i guess what do yall think i should do?
like he dont want me pregnant if im goin to college out of state he said if thats the case then he want me to get an abotion or something. cause he on prohibation and cant leave the state

What should you do? I think in the first place you should have waited to try and conceive until you were older because of things like this. If you are thinking about getting an abortion after you were ttc then that is just the most ridiculous thing I have heard in a long time. Things change and stuff happens. After all you wanted to be pregnant and now you don't know what to do. This is why I think most teenagers should not ttc because they are young and they have there whole lives ahead of them and most of them change their minds like you."Thinking maybe i could wait until my sophmore year of college."I think you should wait until after you finish college because then you wouldn't have to worry about being pregnant and trying to finish college.You were the one who said this:



"Okay I know it feels like everyone is against you but I'm not. I am 17 too and I and ttc it's not even about me and my boyfriend it's all about me. If that's what you feel like you're ready to do then do it. But be sure this decision is one that you can't change. If you don't like it later you can't take it back to the store. And if your sure and you can provide a good life for your child then good luck to you."

I think you just ate your own words. It just sounds like you are being selfish and just thinking about yourself.I think it's so hypocritical of you to be sitting here saying all of this.You were the one who wanted to get pregnant so badly for some reason at only 17 and now you don't know what to do because of your convict boyfriend telling you to get an abortin if you are pregnant.You two are not mature enough to have a baby at this point in your lives.In life you have to stick with the decisions you make good or bad.

I never said i was going to get a abortion thats not something i would do. And i still feel the same way its about me and whether or not im ready. yes things changed but they could always change again. And the reason why i want a child so bad is because freshman year i was pregnant and lost the baby when i was 8 weeks then the begaining of this year i got pregnant again and lost that baby at 4.5 months. Trust i am mature enough to have a child. I have been for awhile. what i was asking about is him, what to do with him. and if anyone had had an experience like this before.

thats what the forums are for to find people in the same situation as you so you know your not alone. its not for someone to call you stupid or immature.

yes i said i thought about waiting but just because you have thought of something doesn't mean its going to happen or that your going to think about it that much. I know there has been time where you thought about hitting some one but didn't just because you thought about it doesn't mean it was going to happen or your where going to even let it happen.

You need to wait.

There are other types of birth control besides condoms. Check into them.

TTC should not be in your vocabulary at 17.. yes if you happen to get pregnant that young then step up to your actions. But dont voluntarily do it.

is your bf allergic to latex? is that y he breaks out?

there are non latex condoms out there as well. lambskin and polyurithane.

i have lost 2 children as well so i know what you are feeling. my first pregnancy i was only about 2 months along when i lost it, which was devistating for me even though it was an unplanned pregnancy. my second child was planned. i made it to term and he was perfect... for a while. he contracted meningitis and we watched him waste away for 8 days until he finally succumbed to his illness and died in my arms. words cannot explain that kindof pain. with both babies i felt as though my heart was ripped into a thousand pieces and everyday my soul bled for them. i tried for months afterwards to get pregnant and finally did, now my son, my third baby is 7 months old. but in all of this joy, i realize that he is not my first 2 children reincarnated. having more will not bring them back. im sure that you feel a piece of your very being is missing and there is a NEED to nuture. you are a mother by rights and part of being a mother is nuturing. i was so bitter that i was planning a funeral rather then sending out birth announcements and to make it worse, it seemed like everyone around me was getting pregnant. its unnatural to lose a child and being 5 1/2 months pregnant that is pretty signifficant.
now, i know you think your mature, but if you were really ready than you would realize it should never be "all about me" it should be 'all about the baby' and what is best for him/her. to truly love someone/something means to put its needs before your own. what is best for your child is a stable home and a healthy mother who is ttc for the right reasons. get your education and set yourself up for success. when you succeed your child will too.
if you are pregnant now, dont do anything you will regret. an abortion wont hurt any less than a misscarriage but it will haunt you for the rest of your life. consider adoption and bless a family with the gift of life and love, otherwise try it yourself. i know plenty of people who have found finacial success later on in life. and remember, success is personal. if you are living your dreams, whether it be to be a power couple with 5 cars and a mansion or being a stay at home mom, then you are successful. but remember to think of the child first.
good luck

yeah he is allergic. but he is also a man.lol. thats why he wore one.

thanks for writting this other people just tell me thats not what i need to do but you are understanding were i am coming from. But i do get your point that i need to have more of an education thats what i had started thinking when i decided that i was going to college out of state. I want for my child to have a mother and a father around something i've never had. Thats why i came up here to get advise from someone who gets where i am coming from. not to get critized for what i am think like some people at the top of the page did. But again thanks

i think ur way too young ttc. 17 u shud be liek going out parting with your friends and not having babies. you are a baby yourself. and how can u even compare going to a university and having a baby on purpose. your education is now, and u can get pregnant later.

You asked what you should do. If you are pregnant I would say keep the baby and continue on with your plan to go to college.

If you are not then I would say continue on with your plan to go to college. I'm currently in college and loving it. I know that once I graduate I can go get a job and kick start my career and make the type of money that I will need for the future (which includes someday having children).

But at your age I wouldn't try to get pregnant. That may be one of the reasons you couldn't carry your babies to term. At your age your body is still maturing. Wait until maybe after college. Once you get a degree and have a career. That way your body is completely matured and you are making money to support yourself and your child.

I think that firstly, the people who are coming in here and being judgmental and berating her for ttc need to stop. That is not what she needs right now. If she wanted a child, that's her life and her business to choose so.

To the OP: Find out if you're pregnant first. Then you can review your options. There is a high chance that you will loose this baby as well, since you had problems with your earlier pregnancies. You will REALLY need to take it easy this time - the stress of college may be too much for your body. If you are pregnant you can choose to get an abortion or go through with the pregnancy. If you go through with it and the baby makes it, you then have the option to keep the baby, give it up for a closed adoption, of give it up for an open adoption.

But, find out if you're pregnant or not before you start to worry about the future. And, if you're not pregnant, get on the pill or get a patch or a shot, and have you boy use polyurethane condoms or other non-latex condoms so this won't happen again.

Not really. If she can't afford the baby and has to get assistance from the government, WE ALL have to pay for her baby.

i truly believe that age does not determine a good or bad parent. i have known parents who were mature and married and made terrible parents but i have also known many people who were single and as young as 16 who had babies and made wonderful parents (including my own mother), its a personal thing. it really depends on you as a person, but generally at your age most people are not ready and unfortunatly even if you are, your friends may isolate you and i have known people so desperate to fit in that they dont put their baby first despite loving them dearly and the child suffers. as for going to school there are programs that can help with child care so you can maintain your education. it will be hard, harder than most will know buy you can do it. my family owns a bar/restaurant and one of our main cooks just turned 18, is in grade 12 and has a 5 month old baby girl and he is doing it. it is hard for him and he needs support, but with people he can trust and a drive to succeed they are able to stay together. Also, the mother is about 16 hours away and isnt really involved in the baby's life. with enough will, you will find your way.
best of luck

I never said that i cant afford a baby. I have a steady job and a strong support system

How will you support yourself when you can no longer work because you have a newborn to care for?

i'll figure it out because im pregnant

Good Luck. Will the father support you?

oh yea!!!!
and thanks for the good luck