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Q: Anyone Remember Me?

asked by: Sophie585 on October 23rd, 2007

Experienced User

It's been months and months since I posted here.... I doubt ayone remembers me Razz

My daughter's name is Molly Elizabeth, if that ring's a bell to anyone, she's almost 7 months old now. I joined here over a year ago, I was just never very active...

Well a little update for those of you who remember me... I'm 20, I have a daughter, I put off going to college this year so I could be with her... I've been going through a bit of a tough time lately, my bf and I broke up. We were together a nice while before I got pregnant, but about two months ago everything went sour...

Before I had my daughter both of us were pretty big partyers... Out every weekend, getting drunk and high... We both worked and lived together, and when I found out I was pregnant, we both quit everything and saved up money for the baby... It was going good up until about 2 months ago when my boyfriend stopped ever having any money, lost his job for stealing... I mean this was someone I loved dearly, the father of my child... He just started acting like a lunatic, being really controlling and never making any sense.

I found out he was using cocaine again...we got in a fight one night and he hit me.... I mean I never thought this would happen, and I sure as hell don't want my daughter growing up in an environment like that... Lol I don't know why I'm posting all this, I doubt anyone even remebers me, I just need to get all this off my chest...

So for the last month now, Molly and I have been living in our own apartment and my ex-bf doesn't even know where... This isn't the guy I fell in love with at all... he's unstable, and scary. He keeps calling my cell phone at all hours of the night, and I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm supposed to be starting a new job soon, but I don't want to leave my daughter anywhere without me.... I'm just so scared, I never thought this would happen...

I'm so sorry for the long post ladies, but I know you all give great advice, and right now I need it more than ever... Sad

Thanks in advance for the replies Smile

Replies(9)

hopefulmjz

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Your screen name looks familiar. I'm very sorry all this is happening. Drugs are an ugly thing. I don't know what to say....but I hope things start going well for you soon. Do you have a day care lined up for Molly?

Dannzibelle

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Supporter

I think i vaguely remember your name, trying to think now

Sophie585

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Experienced User

I'm looking into a couple of daycares, but there so expensive... I would rather just get a sitter to come to my house, or just drop her off there, but that's what makes me so scared.... I don't want him to find out where she is. I mean he's her dad, but I don't wan him anywhere near either of us until he gets his problems sorted out.

young Girl

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

i dont rememeber you because im a little new to the forum
ive been here about 6 months i guess
welcome back and i hope everything is okay Sad

im here if you need anything!

HcoBrunette06

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I think I remember your name too, and I'm sooo sorry about everything that's happened lately, that's so scary! Please stick around and keep us updated =) I hope things start getting better!

ThriftyGal

replied on October 24th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Hey I remember you. Do you remember me!?

Anyways, what part of Canada do you live in ?

I go to school so I get daycare subsidized, and if you are low income you can too. If you were paying 800 a month for daycare it would be almost impossible to get ahead. Have you looked into daycare subsidy? I can give you a 1 800 number if I can find my papers and they can tell you where to go in your city to get it all set up... Anyways, PM if you need anything.

I'm sorry about your ex, that's pretty sad. It's sad when people can't straighten themselves up for their children. I mean if you can't do it for your babies then you are pretty much a lost cause you know?

But good on you for having the guts to leave him and try to make it on your own! That takes a strong woman : )

mamaTT

replied on October 24th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Good for you for getting you and your daughter out of that situation. I'm sorry things are going sour for you right now, but keep your chin up; things will get better.

Definitely look into getting daycare subsidized like Tanya suggested. It would be a BIG help to you and then you wouldn't have to worry so much. They would keep a list of people that are approved by you to pick up your daughter. If they aren't on the list, they can't leave with them. If they keep persisting, they are suppose to call the police. At least that how it is in the States, I just realized you are from Canada...things may be different there.

Sophie585

replied on October 24th, 2007

Experienced User

Thanks for the replies ladies... I'm living in Nova Scotia as of right now Tanya, but I'm thinking about moving to Alberta to get a better job. Subsidised daycare would be good, although I don't know if I would be considered low income once I start my new job... I'll be making around $11/hour, 40 hours a week. If I stayed not working I could go on assistance and get about $450 every two weeks the way I figure it, but thats only $900 a month, and my rent is $600 alone, plus bills... it just wouldn't work out to my advantage. I'd say I'm considered low income right now, but like I said, it probably wouldn't work out. I really don't know....all this is so confusing lol.

It really bugs me though because me ex and I decided that he would be the one to work, and I would stay home, or only work part time until Molly went to school. Stupid men Razz

I don't understand how he doesn't have enough self discipline no not snort away all his money when we have a baby that needs things.

I really don't feel so strong right now... I mean I'm scared to even go outside my door... This is so messed up. Hopefully though once I get everything sorted out money wise, it'll be ok Smile

ThriftyGal

replied on October 26th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I'm pretty sure at 11 an hour you would still be considered for subsidy, go in and talk to them at least because they look at your individual situation and needs. It sucks to have to pick up the slack of dead beat dads, but we can pride ourselves in doing everything for our daughters, and that counts for something. Well pm me if you need anything.

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