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Q: Im 21 ...2 Months Pregnant Not Sure If I Want to Have the ..
asked by: confused0ne21 on October 22nd, 2007
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My story is confusing. My husband made it this way. To start off i will tell you all my my husband and I have been together for 6 months now, we've been married for 3 months.. Our marriage started to get real bad when I told my husband I was pregnant. He gave me a choice and made it very clear he didn't want to have anything to do with me or the baby. I definetly wasn't about to abort my child for a man who isn't ready. after all I wasn't/am not ready too. I'm 21 years old and my husband is 22. When I found out he didnt want to be apart of this situation, I immediately knew he couldn't be trusted and he is someone i can never count on. ( In the past he has made me feel really horrible, with verbal abuse and demands, I ignored this b/c I wanted to be with him at the time, of course before I found out he didnt want me or the baby). It's been almost two months since my husband and I have been together or even seen each other. ( we dont live together, we both are in school and were planning to move in w each other after done with school, in that case we should have waited to get married, i definetly wish we would have because I am requesting for a divorce now. I would rather be a single mom then live with a verbal abusive low tempered angry manangement person. When my husband left me i knew it was over, therefore i started to hang out with a friend of mine someone I went to high school with. we are very good friends then and now. Especially now... yep thats right we finally got together after all these years of us loving each other but not being together, and today i can proudly say we are boyfriend and girlfriend looking toward the future together and forever. Theres one problem though... my boyfriend(high school sweetheart/best friend/love of my life) doesn't know I am 2 months pregnant by my EX husband....the reason I havent told him is b/c I myself am very confused and time is running out... The thought of having an abortion really brings pain.. then again the thought of having a baby brings an alter of life to my life..... I dont know what i want to to ... I dont know how to tell my boyfriend.. would he stay with me and still be my love? or would he bail also and say he couldnt do it because this child wasnt made from him....I think i want to tell him but i doint want to unless i know for sure I am going to give birth to this baby... I kinda want to though...even though i want to finish school ( 2 years left)... can I do both? Be a parent and pursure my career? I love my boyfriend (high school sweetheart) more than anything and I don't want to lose him but I do want to have this baby... I think I do... Oh Im extremely confused... My sister and mother do not want me to have an abortion... they themselves have had one and say I would regret this forever.... are they riiiight? Only God knows what next...okay I must go cry now. thanx for taking the time to read my story... please pray for me.
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Tylanas
replied on October 23rd, 2007
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If this new man really truly loves you then he's going to give you the advice he thinks is most beneficial to YOU.

If YOU do not want an abortion, then do not get one. Period. Abortion is not something to be wishy-washy about. You refused to get an abortion for your husband... so don't get one just to hide from your new love! That would be hypocritical of you and I think you feel that way too. You'd just be aborting for a different man. If you want an abortion, do it for YOU, and no one else.

You are not a bad person! You were abused and now things are better. I think if this man truly loves you he will be fine with raising the child in a safe environment, far away from the child's abusive genetic father.

If you have the resources to care for this child and if you would love it, then I say do what your heart is telling you. You can PM me if you'd like to talk about anything!
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sexxybexxy
replied on October 31st, 2007
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hi, i think that if the new man loves you for who you are he will help you through the pregnancy. The best thing to do would be to sit down with him and explain everything and how you feel.
You are not a bad person and deserve a happy life.
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baby_dee11704
replied on October 31st, 2007
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i think u should tell tha guy i had to do th samething i was scared but tha guy told me i didn't have to get an abortion he would help me i think u should jus tell him maybe he will react tha same
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