Depression Forum - Relationship Going Downhill

i have been going out with this boy for 8 months now. and we use to be so happy together he gave me a promise ring for my birthday and all but. now things are just falling apart. almost every dayy i am in a bad mood and when he asks me a question i flip out on him and i yell at him. i dont mean it. i just get irritated by him. i think he is getting tooo attatched. but i dont know how to explain that to him without him getting mad. and i just got my license and he wants me to drive him everywhere. i am so mad, i work but he dosent he wants me to buy him stuff, and he wants to go out everywhere. every time i complain about the gas he gets mad, hes like well u work you know. i just wish he would get a job. he is always all over me. ever just have a day when your not in the mood, and then you have some body hanging all over you asking you whats wrong like every 2 mins. I JUST CANT TAKE THAT. thats when i yell at him and tell him to go away. and then he gets mad at me. its like all he ever wants to do is hang out with me. me me me me me. i just need some days to be alone. just me time. i never have that. it makes me so upset. im not happy anymore. can somebody please help me. advice please.

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Fairy Godmother

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Supporter

You are being smothered alive................I feel he's taking advantage of you and if you allow it to continue, it will. You need space, you need breathing room. HE also needs to get his own license and a JOB......You need to talk to him and tell him that you can't live like this anymore, changes are at hand or you both need to go your own separate way...........He's probably gonna raise hell, but he's gotten use to you Mothering him and hauling him around and buying him stuff......Sounds like he needs to get a life with some other friends as well.............. Just my opinion!

Georgia59

replied on October 24th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

How old are ya, 16? You don't need to stick with this guy. Move on, find someone else, or just be single for a while. It can be fun!

I would suggest talking to your school psychologist or counselor, they can help you with your unhappiness and let you know if you need to see another doctor about it.

Sunshine333

replied on October 24th, 2007

New User

Same Issue

I had the same issue. I hate being smothered and my boyfriend wanted to spend time with me 24/7.. that's just what people do nowadays. He was comparing our relationship - how often we saw each other - to other people.
I am busy all the time with work and extracurricular stuff and almost every chance I got I would spend with him. I told him that sometimes I just want to be alone - it's not that I don't want to see him, it's just I need some "me" time!
He still gets angry every once in a while cause we're not together ALL the time, but he understands my needs.
If your boyfriend doesn't understand what you need / want he isn't worth staying with at all!

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