tululabell
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Need Some Opinions Please :)
Posted: 10-20-07 07:48am
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hello! i had my baby about a month ago and
she is finally coming home on monday! i am
super excited, she has been in NICU since
she was born. i need some
opinions/thoughts from you guys because
some people are telling me i should talk
to a laywer about what happened. so the
short version is i had a normal 1st stage
labor then when pushing started i pushed
for 3.5 hours and baby was stuck, pretty
far down though, we could always see her
hair sticking out! so the Dr said the best
option was forceps becuase of where she
was so we went with it. (forcep deliveries
are super scary by the way) so we got in
there i got all extra drugged and the Dr
started. it ended up that she was face up
and nobody knew until she was coming out.
she was breathing fast so she went to the
NICU and it ended up that she got nerve
damage. it is the nerve that controls the
diaphragm so it won't let her right lung
fully expand so she needs oxygen right now
and a feeding tube because she breathes
too fast to take a bottle all the time. it
isn't a permanent thing even if (worse
case) she needed surgery to fix it. but
her Dr thinks it will repair on its own,
it will just take time. she is coming home
with oxygen and the tube. so, i would like
to know what you all think, was there any
negligence? what would you do or think?
thank you!!!!
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-20-07 07:52am
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i would be half mad half just glad for her
to be comming home
you should talk to a lawyer though and see
what they think abuot the whole thing
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
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Posted: 10-20-07 08:18am
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man o man.... thats the first thing
Americans think when something goes
wrong.... sue sue sue..... sorry but thats
just what i found when i lived over there
for 12 months. How else was your child
going to come out?? its obviously not
healthy for a baby to be stuck so to me
they needed to do something to get it out
(sorry im not sure if you had a boy or
girl!). Expecially that your baby is going
to make a full recovery I wouldnt be
taking it any further but thats just my
opinion.
Congratulations on your babies homecomming
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Bridget
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Posted: 10-20-07 08:34am
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you need to do what you feel comfortable
with.
personally, i think it sounds like they
did what they needed to do. it sounds like
she was already too far down for a
c-section and she wasn't coming out on her
own, so the forceps were needed. i don't
think there's anything to sue over,
especially since there will be no lasting
effects.
congrats on her homecoming!!!
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ilovemyfishies81
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Posted: 10-20-07 09:07am
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i would just do a consultation that way a
lawyer would have everything on file
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 10-20-07 09:14am
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I know your upset about everything that's
happened to your little one but I agree
with Bridget. They did what they had to
do. Doctors don't know everything which is
why it's called medical practice not
medical science. I think that it would be
better for your sanity to forgive everyone
because that's where true happiness lies
to me.
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tululabell
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Posted: 10-20-07 09:32am
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well, i don't want to sue. i just think it
was circumstances and it happened. dh
doesn't even want to think about it right
now. it is just a few people keep on
bringing it up and it made me double think
it so i wanted to ask other mothers so i
could get an unbiased opinion. and the
people bringing it up is dh's mom and
aunts.... and they keep asking other
nurses and Drs and they said he should
have done an u/s, he should have known she
was face up.... but an u/s that late
wouldn't have made much of a difference
right? ok, well i am glad to know i am not
alone in thinking what is done is done and
we did all we could.
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Bridget
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Posted: 10-20-07 09:35am
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what does the baby being face up have to
do with it? would they have given you a
c-section if they'd known?
plenty of babies are born that way. i did
have an u/s the night before my induction
and finn was face up, but they just made a
note of it and prepared me for back labor,
they didn't offer me an immediate
c-section or anything.
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 10-20-07 09:40am
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Most doctors don't do late ultrasounds. I
know mine doesn't.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 10-20-07 10:04am
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Mika was born face up with her left arm
upwards next to her head, no one could
have told me that, it just happens
sometimes. Some deliveries are more
straightforward than others. Some people
can walk in give birth and then go home
wehere as some people need c-sections etc
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 10-20-07 10:13am
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Id talk to one just to see if they could
cover medical case but I agree with
everyone else, labor is a dangerous and
risky thing.
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tululabell
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Posted: 10-21-07 16:14pm
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i know Dr's can't always tell when babies
are face up either (obviously!) and i had
no signs of it, like no back labor, for
them to think it besides her being stuck.
i just think some people get mad at the
situation (MIL) and want to blame someone.
but with her being face up and the Dr not
knowing ahead of time and using forceps he
would have placed them slightly different
because when a baby is face down with
forceps they put them on the head and pull
down to pull the baby out. then if the
baby is face up and they pull down they
are stretching the neck backwards. which
is probably what happened with her. but it
happened and it has been a month and she
is coming home tomorrow! even though it
will be very hard with all the extra stuff
to do i am completely ecstatic 
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 10-22-07 05:41am
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I hope everything goes well for you at
home and i look forward to pics when
you're ready. I think your MIL needs to be
thankfull that she's doing so much better
and is on herr way home in honesty
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tululabell
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Posted: 10-22-07 09:26am
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thanks, i hope she does well at home too.
i am sure she will. the Dr turned her
oxygen down to barely anything yesterday,
the lowest they can make it pretty much so
that is great! and now we just need to get
her to take a bottle more often. she is so
lazy with it since she has never had to do
it!
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-22-07 09:28am
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It couldn't hurt to at least talk with a
lawyer.
I think there was some negligence because
your doctor should have checked what
position the baby was in BEFORE using
forceps. Forceps are dangerous anyway, so
it is important to know everything you
can. Not just assume the baby is facing
down or whatever.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-22-07 09:29am
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I meant to add...
You can get a lawyer on a
contingency-basis, meaning you don't have
to pay them unless you collect.
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