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Q: Need Some Opinions Please :)

asked by: tululabell on October 20th, 2007

Experienced User

hello! i had my baby about a month ago and she is finally coming home on monday! i am super excited, she has been in NICU since she was born. i need some opinions/thoughts from you guys because some people are telling me i should talk to a laywer about what happened. so the short version is i had a normal 1st stage labor then when pushing started i pushed for 3.5 hours and baby was stuck, pretty far down though, we could always see her hair sticking out! so the Dr said the best option was forceps becuase of where she was so we went with it. (forcep deliveries are super scary by the way) so we got in there i got all extra drugged and the Dr started. it ended up that she was face up and nobody knew until she was coming out. she was breathing fast so she went to the NICU and it ended up that she got nerve damage. it is the nerve that controls the diaphragm so it won't let her right lung fully expand so she needs oxygen right now and a feeding tube because she breathes too fast to take a bottle all the time. it isn't a permanent thing even if (worse case) she needed surgery to fix it. but her Dr thinks it will repair on its own, it will just take time. she is coming home with oxygen and the tube. so, i would like to know what you all think, was there any negligence? what would you do or think? thank you!!!!

Replies(15)

young Girl

replied on October 20th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

i would be half mad half just glad for her to be comming home
you should talk to a lawyer though and see what they think abuot the whole thing

Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help

replied on October 20th, 2007

Experienced User

man o man.... thats the first thing Americans think when something goes wrong.... sue sue sue..... sorry but thats just what i found when i lived over there for 12 months. How else was your child going to come out?? its obviously not healthy for a baby to be stuck so to me they needed to do something to get it out (sorry im not sure if you had a boy or girl!). Expecially that your baby is going to make a full recovery I wouldnt be taking it any further but thats just my opinion.

Congratulations on your babies homecomming Very Happy

Bridget

replied on October 20th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

you need to do what you feel comfortable with.

personally, i think it sounds like they did what they needed to do. it sounds like she was already too far down for a c-section and she wasn't coming out on her own, so the forceps were needed. i don't think there's anything to sue over, especially since there will be no lasting effects.

congrats on her homecoming!!!

ilovemyfishies81

replied on October 20th, 2007

Supporter

i would just do a consultation that way a lawyer would have everything on file

monkeygirl22

replied on October 20th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I know your upset about everything that's happened to your little one but I agree with Bridget. They did what they had to do. Doctors don't know everything which is why it's called medical practice not medical science. I think that it would be better for your sanity to forgive everyone because that's where true happiness lies to me.

tululabell

replied on October 20th, 2007

Experienced User

well, i don't want to sue. i just think it was circumstances and it happened. dh doesn't even want to think about it right now. it is just a few people keep on bringing it up and it made me double think it so i wanted to ask other mothers so i could get an unbiased opinion. and the people bringing it up is dh's mom and aunts.... and they keep asking other nurses and Drs and they said he should have done an u/s, he should have known she was face up.... but an u/s that late wouldn't have made much of a difference right? ok, well i am glad to know i am not alone in thinking what is done is done and we did all we could.

Bridget

replied on October 20th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

what does the baby being face up have to do with it? would they have given you a c-section if they'd known?

plenty of babies are born that way. i did have an u/s the night before my induction and finn was face up, but they just made a note of it and prepared me for back labor, they didn't offer me an immediate c-section or anything.

monkeygirl22

replied on October 20th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Most doctors don't do late ultrasounds. I know mine doesn't.

Dannzibelle

replied on October 20th, 2007

Supporter

Mika was born face up with her left arm upwards next to her head, no one could have told me that, it just happens sometimes. Some deliveries are more straightforward than others. Some people can walk in give birth and then go home wehere as some people need c-sections etc

vanessalouanne

replied on October 20th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Id talk to one just to see if they could cover medical case but I agree with everyone else, labor is a dangerous and risky thing.

tululabell

replied on October 21st, 2007

Experienced User

i know Dr's can't always tell when babies are face up either (obviously!) and i had no signs of it, like no back labor, for them to think it besides her being stuck. i just think some people get mad at the situation (MIL) and want to blame someone. but with her being face up and the Dr not knowing ahead of time and using forceps he would have placed them slightly different because when a baby is face down with forceps they put them on the head and pull down to pull the baby out. then if the baby is face up and they pull down they are stretching the neck backwards. which is probably what happened with her. but it happened and it has been a month and she is coming home tomorrow! even though it will be very hard with all the extra stuff to do i am completely ecstatic Smile

Dannzibelle

replied on October 22nd, 2007

Supporter

I hope everything goes well for you at home and i look forward to pics when you're ready. I think your MIL needs to be thankfull that she's doing so much better and is on herr way home in honesty

tululabell

replied on October 22nd, 2007

Experienced User

thanks, i hope she does well at home too. i am sure she will. the Dr turned her oxygen down to barely anything yesterday, the lowest they can make it pretty much so that is great! and now we just need to get her to take a bottle more often. she is so lazy with it since she has never had to do it!

Marianne0558

replied on October 22nd, 2007

Supporter

It couldn't hurt to at least talk with a lawyer.
I think there was some negligence because your doctor should have checked what position the baby was in BEFORE using forceps. Forceps are dangerous anyway, so it is important to know everything you can. Not just assume the baby is facing down or whatever.

Marianne0558

replied on October 22nd, 2007

Supporter

I meant to add...
You can get a lawyer on a contingency-basis, meaning you don't have to pay them unless you collect.

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