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Q: Sex Doesn't Really Feel Too Great

asked by: Kittles on October 17th, 2007

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I am only 17, I know that could have some to do with it...and just recently about 2 months ago lost my virginity. And so far, I like the experience of sex and being with that person and sharing that, but..to me it really doesnt feel that great...I can feel the friction...but thats about it. I don't get much pleasure out of it. I have masturbated for several years with clitoral stimulation only..and even then the only thing that feels good is cumming which only last like 3 seconds....the rubbing doesnt really do anything for me...i jus get to a certain point and cum. Same with being fingered...it really doesnt feel that great..I feel the pressure..but its not really pleasurable...and i never even come close to cumming with that or normal penetration...Idk what to do..I dont think this is normal and was jus wondering what I could do....

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Georgia59

replied on October 22nd, 2007

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For me, if I'm not really into it and we haven't had much foreplay, and he inserts his penis, I'm not really amazed. I have to be wanting it before it does anything for me.

Play around and take the pressure off. You can find out ways to orgasm during regular intercourse through masturbation or finding ways to integrate clitoral stimulation.

And keep trying!!

Are you seeing a gyno?? Now that you're having sex, you need yearly check ups. They're fun.

goldenagestar

replied on October 24th, 2007

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I'm a virgin, and I just want to say I know EXACTLY what you mean.. even though I never experienced sex, I can say that when I do masterbate, I don't get any pleasure when doing certain things (fingering, rubbing, etc.) I get to a certain point where you get that 3 seconds of feel good (which is the best 3 seconds of my day) But yeah, other then that, nothing..

so when I do have sex, I can't imagine how it's going to feel good. Rolling Eyes

young Girl

replied on October 24th, 2007

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goldenagestar wrote:

because most orgasms dont last a long time1 they happen then thats it!

fiona05

replied on October 25th, 2007

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i sort of know what you mean about the masturbation thing. if you just rub then it will get you to orgasm in the end, but only orgasm feels good, the journey that got you there does not! i think it is probably just down to the wrong technique. i dont find fingers feel good either. at all! but you know it feels a whole lot better if you lubricate your fingers up really really well and circle and caress your clitoris very gently and slowly. that feels good. you know what else feels good? when you aim the shower head at your clitoric while you are showering or bathing. it's a cliched one but if you havent tried it, do!! vibrators feel great too. and oral sex. these are all things that make the journey to orgasm fantastic. so don't give up Smile

just start trying different things and different techniques.

AmandaRae123

replied on October 25th, 2007

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i sort of know what you mean about the masturbation thing. if you just rub then it will get you to orgasm in the end, but only orgasm feels good, the journey that got you there does not!

rubbing it feels really good. that's my favorite part

Tylanas

replied on October 25th, 2007

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I love the intense tingling that leads up to orgasm; I'll try to make that last as long as possible by getting close, then moving my fingers away a little and indirectly stimulate until I'm almost not touching my pubic area at all and I just go over by pure feeling alone.

Anichole

replied on October 25th, 2007

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I know how you feel! For me, it's come to the point where I rarely even get wet unless there's a lot of foreplay and I'm really anticipating it! I'm also a hard person to please, it feels good to me for the duration, but I hardly ever have an orgasm and when it's over, I'm usually wanting more. It's normal, it's just about your body and what your body prefers.

Sunshine333

replied on October 26th, 2007

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Hi Kittles.
I know what you mean. I have been having sex for only about a year now and the first many times I had intercourse with my bf I felt NOTHING. It felt good.... but no real orgasm. I thought I may be having tiny ones, but really I wasn't. I could masturbate by using my fingers to stroke (best feeling ever) and rubbing my clitoris really fast and have an intense orgasm, but never during sex. Finally though after a while of having sex I had an orgasm and WOW... it was amazing and now can't get enough Wink

You and your partner need to just figure out what it is that makes each other feel good...even though it might take a while since you just starting having sex... and yes lots of foreplay definitely helps!

AmandaRae123

replied on October 27th, 2007

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how can you feel nothing and have it feel good at the same time?

also, generally when you have sex you don't feel anything until you have an orgasm??

tashajohnson

replied on October 27th, 2007

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It was the same for me until I got a new man

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