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NickP
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How Can I Stop This!?!?
Posted: 10-18-07 09:28am
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Im 15 my girlfriend is 16 and today she is
late on her period. She is convinced she
is pregnant, though im kind of doubtful.
She wants me to get her a pregnancy test
tomorrow if she still hasnt gotten it. But
what is making me upset is she says she
will get an abortion if she is!!! Is there
anything i can do that can stop her from
getting one????
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-18-07 09:37am
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Wow thats crazy that coming from a guys
perspective that you dont want her to have
one.
She needs to stop stressing over it since
that can give her a false positive.
If she does happen to be pregnant you can
sit her down and discuss everything you
feel and what she feels and include your
parents since you guys are minors. But
ultimately if she refuses to stay pregnant
you cant force her through a pregnancy if
she refuses to carry a child.
I mean theres always you taking full
parental concent of the child, but not if
she wont carry the baby.
But communication is key!
First find out if she is in fact pregnant!
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NickP
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Posted: 10-18-07 09:46am
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yeah we are very close we are sophomores
been together since 8th grade
But her perspective is she doesnt want her
life to be ruined so i told her i would
just take the baby when its born if she
doesnt want the baby that much. Im trying
to tell her that it isnt the baby's fault
and it shouldnt be murdered!
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Ingi
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Posted: 10-18-07 10:13am
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First things first. Test for pregnancy
then worry about what will be done.
All this hurt and worry may be completely
unnecessary!
Second, if the result is negative, GET
BIRTH CONTROL>. USE CONDOMS.
If you do not wish to become pregnant, as
neither of you do, always, always use
birth control.
As for what will happen if she is
pregnant... please worry about that only
after you know if she is pregnant.
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Jules
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Posted: 10-18-07 10:50am
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| jessamyn
wrote: |
She needs to stop stressing over it since
that can give her a false
positive. |
Um...how would that work then? 
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-18-07 12:35pm
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you can convince your body into pregnancy
symptoms and even create a false postive
its rare but does happen so i always
advise it
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dncn4lyfe77
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Posted: 10-29-07 22:01pm
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you cant convince your body to produce HgC
which is the hormone that is only produced
BY THE BABY which the test measures.
learn what the hell ur talkin about before
you open your mouth
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Tylanas
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Re: How Can I Stop This!?!?
Posted: 10-29-07 22:08pm
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| NickP
wrote: | | Im 15 my girlfriend is 16
and today she is late on her period. She
is convinced she is pregnant, though im
kind of doubtful. She wants me to get her
a pregnancy test tomorrow if she still
hasnt gotten it. But what is making me
upset is she says she will get an abortion
if she is!!! Is there anything i can do that can
stop her from getting
one???? |
No. You
have no right to control her body.
Period. It is her body and her choice. The
only thing you could to do stop her is to
tie her down physically, threaten her with
death, threaten to leave her, or be an all
around scum bag in some other way.
Your girlfriend has a smart head on her
shoulders, she knows she's not ready for a
child and she knows what to do about it.
She's smarter than you it seems, though
the fact that neither of you are using
birth control isn't exactly brilliant.
Before you worry about any of that, go buy
her the test and let her pee on it.
Afterwards I think you and she have some
serious discussing to do; if I were her, I
wouldn't stay with a boy who wanted to
control my body.
Get on birth control. She needs pills and
you need condoms, every single time. She
clearly doesn't want a child, so they only
way that YOU can prevent an abortion is to
prevent pregnancy.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-29-07 22:10pm
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| dncn4lyfe77
wrote: | you cant convince your body
to produce HgC which is the hormone that
is only produced BY THE BABY which the
test measures.
learn what the hell ur talkin about before
you open your
mouth |
Don't smart-mouth a moderator.
Actually, a woman can convince herself she
is pregnant, though I don't believe hCG
itself can be produced. However, the
woman's abdomen may swell, periods may
cease, and she may even begin to lactate.
Obviously after the nine month marker
passes (or sooner if she gets psychiatric
help) the symptoms cease when the woman
realises she isn't actually pregnant.
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falafal4ever81
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Posted: 10-29-07 23:16pm
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ok, Eiri is right, the mind is an amazing
thing. a pregnancy test however can
produce a false positive.
There could be various reasons for a false
positive test.
Chemical Pregnancy
A chemical pregnancy is basically an early
miscarriage. Research has shown that half
of all first pregnancies end in
miscarriage. Due to the high sensitivity
of home pregnancy tests, many women catch
early pregnancies but end up going on to
have their periods due to a chemical
pregnancy.
Missed Reaction Time
For accuracy in home pregnancy tests it is
essential that you read the test results
in the stipulated reaction time. If you
let the test sit for too long (after the
instructions on the box tell you), the
test is invalid. This may cause it to show
false positive results.
Chemical Interference
Drugs that have the pregnancy hormone
Human Chorionic Gonadotropin (hCG) in them
can cause incorrect results in home
pregnancy tests. The Human Chorionic
Gonadotropin (hCG) in them may be
responsible for the false positive
pregnancy test. If you have had an HCG
shot due to infertilty treatments, you
need to be sure the shot is out of your
system before you attempt to use early
pregnancy tests.
Evaporation Lines
While technically not a true pregnancy,
some pregnancy tests leave a faint
evaporation line as the urine crosses the
test. This faint very light grey
evaporation line in the test area is often
interpretted as a positive result.
no need to get angry dncn4lyfe77
anyhow, one thing i learned was education
is key in any situation. maybe she wouldnt
be so willing to dispose of her baby if
she knew that by now (depending on how far
along she is) there is a heartbeat or
movements. knowing what is really
happening can change peoples minds. also,
remind her that an abortion is something
that she can never take back, she will
have to live with that decision the rest
of her life.
also, it is her body, but as for the baby,
that is the fetus' body. it should have
rights too. we cant be sure as to where
conciousness begins (conception, with the
heartbeat, or later) but we do know babies
remember music that has been played to it
in the womb, so there IS an awarness,
therefore a soul. ever consider adoption?
so many people are desperate to have a
baby, she could make a lucky couples
dreams come true and do a service to them
that would mean more than any gift. i
myself, would be on cloud 9 if i had the
chance to adopt a baby girl. a baby is a
wonderful gift.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-29-07 23:22pm
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Blah blah. I suppose this isn't the
abortion support forum, it's teen
pregnancy. Whatever. This girl is clearly
smart, unbiased and not fooled by
propaganda. She doesn't need the boy that
she gave her body to willingly to start
spouting it at her too.
Again, just go get her a test.
The only way you as a male can prevent
abortion is by preventing pregnancy, so
NEVER skimp on birth control. If you don't
want your girlfriend to abort, then don't
get her pregnant. It's that simple. Is
protection 100%? No. But with pills,
condoms and spermicide, your chances are
astronomically low.
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16 father
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Posted: 10-30-07 19:08pm
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I also was worried that my girlfriend
would get an abortion (after possible
convincing from her mother). However
everything is fine. I suggest that you do
everything you can to convince her
otherwise.
you will have the satisfaction you did
everything you could to save your child's
life!
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16 father
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Posted: 10-30-07 19:26pm
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From a guy to another... fight for your
child's life! Don't even bother listening
to people like Eiri.
Fathers have every right to their children
as mothers do!
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Posted: 10-30-07 19:32pm
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Yes, but you can not stop her from getting
an abortion if she really wants one. And
you also can't make her get one.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-30-07 19:55pm
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| 16 father
wrote: | From a guy to another...
fight for your child's life! Don't even
bother listening to people like Eiri.
Fathers have every right to their children
as mothers
do! |
Yes, because forcing an under-aged woman
to go through a physically harmful
pregnancy and possibly lethal delivery is
like, so awesome and cool and like,
totally the best thing every kid in
high-school should do!
Listen little BOY, when you can
become pregnant and when your
body is feeding a fetus, when you face
the painful social issues of being a
little girl and pregnant, and when you go
through the pain of birth, then you can
decide what to do with your
body. No one else's.
I hope you are married to the mother of
your child. I hope you are working full
time to support that child. I hope you
stay with this girl your whole life. You
owe it to her because you forced her to
gestate against her will.
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Posted: 10-30-07 19:56pm
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But you can
1) tell her parents- in the hope they are
pro-life
2) tell her friends to help convince her
3) have her talk to someone that had an
abortion and regretted it
4) make her realize you won't stay with
her if she does
5) open her mind to adoption
There is plenty you can do.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-30-07 19:56pm
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| kaiteo
wrote: | | Yes, but you can not stop
her from getting an abortion if she really
wants one. And you also can't make her get
one. |
Exactly. It is the girl's decision. Her
body, her choice. Not some pimply-teened
boyfriend, most of whom abandon the girl
once taking care of the baby isn't "fun"
any more.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-30-07 20:03pm
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You can
Worse:
1) tell
her parents- in the hope they are
pro-life
(Yes, because controlling your gf's body
is awesome!)
2) tell
her friends to help convince her
(convince her of what? what if her friends
are pro-choice?)
3) have
her talk to someone that had an abortion
and regretted it
(yes, because only looking at one side of
the issue ALWAYS fixes everything)
4) make
her realize you won't stay with her if she
does
(because you're a close-minded little
child who doesn't actually value his
relationship, just the baby)
5) open
her mind to adoption
You can
Better:
1) tell her parents- in the hope they are
pro-choice
2) tell her friends to help convince her
to make her own choice
3) have her talk to someone that had an
abortion and was relieved
4) make her realize you will always
love her even if she does
5) open her mind to adoption
There is plenty you can do.
I'm pro-choice, so of course adoption is
an option. It's a great option for some
people, but it is not the ONLY option.
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Posted: 10-30-07 20:06pm
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| 16 father
wrote: | But you can
1) tell her parents- in the hope they are
pro-life
2) tell her friends to help convince her
3) have her talk to someone that had an
abortion and regretted it
4) make her realize you won't stay with
her if she does
5) open her mind to adoption
There is plenty you can
do. |
Wow. Wow. Wow. STOP talking.
What will her parents being pro-life have
to do with anything? Her parents can't
make you have an abortion. Nobody can.
You are obviously EXTREMELY uneducated.
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