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i went to a party last night and about 3 guys tried it on with me all night.. i love the attention, makes me feel better about myself. i recently lost my auntie and also my boyfriend is in university 3 hours away, so i have been feeling crap for about 2 months. these guys went to school with me but everything is different now we are alll at college and 6th form.. i kinda feel attracted to them but i also love my boyfriend a lot..
but worry about what he's doing.
i dont want to make the wrong decision..
im only 16.. but i dont want to lose my boyfriend of a year.
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replied October 24th, 2007
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Just a warning, sweetie-- college is like a whole other town.
Long distance relationships usually never work out.
You would be foolish NOT to worry about what he is doing up there.
College is where most people meet their future husbands/wives.
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replied November 4th, 2007
One thing to remember is that your still young and you will have many relationships.....Your boyfriend is in college but the only way you can have a relationship with him is to trust him. A great relationship can only work with trust. You need to trust him and not worry about what he is doing in college, as I bet he worries about what your doing in high school. So talk with your bf about trust and tell him about your worries and see if your both at the same level...

With guys hitting on you, that is great for anyones self esteem, but always analze what kind of guy they are....To be honest, I was a player type in high school only looking for one thing, getting laid.....Girls look for love, so think what kind of guys are they and see if they want the same thing you do....

I hope any of those helps you, take care.
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replied November 7th, 2007
i agree with the other replies. its hard to trust a bf in college. im icurrently in college with my bf and it's not easy seeing chicks talk to him and flirt and thats even when im with him! so i can imagine it is harder for you since you are not there. :/ either way. you are young. you should be able to go out and have fun instead of being tied down to someone you can't always physically be with.
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replied November 7th, 2007
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Im Sixteen
i feel that somtimes hunney i like the attention but them boys probably just wana use you u dntknw if they do but probably ! if you love him that much itl work out !?
tell him how you feel !
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replied December 12th, 2007
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K. I'm 17. I kno how u feel. My bf is 4 states away from me......... I love my bf very much too. we've been 2getha 2 1/2 yrs. 4 bout a wk now, i've been talk-n 2 friend from skool. He wants 2 B more then friends. @ 1st I didn't want 2 cause of my bf, but the more & more we talk, its like i want 2 B w/ my friend. I don't kno wut 2 do bout it either. My friend & I R suppose 2 go out dis wknd. I don't kno wuts gonna happen. I don't kno if I should break up w/ my current bf & give my friend a chance or stay w/ my bf.

It sucks b-n n dis situation. Keep my updated.
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replied December 12th, 2007
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My personal opinion? I don't think if you are in HS you should have a serious relationship, necessarily!!! I started dating my husband the 2nd semester of my Senior year...and I couldn't of had it any sooner...I think that HS should be used to "play the field"....but that's just me! : ) Good luck!
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replied December 12th, 2007
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I agree with the above poster. You are too young to be in a serious relationship.
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replied December 12th, 2007
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Aunt Wee Wee,
If this is so tough for you then maybe you should call it quits with your boyfriend. The fact that you're considering a relationship with another guy is more than enough reason to end it.

I think you should either break up with your current guy and be free to do whatever you want.
---OR---
Stay with your current boyfriend and KNOW what's going to happen when you go to the movies and KNOW that you'll stay just friends.

Anything else really just isn't fair to your boyfriend...
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replied December 28th, 2007
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i just want to say to everyone here that high school aged relationships can work. i started dating a guy the last day of my sophomore year (i was 15 and he was 17, only 1 grade apart) and now, four years later, we are married, have a house, a dog, a cat, and waiting to have our first baby.
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replied January 15th, 2008
Aunt Wee Wee,

I think you should tell your bf you need a week, and give a reason like your just messed up about your future (so he will still want to talk to you) Throughout that week, spend time with your best mate in a social enviroments (NOT ALONE!) and talk to your bf over the phone everyday. By the end of the week yur decision should be clearer. I know how you feel, i was in the same situation. Who ever doesn't get to be with you is going to be very hurt but you can't take that into concern whilst making the decision. You have to think about your happiness in these situations.
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