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Q: I Am Depressed And I Cut...

asked by: adri17 on October 19th, 2007

New User

i m a sophomore now, but when i started 9th grade my friend and her twin sister were so close. 8th grade was great because it was like just the three of us. now since last year my friend had started doing pot mainly and some drinking and adhd type drugs. she became close with a new group of friends that i have been fairly close with too but havent really excepted me or what ever. i have basicly been alone most of freshman year and it sucked. i miss the days when i was able to just han gout with my friends. its not that i dont like to drink. but i am never invited anywhere anymore. so i get mad at myself and sometimes cut or think about suicide. i have talked to many councelours and therapist but not realllly about this. i dont mind drinking its not like i am peerpressured. but no one relaly seems to like meee anymore. i know its good that i dont drink as often as they do and look how much better i am.... and my grades are okay and what not. but even when they dont care about life and school they still get great grades and it isnt fair. its not fair that they can get both ways. i dont know what to do. all i want is friends that i dont have to compete with in soccer especially or school and that care about me and show it. i am so lonely and have been through so much of this clique stuff and i dont know if i can handle it anymore. i wish i could just go to boarding school... but i feel like it is the same everywhere. what will happen in l ife. it seems like i will be stuck in this situation for ever.

Replies(11)

Winged_shadow_girl

replied on October 20th, 2007

New User

Hi. I may not be of much help, but here goes nothing...

First, I would suggest you find new friends and fast. I know this doesn't sound easy, but just take some time to meet someone new. If there's anyone who sits alone at lunch or something, go sit with them and talk to them. I've been there, I truly know what you're feeling. And other than that, I have a quote that may help you. It's what truly helped me and still means the world to me this day. it says:

"As you get older, you'll gain a bit more control over everything. Don't let anyone, even your parents, break you. Find good people who care about you and surround yourself with just them. If you can't find them at first, find good music and fall into it; let it hold you until they come."

I truly hope everything gets better for you Smile

CarolDiane

replied on October 22nd, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Cutting Is Bad Enough But

Suicidal thoughts are not good. I had written a very straight forward post to you which was right to the point and very agrresive. Suicide and I do not get along well at all. I decided to delete the original post. Not that I don't fell that way, I just did not feel you were ready to hear what I had to say.
Let me ask you something? Why did you come to this forum. Is it a cry for help? Or is it just to see what answers you will get? If it is a cry for help, then you are in the right place.
But, there are certain criteria you should follow if you really want help. And that is to listen to the members here "Supports and Moderators" and other members that are able to help you through this.
First of all you have to be honest with your parents and your counslors. Of course you parents are going to show anger. That is normal and the first feeling to come out. They somehow feel responsible for you actions. Once anger is over, then the unconditional love shows through. The only way you are going to get better is to be honest and open with your problems. And I mean all of them. That means not just telling one and hiding another. It can't be fixed if it is not known. If you truly want to be helped you will not be stuck with situation forever.

Carrie

eOns of gREy

replied on November 5th, 2007

New User

MsSky I don't want to sound mean but not all parents get angry then show unconditional love. Some get angry then tell you they'll get a couenslor twice and never do. I'd suggest you just go tell a counselor at school or something if you need help.

I just don't want to because one ofthem hate sme.

CarolDiane

replied on November 5th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

You Don't Sound Mean At All

At most you are very right. But, you have to remember that it this person does indeed tell someone at school (counselor) by law of responsiblility they have to tell the parents anyway. You might want to read my post in this forum called "Statues of SI" in the sticky section.
It is my humble opinion that if a parents stays angry, that would not show unconditional love. If a parent loves their children, it should be without conditions period.

Carrie

eOns of gREy

replied on November 5th, 2007

New User

I think I misunderstood because it doesn't say you have to in there. It just says people WILL call your family and the services place.

CarolDiane

replied on November 5th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Let's put it this way. It is a moral obligation for the welfare of the child that the person (like a doctor or school emplyee) call the parents and children and family services. Cutting is considered a threat of suicide however you look at it. Consistant cutting can lead to deeper and more dangerous things if the person is that depressed.
And yes, if you read my first paragraph it does say exactly that. Like I said, it is a moral obligation for the person you have told. If you go to the doctor with a cold, and he see's all these bruses on you, you can bet he will call Childrean and family serivces to come and investagate.

Let me tell you a true story. My son was only 5 years old at the time. I had a fight with one of my neighbors a couple days before. All of a sudden a knock comes at my door and there stands a man in a suit from Children and Family services stating that someone called ans said they saw my child outside playing with bruses all over him. That man made me strip down my son to nothing. I way humilatated. I was a wonderful mother and still am. After he was down looking, he said "Well, I can see this was a false call. Have you had any fights with any of you friends or neighbors lately. Not remembering that I did. I said "Not that I know of". By then I was histerical in tears. I called my husband home from work right away. At that time I could have called and found out who it was, but then I remembered the fight, so I left it at that. I kew who called them! True story!

Carrie

eOns of gREy

replied on November 5th, 2007

New User

If it's the person you fought with, you shoulda gone back and kicked their @$$. And for the other thing, I guess I'm just retarded, or looked in the wrong topic.

CarolDiane

replied on November 5th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

LOL, your to funny. Believe me, I wanted to kick her backside. Because I knew it was her. She got mad at me, cause I yelled at her son to stop pushing my son off his tricycle. Can you beat that one. I wanted to ring her neck. But, now you can see why it is so important they proffesionals of any kind really have to report these things. Or the parents get away with it and you wind up with a dead child or injured for life. Physical abuse is with you for life anyway. Ya can't win for trying.

Carrie

19yearold

replied on January 8th, 2009

Experienced User

What are you thinking?

I use to cut every part of my body and one day I look in the mirror and was like why in the world am I doing this to myself. I knew I wasn't crazy and I had family who loved me. I was holding my sword ( I used a sword lol not a knife, cuts deeper, but don't get any ideas) and just looked at it. Oh I admired to look at it and feel it go though my flesh, but the thoughts still ran though me head of suicide. I started to cut my leg, and then all of sudden I stopped. And looked at myself again, and ask the same question. I got so mad that I was cutting and just threw my sword at the wall and was like I'm done with this sh&t I'm going to McDonalds to enjoy a nice big juicy burger! Why hurt myself, what good is that going to do. F&ck everyone. I don't care anymore. I'm going to live life the way I want it. I'm not going to be depressed anymore. I'm going to be happy. So that was the moment I stopped forever. after high school everything was different. Your be surprise. So please stop cutting its stupid and the only reason your doing it is for attention. okay. It comes down to that. BE STRONG. others have it worse then you.

loner

replied on July 2nd, 2009

New User

to say self harm is a form of getting attention is a bit harsh .. i am 35 i self harm since i was 17 no body knows i do it ..not even my partner , i do it for me to release pain ,, it makes me feel better as i am in pain and not anyone near to me is

kdlee

replied on July 7th, 2009

Supporter

Loner, my name is Kdlee, Would you please explain to me how self harm releases pain for you?

I should also let you know that I am working on a book re Cutters....

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