Pregnant Again

Everyone is different. In fact, in my cousins case, she was kind of forced to give the child up because of RELIGIOUS reasons. She was shunned by her family and her church and everyone she knew.

I guess, what I would tell a child had I ever given one up, would be that I did what I felt was the very best for them. That perhaps I was giving that child away to someone who was capable of being a parent and wanted a child so badly. A child they could not have naturally. Someone who was stable and giving and educated that could provide a home with love and siblings and everything I would know I couldn't give that child. I would tell that child that my heart broke when I had to give up the most important thing in my life, but I knew in my heart that was the right thing for them to be raised in a home where they were not just wanted but adored beyond anything else.

I'm not sure what you think you know about adoption, but it is not 'bad'. My husband is adopted. He found his birth mom and you know what he said to her? He said, "Thank you for giving me to my parents." His birth mother was 16 years old and could have never provided the family his PARENTS gave him. He is thankful.

My mother gave my sister up for adoption. My sister found us. She is fabulous! We are very close. She has the best parents ever. My mom, her birth mom, is not her 'mom' but her friend.

Maybe you should rethink adoption.

I absolutely agree. Though it was hard to place my child in someone else's arms and know I wouldn't see him for a very long time, I knew I was doing the right thing.

I love my son more than life itself. I didn't "give him up" I placed him with a family who couldn't physically have children. He will have a better life than (a) I had and (b) what I would have provided at the time. Though it was, quite honestly, the hardest decision I've ever made, it was also the best. Not for me, but for my son.

This time, things are different.

I'm glad you are at peace with your decision. ((hugs)) Your son will have a great life!

I admire every girl/woman who gives a child up for adoption, i could never be strong enough to do that. it takes a very special person to put their life on hold to give a child a better life then they can give them. I think you are amazing

Thank you very much. I've gotten a lot of positive responses from people when I tell them about my son, but I've also gotten a lot of negative ones as well. I think the worst was a girl, a teen mom, who told me that "adoption is just like abortion. You should have just gotten an abortion." That was hard and it hurt because I knew it wasn't true.

But knowing that there are girls and women out there who have made the same decision and/or support that decision really negates all those poor outlooks on it.

Good for you. ((hugs)) That was an amazing gift to give them.