Hi I'm 21 year old male and currently
depressed have been for about 4 or 5
years. I've never had a full time job only
part time but struggle to stick at it. My
longest job was for 4 months. I've been on
college courses but many I struggled to
continue with. I'm currently not doing so
well in life and my family and some
friends frow words at me like lazy,
useless, waste of space which bothers me.
They have know idea what is going through
my mind and whats happening with me.
I just say I don't know what I want to do
were work and college is concerned but for
me I feel depression is 90% the problem
but I don't say anything like that I don't
let people know stuff like that.
Just sometimes think people would think
that depression is not a good enough
excuse kinda thing, I know what I mean but
not sure how to say it. Obviously there
are full time workers who are depressed
but it sure depends on what the problems
are right.
If you understand what I mean what are
your views on it any any advice.
Currently interesting in part time work
which dose not involve customers and
minimal amount of people so for example I
don't want to work on a shop floor. Just
something part time to start me off. I'd
love a good job like my friends but I feel
restricted in to what I can and cannot do
at the moment.
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marvel
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Posted: 10-23-07 00:26am
You're right, Bren. There's a huge,
unnecessary stigma associated with
depression. Many people think it's a
cop-out.
I can remember in my earlier years of
university always being ashamed of how I
felt. On top of this, I didn't want people
to percieve me as a cop out.
I think that you should talk to someone...
perhaps a school counsellor? Mine changed
my life.
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Bren86
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Joined: 13 Apr 2007 Posts: 56 Location: , England
Posted: 10-23-07 00:35am
Yeh thanks make thats the phrase I was
looking for about being a "cop out"
When ask what do I do for a living etc I
say well nothing because I'm currently
doing nothing. I tell my mum I want a part
time job but shes thinking long term and
says "well you can't get a mortgage with
one of those" so she doesn't understand I
need to take it a step at a time as I will
be in an uncomfortable enviroment when I
finally find somewere to work. Also being
depressed I feel hopeless etc which leads
me to think I can't do anything and most
of the time when I try I can't which
prevents me attempting college or actually
doing proper work as I just can't do it,
I'm slow moving and just low right now
with now enthuseasm. I've lost interest in
everything and don't have the capacity to
care at the moment.
I don't go school so no counseller. I
spoke to a really good gp docter once who
subscribed me anti depressants but I
stopped taking them. He no longer works at
my local docters though. I sometimes just
wish my family and friends new more so
they would kinda just "back off" abit if
that makes sence. I can see where there
coming from wanting me to do well but damn
I got things goin on with me at this
moment in my life.
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marvel
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Posted: 10-23-07 09:47am
Why did you stop taking them? Were they
ineffective?
Unfortunately, the only way that your
family and friends are going to know so
they can back off is if you tell them.
Seriously, though, chances are that since
they're your family and friends, they'll
totally understand and be supportive. Just
don't let your depression own you. Jump on
it and do everything you can to try to
relieve it... you'll thank yourself later,
trust me.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-23-07 09:54am
Have you tried seeking medical help for
depression?
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Bren86
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Joined: 13 Apr 2007 Posts: 56 Location: , England
Posted: 10-23-07 17:18pm
I stopped taking them because yes they was
inafective and I have some side affects
like dry mouth all the time etc.
I've seen a sycatrist about 3 years ago. I
used to have acne and my dermatologist
noticed I was depressed and had me see a
sycatrist. I haven't seen one since. I'd
like an opotunity to start a good job
somewere or have an easy part time job.
Sycatrists can't give me that. Maybe they
can get me more motivated and help with
other stuff going through my mind.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-24-07 12:00pm
Bren- you could try seeing a psychiatrist
again and trying a different dosage or a
different medication. If you are on a
medication, often times you'll need to
make adjustments to find what is right for
you.
Successful medication can help you to be
more motivated, and medication along with
therapy can help you work through the
"other stuff going through your mind" and
also give you ideas to find a job, etc.
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jo_1982
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Joined: 26 Jun 2007 Posts: 33 Location: surrey
Posted: 10-26-07 06:11am
Hey Bren
Your not a cop out for not having a job
and people just dont seem to understand
that most people think having a job and a
mortgage sorts your life out but it dont
because you cant hold a full time job dont
make you anyless of a person then a
working class person as for being
depressed you need to work out what
started it off maybe you should see your
gp and ask for help
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klintmad
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Joined: 26 Oct 2007 Posts: 3
Hi Bren Posted: 10-26-07 22:30pm
You know what, many people are depressed
same withyour reason. Unemployment really
sucks. Try and try until you succed.
