|I hope for the child's sake that s/he doesn't try to find the birth parents in your cousins case.That would feel like a slap in the face.I would NEVER accept the fact that my parents gave me up for adoption then got pregnant with another child a month later and kept it.I would be so mad! But that's just my opinion.
I hope that everything works out ok for all the birth parents,hopefully you meet your kids one day and can say that you just weren't ready for kids at that point in your life.
Your cousin will never be able to say that,I'm curious as to what kind of thing she would tell the child if they were to meet.
Everyone is different. In fact, in my cousins case, she was kind of forced to give the child up because of RELIGIOUS reasons. She was shunned by her family and her church and everyone she knew.
I guess, what I would tell a child had I ever given one up, would be that I did what I felt was the very best for them. That perhaps I was giving that child away to someone who was capable of being a parent and wanted a child so badly. A child they could not have naturally. Someone who was stable and giving and educated that could provide a home with love and siblings and everything I would know I couldn't give that child. I would tell that child that my heart broke when I had to give up the most important thing in my life, but I knew in my heart that was the right thing for them to be raised in a home where they were not just wanted but adored beyond anything else.
I'm not sure what you think you know about adoption, but it is not 'bad'. My husband is adopted. He found his birth mom and you know what he said to her? He said, "Thank you for giving me to my parents." His birth mother was 16 years old and could have never provided the family his PARENTS gave him. He is thankful.
My mother gave my sister up for adoption. My sister found us. She is fabulous! We are very close. She has the best parents ever. My mom, her birth mom, is not her 'mom' but her friend.
Maybe you should rethink adoption.
I absolutely agree. Though it was hard to place my child in someone else's arms and know I wouldn't see him for a very long time, I knew I was doing the right thing.
I love my son more than life itself. I didn't "give him up" I placed him with a family who couldn't physically have children. He will have a better life than (a) I had and (b) what I would have provided at the time. Though it was, quite honestly, the hardest decision I've ever made, it was also the best. Not for me, but for my son.
This time, things are different.
|Thank you so much! It's so wonderful to know there are people out there who support adoption!|
I admire every girl/woman who gives a child up for adoption, i could never be strong enough to do that. it takes a very special person to put their life on hold to give a child a better life then they can give them. I think you are amazing
|Hi I lurk on here often but dont post that much.
I just wanted to say im kinda in the same position. I gave my first daughter up for adoption cause I just couldnt provide for her at the time, and my life was not stable. Now I am pregnant again with a boy and will be keeping this one. It is with the same father. Its not that I love my son more, I just feel that im ready to raise a child now. My daughter has a great life with her parents, and they are so sweet to me for giving them such a gift.