If he loves you, take it and run with it.
Lots of people are beautiful, but not
everyone has the chance to fall in love!
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victoria16
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Posted: 09-05-07 17:44pm
sillyakchick
wrote:
Lots of people are
beautiful, but not everyone has the chance
to fall in
love!
I like that. I mite just
quote you on that, with your permission?
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everyday_struggle
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Posted: 09-05-07 17:52pm
Eiri
wrote:
Wait... not only do you not
want your boyfriend to look at porn, but
you don't even want him to masturbate!?
I'm sorry girl, but thats just a little
possessive and crazy in my book. For one
thing, I like porn. I don't use it to get
off, but I've got no problem with it.
Secondly, I loooove masturbating. I
masturbated even when I had a bf.
You say porn is junkfood, and that can be
a good way to look at it. But think about
junkfood for a minute: One cookie ain't
gonna hurt you.
It's called moderation. A little porn
isn't harmful. If he's choosing porn
instead of sex with you on a regular
basis, *then* it's a
problem.
i compltely agree with you. 100% on the
money. I find it a turn off when females
look at the girls in p0rn and then look at
themselves. What they fail to realize is
that. You can be the hottest girl in the
world, we would still beat off to another
girl. why? because we like a variety of
women, not because it has anything to do
with you. On top of that, its such a turn
off when a female asks that you stop
watching p0rn because she feels "insecure"
about it. Come on, grow up, grab some
confidence and be happy thats hes
masterbating and not cheating on you.
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victoria16
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Posted: 09-05-07 18:13pm
everyday_struggle
wrote:
Eiri
wrote:
Wait... not only do you not
want your boyfriend to look at porn, but
you don't even want him to masturbate!?
I'm sorry girl, but thats just a little
possessive and crazy in my book. For one
thing, I like porn. I don't use it to get
off, but I've got no problem with it.
Secondly, I loooove masturbating. I
masturbated even when I had a bf.
You say porn is junkfood, and that can be
a good way to look at it. But think about
junkfood for a minute: One cookie ain't
gonna hurt you.
It's called moderation. A little porn
isn't harmful. If he's choosing porn
instead of sex with you on a regular
basis, *then* it's a
problem.
i compltely agree with you. 100% on the
money. I find it a turn off when females
look at the girls in p0rn and then look at
themselves. What they fail to realize is
that. You can be the hottest girl in the
world, we would still beat off to another
girl. why? because we like a variety of
women, not because it has anything to do
with you. On top of that, its such a turn
off when a female asks that you stop
watching p0rn because she feels "insecure"
about it. Come on, grow up, grab some
confidence and be happy thats hes
masterbating and not cheating on
you.
If my fiance wants a variety of woman,
then he better pack up n leave.
R u seriouse??? WOW so If my chas watches
naked woman I should happy only becuase
not actually with them? Its not like hes
actually sleeping with them just acting
like it by jacking off to them! NO
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-05-07 18:19pm
victoria16
wrote:
If my fiance wants a
variety of woman, then he better pack up n
leave. R u seriouse??? WOW so If my chas
watches naked woman I should happy only
becuase not actually with them? Its not
like hes actually sleeping with them just
acting like it by jacking off to them!
NO
I know you are quite young and this is
probably your first serious relationship.
Your ideas will change as you grow and
change.
He doesn't actually want these
women. He wants sex. Women are pretty. He
doesn't love them. More than likely he
doesn't have any feeling for them
whatsoever, other than that boner feeling.
He isn't sleeping with them. Masturbating
is great! Fun alone and fun together.
You cannot control his thoughts. The more
you rant and rave about porn, the more
he'll hide it from you.
What about him looking at porn is hurting
you?
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victoria16
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Posted: 09-05-07 18:22pm
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
If my fiance wants a
variety of woman, then he better pack up n
leave. R u seriouse??? WOW so If my chas
watches naked woman I should happy only
becuase not actually with them? Its not
like hes actually sleeping with them just
acting like it by jacking off to them!
NO
I know you are quite young and this is
probably your first serious relationship.
Your ideas will change as you grow and
change.
He doesn't actually want these
women. He wants sex. Women are pretty. He
doesn't love them. More than likely he
doesn't have any feeling for them
whatsoever, other than that boner feeling.
He isn't sleeping with them. Masturbating
is great! Fun alone and fun together.
You cannot control his thoughts. The more
you rant and rave about porn, the more
he'll hide it from you.
What about him looking at porn is hurting
you?
He doesnt watch it anymore, or so he says.
I believe him. So thats it.
Him looking at porn bothers me because hes
looking at other woman and thats not cool.
This
forum evry time I read anything more on it
makes me just want crawl into a dark whole
I jsut Im stressing.
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-05-07 18:25pm
victoria16
wrote:
He doesnt watch it anymore, or so he says.
I believe him. So thats it.
Him looking at porn bothers me because hes
looking at other woman and thats not cool.
This
forum evry time I read anything more on it
makes me just want crawl into a dark whole
I jsut Im
stressing.
Well he doesn't actually want those women.
So don't think that. Guys like sex. Guys
think about sex all the time. Sex and
emotions are two entirely different things
to men.
Don't stress. Be happy.
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victoria16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jul 2007 Posts: 451 Location: ,
Posted: 09-05-07 18:30pm
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
He doesnt watch it anymore, or so he says.
I believe him. So thats it.
Him looking at porn bothers me because hes
looking at other woman and thats not cool.
This
forum evry time I read anything more on it
makes me just want crawl into a dark whole
I jsut Im
stressing.
Well he doesn't actually want those women.
So don't think that. Guys like sex. Guys
think about sex all the time. Sex and
emotions are two entirely different things
to men.
Don't stress. Be
happy.
Im pregnant!!! Thats makes me happy. But I
feel sick, tired, and hungry because Im
pregnant and everything has made me want
to cry today. Thank you for talking to me.
Im
just sooo depresses today GOSH!
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-05-07 18:31pm
victoria16
wrote:
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
He doesnt watch it anymore, or so he says.
I believe him. So thats it.
Him looking at porn bothers me because hes
looking at other woman and thats not cool.
This
forum evry time I read anything more on it
makes me just want crawl into a dark whole
I jsut Im
stressing.
Well he doesn't actually want those women.
So don't think that. Guys like sex. Guys
think about sex all the time. Sex and
emotions are two entirely different things
to men.
Don't stress. Be
happy.
Im pregnant!!! Thats makes me happy. But I
feel sick because Im pregnant and
everything has made me want to cry today.
Thank you for talking to me.
Have you told your mom yet? How did she
take it?
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victoria16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jul 2007 Posts: 451 Location: ,
Posted: 09-05-07 18:39pm
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
He doesnt watch it anymore, or so he says.
I believe him. So thats it.
Him looking at porn bothers me because hes
looking at other woman and thats not cool.
This
forum evry time I read anything more on it
makes me just want crawl into a dark whole
I jsut Im
stressing.
Well he doesn't actually want those women.
So don't think that. Guys like sex. Guys
think about sex all the time. Sex and
emotions are two entirely different things
to men.
Don't stress. Be
happy.
Im pregnant!!! Thats makes me happy. But I
feel sick because Im pregnant and
everything has made me want to cry today.
Thank you for talking to me.
Have you told your mom yet? How did she
take it?
No, not yet... I was
thinking I would tell her on the 9th.
Me n chas nick named our baby Peanut
because its so small at this point.
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-05-07 18:42pm
victoria16
wrote:
No, not yet... I was
thinking I would tell her on the 9th.
Me n chas nick named our baby Peanut
because its so small at this
point.
Cute. Why did you choose the 9th?
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victoria16
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Joined: 09 Jul 2007 Posts: 451 Location: ,
Posted: 09-05-07 18:46pm
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
No, not yet... I was
thinking I would tell her on the 9th.
Me n chas nick named our baby Peanut
because its so small at this
point.
Cute. Why did you choose the
9th?
Becuase shes very buisy till the 9th with
work I wouldnt want to stress her out more
at this point in time. yu know?
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-05-07 18:52pm
victoria16
wrote:
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
No, not yet... I was
thinking I would tell her on the 9th.
Me n chas nick named our baby Peanut
because its so small at this
point.
Cute. Why did you choose the
9th?
Becuase shes very buisy till the 9th with
work I wouldnt want to stress her out more
at this point in time. yu know?
Oh, I know. I remember the day I told my
mom I was pregnant. Her mouth fell open
and she said, "WHAT are you going to do?"
Thankfully I wasn't living at home then.
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victoria16
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Joined: 09 Jul 2007 Posts: 451 Location: ,
Posted: 09-05-07 19:15pm
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
Ingi
wrote:
victoria16
wrote:
No, not yet... I was
thinking I would tell her on the 9th.
Me n chas nick named our baby Peanut
because its so small at this
point.
Cute. Why did you choose the
9th?
Becuase shes very buisy till the 9th with
work I wouldnt want to stress her out more
at this point in time. yu know?
Oh, I know. I remember the day I told my
mom I was pregnant. Her mouth fell open
and she said, "WHAT are you going to do?"
Thankfully I wasn't living at home
then.
OHHH gosh I just cant tell my mom face to
face.
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Chezzy
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Joined: 16 Jan 2007 Posts: 152
Posted: 09-05-07 23:48pm
Wont she be happy with the idea of you
being pregnant..If that's how you feel
about porn than your in your right to feel
that way..Personally it does nothing for
me and Hubby, and too much IMO
desensitizes you, because its never enough
for some people, Iv seen this happen first
hand..
Anyway..Back to baby, was the bub planned,
cant remember if you said or not??
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Posted: 09-06-07 09:47am
Victoria,
I am glad that you took what I said to
heart. You can quote me any time you
wish. I did not know you were pregnant!
Congrats on that! Welcome to the hormonal
roller coaster ride. Please keep your
arms and legs inside the car at all times.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-06-07 12:53pm
[quote="Ingi"]
I know you are quite young and this is
probably your first serious relationship.
Your ideas will change as you grow and
change.
[/quote]
I hate to agree with this because I got
married young (19) and hated when people
acted like I didn't know what I was
getting into.... but there is a point to
it. I used to be that way, I used to be
horribly jealous and hated porn too. But
as we were together for longer and I
learned to be more trusting and
comfortable in our marriage, I gained more
confidence and it really just doesn't
bother me any more.
Have you tried talking to him about it?
Maybe he can help reassure you.
Congrats by the way!!!
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Ingi
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Posted: 09-06-07 13:01pm
Georgia59
wrote:
I hate to agree with this because I got
married young (19) and hated when people
acted like I didn't know what I was
getting into.... but there is a point to
it.
I got married when I was 16 so I can
safely be a hypocrit and tell people to do
as I say, not as I do. Because, dayum,
being a teen mom is hard ~ as is being a
teen wife!
The more comfortable people are with
themselves, the freer they are in their
relationships with their mates. I would
hate to have my life partner and myself
not feel it was alright to explore our
sexuality with each other.
Besides, that wouldn't be any fun!
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-06-07 13:09pm
Ingi
wrote:
Georgia59
wrote:
I hate to agree with this because I got
married young (19) and hated when people
acted like I didn't know what I was
getting into.... but there is a point to
it.
I got married when I was 16 so I can
safely be a hypocrit and tell people to do
as I say, not as I do. Because, dayum,
being a teen mom is hard ~ as is being a
teen wife!
The more comfortable people are with
themselves, the freer they are in their
relationships with their mates. I would
hate to have my life partner and myself
not feel it was alright to explore our
sexuality with each other.
Besides, that wouldn't be any fun!
Yeah, I was
agreeing with you. I don't regret getting
married young, but I can look back and see
the ways that I have grown. And we have
definitely grown in our sexuality and done
lots more exploring and fun than I
would've expected.
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Posted: 09-06-07 13:24pm
ok guys i need to jump in for a sec
lol
so im pregnant and haveuing a baby soon
and travis family and my family keep
asking if we are getting married anytime
soon
and we have talked about it but we dont
really want to do it yet...wed like to
wait... ya know? just a few years...whats
the rush right?
welluh
mmhmmm everyone has been talking about it
more and more. how we live together and
basically its like we are married already
we are always together...everything
i even do his darn laundry lol
and the other night he asked me if i was
ready to have a ring?!
I mite just
quote you on that, with your permission?
NO
This
forum evry time I read anything more on it
makes me just want crawl into a dark whole
I jsut Im stressing.
