the right choice Posted: 10-24-07 16:11pm
i have never done anything like this
before. my husband has just been put into
hospital and i have never been so torn
apart. we have been together for 3 years
and have been through a lot (including
losing my sister to bipolar last year) and
i was well aware of his illness, it is one
thing that brought us together, i have
quite bad depression. until monday i never
saw him go high. now, after having to make
the descision to have him in hospital and
seeing him for the1st time, i am so
confused. he is so angry, so manipulative,
and believes that he is perfectly ok, that
i am having him kept there, like i have a
say at this point. he is threatening to
leave me or break out if he does not get
released in the next 2 days. i am so
scared. he is everything to me, but now,
even though his voice is the same, he is a
completely different person, even had his
head shaved to a mohawk. he is so smart
and knows how to twist the situation, so
now i am left feeling unsure as to whether
or not i made the right choice. my mind
says yes, but my heart is in half. i am so
scared that he will never forgive me, and
that he will leave me, and he is
everything to me. please someone let me
know i am not alone. i need to know that
this happens to others, or if it does not,
then i guess i made the wrong choice. i am
so confused and so hurt.
please help
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-24-07 16:14pm
leave him there
he needs help
if he gets out before he gets helped hes
going to be one very mad man
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BoneyardDiva
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2007 Posts: 72 Location: Nunya, USA
Posted: 10-24-07 16:39pm
My husband became so distraught one time
in the hospital that he thought his doctor
was trying to poison him. He thought the
nurses didn't want him to have clean
clothes. He even threw his bag of dirty
laundry at them & they put him in the
locked section of the ward. Remember, your
husband is NOT WELL right now. He's in the
hospital to get him well. Try not to feel
guilty about his situation. You have done
the best thing for him. He will try to
make you feel guilty. Realize this is a
ruse to garner attention & sympathy.
Step back & take some time to
yourself. You need to heal through this
process too.
Every time my hubby has gone into the
hospital (maybe 4 x in 6 yrs), I get
EXTREMELY emotional & depressed. I
threw his hairbrush across a room once
& broke it because I was so upset.
Every time that hubby has been admitted
into the hospital, it is an emotional
rollercoaster for me. Please PM me if you
would like to discuss this more. I've
definitely "been there, done that."
BYD
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Blood
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 10-24-07 16:55pm
yeah leave him there once he gets better
he will realize how stupid his been acting
and comeback you for sincere apologies.
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sepia
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2007 Posts: 10
Posted: 10-25-07 08:13am
please remember, you're doing the right
thing for him. Hopefully once he comes out
of the hospital he'll realize that you did
the right thing.
Don't worry, getting help is the best way
to recovery, and the sooner he recovers,
the sooner things will get back to normal.
take care and good luck! You've made the
right decision
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Re: So Confused Posted: 10-25-07 13:14pm
kaniastar
wrote:
i have never done anything
like this before. my husband has just been
put into hospital and i have never been so
torn apart. we have been together for 3
years and have been through a lot
(including losing my sister to bipolar
last year) and i was well aware of his
illness, it is one thing that brought us
together, i have quite bad depression.
until monday i never saw him go high. now,
after having to make the descision to have
him in hospital and seeing him for the1st
time, i am so confused. he is so angry, so
manipulative, and believes that he is
perfectly ok, that i am having him kept
there, like i have a say at this point. he
is threatening to leave me or break out if
he does not get released in the next 2
days. i am so scared. he is everything to
me, but now, even though his voice is the
same, he is a completely different person,
even had his head shaved to a mohawk. he
is so smart and knows how to twist the
situation, so now i am left feeling unsure
as to whether or not i made the right
choice. my mind says yes, but my heart is
in half. i am so scared that he will never
forgive me, and that he will leave me, and
he is everything to me. please someone let
me know i am not alone. i need to know
that this happens to others, or if it does
not, then i guess i made the wrong choice.
i am so confused and so hurt.
please help
I used to work in a psych unit, and I
assure you this is all very normal. This
is a traumatic situation for the entire
family.
At this point, I think that even if you
insisted he be released it would not
happen.
I am sorry you are going through this. I
suggest you talk to a counselor at the
hospital because it is a crisis and you
need support.
