cats have different personlitites, some do calm down some dont. your just gonna have to wait till he grows out of his kitten attitude. as for kids and cats...kids are rough when it comes to animals, they pull their fur, poke them, etc. so naturally the cat has to defend itself. cats arent like dogs were they.ll just ignore the torture from kids. try to teach your little one to be nicer to the cat, not to bug it too much and the cat will naturally jus stay away and be nicer