She has to want to tell u about it. .But u just have to make sure ur coming off as caring and understanding, many people dont realize but they may come off wrong and the other person may feel like their bein attacked or looked down on. Its hard.. Ur friend just may not be ready. .But the sooner she gets help the better. Its way more dangerous then she thinks. She just wont find out till later and hopefully it doesnt get to that pt! How old r u both?

Check the local phone book, ask a dr or health centre about eating disorder support groups even though your friend is not likely to go if you went this would not only help you it would help you to help her, but bottom line is it is up to her.

Just show her love and support, you cant force her to tell you.. But just be there for her tahts really all you can do

good luck!

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gaby

Hey thanks for your replies I really appreciate it. I did what u said an didnt push her to tell me and even tho she hasnt spoken about it she did tell me that she cuts herself. I no this is a bad thing but I totally dont know what to do cos she made me promise not to say anything to anyone and now im torn between keeping her trust and getting her help!!! I dont no what to do, I want to be a good friend but I cant sit back and just watch her hurting herself!

Go back to the last 2 posts - love & support her but also get some support & on the spot help/advice for you since this is a horrible situation for you & you need help to so check out local support groups even if she won't go to them - you can - that will help you & also help you to help her.

This may or may not be a good idea. You do want to show her love and support and it's really difficult becasue cutting and an eating disorder such incredibly secret destructive things, so when someone confides in you there really allowing them selves to be pretty open and vunerable. Speaking from someone who has had an e.D, sadly there isn't much you can do, if she wants help she'll ask for it, until then she will deny it, so in that matter its her move. The cutting- my advice would be, offer to go to a counselor with her and show your support in that matter. That way she can atleast feel a little more confident about getting help. I also would want to say tell one of her family members- mom - dad, but that would most likely make her back off from any help you could have been close to getting her. It's kind of a coin toss, but your being a great friend just by bbeing there, so goodluck!!!!!