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Q: Unemployed And Depressed

asked by: Bren86 on October 23rd, 2007

Experienced User

Hi I'm 21 year old male and currently depressed have been for about 4 or 5 years. I've never had a full time job only part time but struggle to stick at it. My longest job was for 4 months. I've been on college courses but many I struggled to continue with. I'm currently not doing so well in life and my family and some friends frow words at me like lazy, useless, waste of space which bothers me. They have know idea what is going through my mind and whats happening with me.

I just say I don't know what I want to do were work and college is concerned but for me I feel depression is 90% the problem but I don't say anything like that I don't let people know stuff like that.

Just sometimes think people would think that depression is not a good enough excuse kinda thing, I know what I mean but not sure how to say it. Obviously there are full time workers who are depressed but it sure depends on what the problems are right.

If you understand what I mean what are your views on it any any advice.

Currently interesting in part time work which dose not involve customers and minimal amount of people so for example I don't want to work on a shop floor. Just something part time to start me off. I'd love a good job like my friends but I feel restricted in to what I can and cannot do at the moment.

Replies(11)

marvel

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Supporter

You're right, Bren. There's a huge, unnecessary stigma associated with depression. Many people think it's a cop-out.

I can remember in my earlier years of university always being ashamed of how I felt. On top of this, I didn't want people to percieve me as a cop out.

I think that you should talk to someone... perhaps a school counsellor? Mine changed my life.

Bren86

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Experienced User

Yeh thanks make thats the phrase I was looking for about being a "cop out"

When ask what do I do for a living etc I say well nothing because I'm currently doing nothing. I tell my mum I want a part time job but shes thinking long term and says "well you can't get a mortgage with one of those" so she doesn't understand I need to take it a step at a time as I will be in an uncomfortable enviroment when I finally find somewere to work. Also being depressed I feel hopeless etc which leads me to think I can't do anything and most of the time when I try I can't which prevents me attempting college or actually doing proper work as I just can't do it, I'm slow moving and just low right now with now enthuseasm. I've lost interest in everything and don't have the capacity to care at the moment.

I don't go school so no counseller. I spoke to a really good gp docter once who subscribed me anti depressants but I stopped taking them. He no longer works at my local docters though. I sometimes just wish my family and friends new more so they would kinda just "back off" abit if that makes sence. I can see where there coming from wanting me to do well but damn I got things goin on with me at this moment in my life.

marvel

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Supporter

Why did you stop taking them? Were they ineffective?

Unfortunately, the only way that your family and friends are going to know so they can back off is if you tell them.

Seriously, though, chances are that since they're your family and friends, they'll totally understand and be supportive. Just don't let your depression own you. Jump on it and do everything you can to try to relieve it... you'll thank yourself later, trust me.

Marianne0558

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Supporter

Have you tried seeking medical help for depression?

Bren86

replied on October 23rd, 2007

Experienced User

I stopped taking them because yes they was inafective and I have some side affects like dry mouth all the time etc.

I've seen a sycatrist about 3 years ago. I used to have acne and my dermatologist noticed I was depressed and had me see a sycatrist. I haven't seen one since. I'd like an opotunity to start a good job somewere or have an easy part time job. Sycatrists can't give me that. Maybe they can get me more motivated and help with other stuff going through my mind.

Georgia59

replied on October 24th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Bren- you could try seeing a psychiatrist again and trying a different dosage or a different medication. If you are on a medication, often times you'll need to make adjustments to find what is right for you.

Successful medication can help you to be more motivated, and medication along with therapy can help you work through the "other stuff going through your mind" and also give you ideas to find a job, etc.

jo_1982

replied on October 26th, 2007

New User

Hey Bren

Your not a cop out for not having a job and people just dont seem to understand
that most people think having a job and a mortgage sorts your life out but it dont because you cant hold a full time job dont make you anyless of a person then a working class person as for being depressed you need to work out what started it off maybe you should see your gp and ask for help

klintmad

replied on October 26th, 2007

New User

Hi Bren

You know what, many people are depressed same withyour reason. Unemployment really sucks. Try and try until you succed.

downten123

replied on October 8th, 2009

New User

cop out

i rather not cop out, but i cop out while i was in the moment (while i was in the job), THAT JUST DOES NOt MAKE SENSE. I REGRET being a COP OUT.

jillanddigger

replied on October 19th, 2009

New User

bren, all the power to you! rise above this and succede in life. I have been w/ a very nice man for 2 yrs. now & he has been unemployed for 3/4 of the 2 years. Please don't get into a relationship at this time, it is time to work on you and you alone, as in bringing a (girlfriend) into your relationship it will only take her down with you. belive me I know from experience. good luck! Everybody loves you dude, just pull out of this, O.K?

moonbeams

replied on October 21st, 2009

New User

Insecurity and depression is the mind killer. Half of not being able to succeed AT THE MOMENT, Is from you, the victim psyching yourself out. I would know. I DO IT all the time. lol. A lot of it is fear. Thinking the absolute worst, will kill change before you even give it a chance. I'm currently struggling with the same problem, But i'm starting to learn to let it go and bite the bullet.

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