my husband had double by pass surgery a year ago - he has since accused me of not caring - makes horrific statements about when he was in the hospital i was not concerned - i was there every moment - slept in the room the night b/4 surgery and the night the next night - i do not know why he is being so ugly - and making these false accusations - the children see him as being short tempered - absolutely not himself at all - told me last night again - how i didn't care about him? we've been married for 20 years - i don't want to loose him - but - the ugliness is just getting worse - can anyone tell me what he's really going through so i can help him rather than hate him!