Cant Stay Hard

i had this problem with my girl friend a few months ago, we really wanted to have sex but i couldnt maintain an erection, i was hard up till the point of puttin on a condom and then it just dissappeared. i think the problem was i was nervous as hell, id had sex before so it wasnt like this was my first time but i just got really nervous! we got round it eventually, just get him to relax and not get too uptight about things. what really upset me the most is that my gf thought it was her fault, this was most definatly not the case so dont worry about it. hope this helps

late response but this happens alot it looks like i saw on google b.c i have this same problem its just sucks b.c im a good looking guy ur b.f probably is too ur a good looking girl and if u have some sort of past that he knows about or u told him about ur sex life he might be nervous about how he will perform or what your REALLY gonna think of his size plenty of things run through my mind and then i just look at her and say this isnt gonna happen and they get mad or say its ok and at that points its even port embarrassing its all about COMFORT my g.f of 3 years was my 1st i had to trick my self after 2 years of dating her when it could come to condom i couldnt stay hard so i said can we do it with no condom so i can get it in and we did and it went soft and then one day i made sure it was really wet and i got it in and just pumped a few times and it got up and then the nerves go away it all about getting passed it it ur head but now i can have sex with my ex when ever where everbut im over her and i can have one night stands if i wanted to but my dick wont let me b.c my nerves and i dont wanna have a g/f just to have sex thats not how it is in movies shows it doesnt seem natural to me and upsets me so tell him hes not the only one this is a month later maybe hes over it by now

listen ive had this before. it litrally is the overthinking. jus dont think about it and just do it. losing the right frame of mind really makes you lose it. i personally resort back to foreplay on my girlfriend. heck i dont think she minds but you just need that right frame of mind to be able to continue. for so many guys they need to freaking relax lol